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- What does it feel
like to be thirsty,
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real thirsty?
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Like walking across a
desert for a month thirsty?
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Imagine yourself in the last row
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of a four hour flight,
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and the drink cart
is stuck in first class,
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or you're running mile 15 of 26,
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your mouth dry, your
body craving relief,
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and the next water
station is nowhere in sight.
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Maybe you're stuck
in summer traffic,
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the AC is broken and
the humidity is 100%,
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your exit is 30 minutes away.
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Feel the dryness in your throat,
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the discomfort as
your tongue swells.
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Out of nowhere, a glass appears
and fills with cool water.
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Take a drink.
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Feel the desperation
leave your body
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as your thirst is relieved.
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Jesus once had an
encounter with a woman
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who was trying to get
a drink. He said to her:
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Jesus uses the physical
reality of being thirsty
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to show the
profound spiritual truth
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that the soul of every
human is dry and barren,
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and He is our
relief from drought.
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The woman replied
to Jesus, "Sir,
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give me this water so
that I won't get thirsty."
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Where are you experiencing
drought in your life?
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Where is the ground
so dry and cracked
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that nothing can grow?
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Invite Jesus into that place.
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Give Him permission to be
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the spring of
water in your life.
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Be as bold as the
woman at the well and say,
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"Jesus, give me the
water you promised
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so that I won't
get thirsty again."
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- It's a powerful image
to think about that, right?
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What if you were
to walk up to Jesus?
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What do you think he would do?
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Would He be excited to see you?
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Would He welcome you in?
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Would He want to talk
about parts of your life?
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Maybe you're in here today
and you heard that song
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and thought,
"Man, if I showed up
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at the feet of Jesus, He
would ask me to leave.
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That's what I'm pretty sure."
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Well, I have good
news for you today,
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that's actually
not what happens.
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We're going to examine
a story in the Bible.
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A woman who thought
that's what would happen
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if God ever found her,
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if He ever read her report card,
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surely He would reject her.
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That's not what He did.
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He did something
far, far better.
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He gave her life.
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Our hope today is that
that's what happens for you.
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No matter who you
are, what you believe
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walking in here today, we're
pumped that you're here.
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By the way, my name is Kyle.
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I'm the lead pastor
here at Crossroads.
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We're just so glad
that you're with us.
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If you would just take
a moment, turn around,
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say hi to someone around
you. Glad you're here.
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- Hey, welcome back
to another weekly service
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here at Crossroads. I'm Robbie.
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- And I'm Avery.
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- And we're worship
leaders here at Crossroads.
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Crossroads is one
church with many locations
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meeting physically and
digitally all over the world,
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and we believe that
you can fully belong
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to our church even
if you're not located
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near one of our
physical church buildings,
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say, Bismarck.
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- Just a couple
weeks ago, 150 of you
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joined us in Cincinnati,
Ohio, for worship,
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teaching, and
community with people
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literally all around the globe.
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Robbie and I got
to be a part of it
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on Friday night as
we worshiped with you.
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And our hope is
that you went home
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feeling refreshed and more
connected to your church.
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- If you're new to
Crossroads Anywhere,
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we'd love to meet
you and help you
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get connected to this community.
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You can simply text
Anywhere to 301301,
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and we're going to send you
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some cool free
t-shirts and stuff
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and help you understand
what it looks like
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to belong to our church,
regardless of where you live.
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- One of our best
tools for engaging
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with our church anywhere
you are is our Crossroads app.
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The app is designed to
help you grow with Jesus.
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You can use it to watch
our weekly services,
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connect with God
daily through Scripture,
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pray for others in our
church community,
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and so much more.
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- One way to grow
is through giving.
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Each week we
worship through music,
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but we also believe
that generosity
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and trusting God with your money
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is in itself an act of
worship, of saying to God,
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"I love You and I trust
You with everything."
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If you've been
impacted by this place
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or consider Crossroads
your local church,
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you can give in the app
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or go to crossroads.net/give.
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- If you're new to
this experience,
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we are about to hear from one of
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our teaching pastors in
our current series, Thirsty.
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And if you usually
have little kids around
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when you're
watching or listening,
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we want to warn you
that some mature topics
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will be the focal point
of the teaching this week.
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- Parents, please
use your discretion
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on if this is the right content
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for your whole
family to receive.
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But know we've made
amazing digital content
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specifically for kids
aged ten and under.
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You can find it in our
app or simply search
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Crossroads Kids'
Club on YouTube.
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And all of our content
for middle schoolers
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and high schoolers can be
found at crossroads.net/watch.
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- Right now we're
going to hear from
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our lead pastor Kyle
Ranson. Thanks for joining us.
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- So refreshing.
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Nothing is more satisfying
than natural pure water
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flowing from nature's bosom.
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When you reach for a
drink to quench your thirst,
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make sure it is water.
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[FX explosion]
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Don't drink from
some dysentery ridden
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raccoon swimming pool.
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- Nature sucks.
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- You need a drink that
says, "I'm here to party
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and I might have just
swallowed a cicada.
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- Cicada.
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- Something that'll
swell your tongue
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and make your
insides glow in the dark.
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- Radiation. - Nature.
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- Cicada. - Radiation.
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You need Thirsty. - Thirsty.
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- A drink designed by scientists
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at a lab in the basement
of your mom's house.
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It's full of all kinds of
things you can't spell:
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So the next time
you got a thirst,
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grab the drink that will do
absolutely nothing for you.
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- Thirsty.
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- It comes in six flavors
that aren't real flavors.
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- Six flavors.
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- Thirsty.
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-The drink that will
leave you wanting more.
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[FX explosion]
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- Ridiculous. It's also
true, though, right?
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That's energy drinks.
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We're recognizing this
series, Thirsty, by the way,
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00:10:00
that more and more
things are promising
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00:10:03
to quench our thirst.
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00:10:04
Energy drinks chief among them.
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00:10:06
I drink Celsius. Anybody
else a Celsius fan?
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00:10:09
Love Celsius. So great.
-
00:10:10
It makes some
bold claims, though.
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00:10:12
I don't know if
you've read it lately.
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00:10:14
It says it accelerates
metabolism, asterisk;
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00:10:17
burns body fat, asterisk.
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00:10:19
Literally right
before this service
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00:10:21
I read with the asteroid goes to
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00:10:22
and it says it
does burn body fat
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if combined with a
healthy diet and exercise.
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00:10:27
So just being honest
about that right there.
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00:10:32
That's what it is, right?
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00:10:34
All these things
claim to benefit us,
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00:10:36
claim to help us.
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00:10:37
Me, I just kind of like water.
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00:10:39
I'm kind of a water guy.
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00:10:40
It's definitely changed,
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00:10:41
I don't know if
you've noticed this.
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00:10:43
It's changed over
the last few decades.
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00:10:45
It's like summer sports
conditioning season.
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00:10:47
You've got football
teams out there,
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00:10:49
soccer teams running
laps, all that kind of stuff.
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00:10:51
When I was a kid, we,
at summer conditioning
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00:10:55
tried to not drink water.
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00:10:57
The idea was if
you drank too much,
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00:11:00
you'd become dependent on it.
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00:11:01
You know what I mean?
It'd like make you weak.
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00:11:03
And so you try not to.
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00:11:04
You'd run for three hours,
you go over to the sidelines,
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00:11:06
you take a little,
little drink of water,
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00:11:08
you'd spit it out, just
get it out of your water.
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00:11:10
Now, kids drink so much water.
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00:11:15
This is my son's
actual water bottle.
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00:11:20
This would be enough
water for a family of 4 in 1995.
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00:11:25
Okay? I can't emphasize enough
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00:11:28
how much this has changed.
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00:11:29
Water is everywhere.
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It makes sense.
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It turns out that
it's pretty important,
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which makes kind of
modern times and the Bible
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actually agree on something.
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00:11:40
The Bible in the very
beginning talks about water.
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In fact, in the very
first scene in the Bible,
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inside the first two verses,
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the thing that's
mentioned is water.
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It says this in Genesis 1:1-2:
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Thousands of years later,
science would catch up
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and discover that it turns
out water is the key to life.
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Literally, if you
want to look for life
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00:12:16
on other planets, the
thing you look for is water.
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It's the source.
It's the beginning.
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It's the key.
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Water has two
ingredients, by the way.
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It has hydrogen, two of
those and then oxygen.
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You need both of
them to make water.
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And we need it in order to live.
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Now, you and I, in a
metaphorical sense,
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we spend our lives
looking for water,
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00:12:37
for the thing that will
satisfy and quench our thirst,
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00:12:40
our thirst for validation,
our thirst for purpose,
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our thirst for belonging.
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00:12:45
We look and we look and we look.
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00:12:47
But see, we humans, we
have this problem, don't we?
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It's that even
though we're thirsty,
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we go looking for a drink.
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And oftentimes what we find
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is not the thing
that refreshes us,
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but it ends up
being something like
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a broken cistern rather
than life giving water
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or well that we
were looking for.
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00:13:04
There's these
moments in the Bible
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00:13:05
where God kind of pulls
back and He goes like,
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00:13:07
"Let me just give you
a summary statement
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00:13:09
of what's happening just
so you guys can understand,
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just in case you're
missing the big picture,
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I'm going to give
you the big picture."
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One of those places
is in Jeremiah 2:13
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where God says this. He goes:
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God says, "Look,
I'm the living water.
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I can satisfy every
need that you have.
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But you, you guys keep
drinking from broken cisterns."
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Which sets up this
fork in the road for us
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and this fundamental truth.
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00:13:44
See, some things
in life give us life,
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and some take our life.
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00:13:50
And oftentimes they
actually present themselves
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00:13:52
in the exact same way,
it can be difficult to tell.
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00:13:55
I've been watching
the Olympics a lot lately.
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00:13:57
Love the Olympics, love
the changes this year.
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00:13:59
Lots of great changes.
-
00:14:01
We got breakdancing
in the Olympics now,
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00:14:03
did you notice
that? Pretty cool.
-
00:14:05
Three on three basketball.
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00:14:07
I thought that was only
played in driveways.
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00:14:08
That's awesome. Love it.
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00:14:10
I'm looking forward to
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00:14:11
cornhole probably
at the next one.
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00:14:12
I don't know what
else we're going to do.
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00:14:14
Tetherball. Something cool.
-
00:14:15
But my favorite part
of the Olympics though
-
00:14:17
are the commercials,
specifically for Michelob Ultra.
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00:14:20
Man, I love them, so great.
-
00:14:22
Every commercial is the same.
-
00:14:24
It's this group of, like,
wildly attractive people
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working out, you know,
running a marathon,
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00:14:29
doing CrossFit
stuff or whatever.
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00:14:31
And when they get done,
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00:14:32
they're just
glistening in sweat.
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00:14:33
I don't look that way
when I'm done, by the way.
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00:14:35
It looks very different.
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00:14:36
They're glistening
and they run in
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and they sit down and
they do the only smart thing
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00:14:40
to recover from their exercise,
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00:14:42
they get a Mich Ultra, [FX].
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00:14:45
The Gatorade of
beers and drink it down.
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00:14:48
And I think this is
what I should do.
-
00:14:50
But do you know that
beer, even Mich Ultra
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doesn't hydrate you at all.
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00:14:55
It's really dumb to
drink it after a workout.
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00:14:58
It dehydrates you.
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00:14:59
See, the tricky part with
these broken cisterns
-
00:15:01
is that they often
show up in our lives
-
00:15:03
and, like, "Hey, you know
what? I'm good for you.
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00:15:05
I'm awesome for you.
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00:15:06
You're not hurting
anybody by engaging in this.
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00:15:08
It's all -- it's all good."
-
00:15:11
Now, Jesus early in His
ministry, He was thirsty.
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He actually got thirsty,
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00:15:17
and there was no Mich
Ultra anywhere to find.
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00:15:19
So He went to a
well, a public well.
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But He didn't have what
you needed at a public well.
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You needed like
this rope and a bucket
-
00:15:26
to drop it all the way down
-
00:15:28
and to get the water out.
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00:15:29
And so He sat by
the well just waiting.
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00:15:32
And this is the
scene that played out.
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John 4:6 says:
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At that moment the
woman's got to be like,
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00:16:14
"What? Excuse me?
You know, what are you --
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00:16:16
What are you talking
about, crazy guy?"
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00:16:17
She says this:
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She's mocking Him.
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00:16:29
"He gave us the well and
he drank from it himself,
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as did his sons
and his livestock."
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00:16:33
Jesus said to her, "Everyone
who drinks this water
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will be thirsty again.
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00:16:39
Whoever drinks the
water that I give him
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will never be thirsty again.
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The water that I give
him will become in him
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a spring of water
welling up to eternal life."
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00:16:50
Jesus in this moment, He uses
the language from Jeremiah.
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He goes back and he
goes, "You know what,
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that living water that
God says that you've left,
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that He is, that's me.
I'm the living water.
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00:17:01
And you can have it."
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00:17:02
He's offering this gift,
incredible gift of grace.
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00:17:06
Now, the woman's
response we don't know.
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00:17:08
The Bible doesn't have emojis.
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00:17:10
And I wish that it did, right?
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00:17:12
Because then I feel
like I would know
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00:17:13
what people were saying
rather than just the language.
-
00:17:15
I'm going to give you two
options for her response next.
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00:17:18
The first is the
non-sarcastic option.
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00:17:20
Maybe she was genuinely
like, "Okay, awesome,
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I'll take it." And it
would sound like this.
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00:17:31
No, I don't think that's
what she actually said.
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00:17:33
I think it was more like
the sarcastic version,
-
00:17:35
which would be like this
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00:17:36
with the eyeroll
emoji at the end.
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00:17:44
Yeah. Friggin'
right. Eye roll emoji.
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00:17:48
I think that's her
attitude in this moment.
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00:17:51
You know? This this
crazy guy shows up,
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00:17:53
makes you this crazy
offer and he's nice enough.
-
00:17:55
But clearly he's like
got a screw loose
-
00:17:58
or something up in there. Right?
-
00:17:59
And so this is
what happens next,
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00:18:01
not what she expects.
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Because Jesus
suddenly, this crazy guy,
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00:18:05
this nice guy,
offered living water,
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00:18:07
all of a sudden he completely
changes gears on her,
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00:18:10
and he starts telling
her about her own life
-
00:18:13
and pointing out her
own broken cisterns.
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00:18:32
Now I want you to pay
really close attention here,
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00:18:34
because this kind of a response
-
00:18:36
is almost like
unfathomable. You know?
-
00:18:38
Just imagine meeting a
stranger who tells this to you.
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00:18:41
And it can read very harsh.
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00:18:43
It can read condemning.
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00:18:44
But I want you to notice
Jesus doesn't condemn her.
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00:18:47
He doesn't shame her.
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00:18:48
In fact, He doesn't
use a single adjective
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00:18:52
attached to any fact.
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00:18:54
He just plays back
the truth of her life
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00:18:58
and it changes
everything. Everything.
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00:19:02
She starts asking Him questions,
different types of questions.
-
00:19:05
All of a sudden it's not
the sarcastic responses.
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00:19:07
She starts asking Him
spiritual level questions
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00:19:11
to figure out who is this guy.
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00:19:15
This is her response. She says:
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00:19:27
Now this moment, this
is critical to understand.
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00:19:29
This moment is the
first time Jesus ever tells
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00:19:32
anyone that He's
the Messiah, ever.
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00:19:35
And it's to a woman
from an enemy nation,
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00:19:39
people group He wasn't
supposed to associate with.
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00:19:42
That's who he tells
that He's the Messiah to.
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00:19:44
And she and she runs off.
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00:19:45
See, living water
fundamentally changed her.
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00:19:47
That wasn't what she's
expecting from her day,
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00:19:49
but it changed her.
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00:19:50
Just like water
has two ingredients:
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00:19:52
hydrogen and oxygen,
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00:19:53
living water has
two ingredients:
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00:19:55
Grace, I have something
to offer you, and truth.
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00:19:58
But you got to
look in the mirror,
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00:20:00
I got to show you what's
going on in your life.
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00:20:02
Both of them at
the same exact time.
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00:20:03
And that's critical
for me to understand
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00:20:05
right up front from
the go of this service.
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00:20:07
Because in this series
and today you will hear truth.
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00:20:12
You will have to walk up
to the truth of your own life.
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00:20:15
But I don't want you
to hear condemnation
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00:20:17
or judgment or shame,
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00:20:19
because there's grace
on the other side of it,
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00:20:22
if you're willing to hang in.
-
00:20:23
See, there's broken
cisterns in our lives,
-
00:20:25
and some of us,
-
00:20:26
we've been drinking
from them for so long,
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00:20:27
we don't think there's
actually any other option.
-
00:20:30
Others of us, we've
been drinking from them
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00:20:32
for so long, we don't
even realize the poison
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00:20:35
that we're taking in
or what it's doing to us.
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00:20:38
This series, though,
is designed to give you
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00:20:40
freedom and something better,
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00:20:43
the living water
that leads to life.
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00:20:46
You might not have five
husbands like she had,
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00:20:49
but you've got a broken
cistern, I know you do.
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00:20:51
And today we're going
to start off with one
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00:20:54
that is, I think, very
broken for many people.
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00:20:57
It's the broken cistern of sex.
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00:21:00
Some of you are
like, "Oh, thirsty.
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00:21:01
You didn't know what you
were doing with that title.
-
00:21:04
Okay, cool. Yeah. Got it."
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00:21:05
Yeah, we did.
Starting off with sex,
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00:21:07
and specifically inside of sex,
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00:21:09
what I believe is the
number one fastest growing
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00:21:11
broken system in the world
right now, pornography.
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00:21:15
And if you hear that word,
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00:21:16
I know there's somebody in here.
-
00:21:17
You hear me say
that, and you're like,
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00:21:19
"Oh, it's time to go.
-
00:21:20
I did not actually want
to be at church today."
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00:21:23
And somebody else
you're watching online,
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00:21:24
you're like, click,
"I'm out of the video."
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00:21:26
My encouragement
is stay, is stay.
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00:21:30
You can be free and
there is something better.
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00:21:34
And for others of you,
you might be in here
-
00:21:36
and you're like, 'That's not
something I struggle with."
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00:21:38
Well, I promise the
closest people in your life,
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00:21:40
they probably do.
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00:21:41
And so today we'll equip
you to help them find freedom.
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00:21:44
And that's what we're after.
-
00:21:45
We're after freedom
and life today for all of us.
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00:21:48
Let's pray before
we go any further.
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00:21:49
God, thank You so
much for the truth
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00:21:51
of Your Scripture,
and thank You so much
-
00:21:53
for the grace that's offered.
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00:21:55
And I ask today that my
words would be living water,
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00:21:58
Your living water for people,
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00:21:59
that we would all
hear and receive You
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00:22:02
and take a step
into that freedom
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00:22:04
that You have for us. Amen.
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00:22:06
Now, today is about sex, but
I have to give you a warning.
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00:22:11
When I talk about sex,
it doesn't always go well.
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00:22:15
Okay? There's a
number of years ago,
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00:22:17
we were in the van driving,
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00:22:19
and the question came
from the back seat.
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00:22:21
You know the question
how are babies made?
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00:22:26
All the kids are in the car.
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00:22:27
Me and Sarah were in the car.
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00:22:28
And this moment happens,
and I immediately hear
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00:22:31
the voice of my mentor,
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00:22:32
our senior pastor
Brian Tome click in.
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00:22:35
And Brian has done an
amazing job of helping me
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00:22:37
as a dad, as a parent.
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00:22:38
And one of the things
he had told me was,
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00:22:40
"Hey, when it comes
to sex and kids,
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00:22:42
you want to be first
to market. Okay?
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00:22:44
So the moment
they ask a question,
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00:22:47
the moment they
show any interest,
-
00:22:48
you just got to jump in
and give it all to them.
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00:22:51
Don't hold back.
-
00:22:52
Just tell them all
the stuff, right?"
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00:22:54
I was like, okay.
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00:22:55
So the moment
comes and Sarah and I,
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00:22:57
we talked about this, right?
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00:22:58
And so the question
comes to the back seat
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00:23:00
how are babies made?
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00:23:01
I'm driving. She's next to me.
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00:23:02
I look over to
her and I'm like, '
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00:23:03
"All right, we're
in this together."
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00:23:05
You know, I do this, and
she leaves me hanging.
-
00:23:07
She's like, "I am out."
-
00:23:09
Literally, she goes,
"You're on your own."
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00:23:11
And then looks out the window.
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00:23:14
Okay, cool. Well, I'm a
professional communicator,
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00:23:17
you know how bad
can this be, right?
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00:23:19
That's what I figure in my mind.
-
00:23:20
And so I start
talking and I tell them,
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00:23:22
you know, all the facts
-
00:23:23
and how all the bits
and the pieces work
-
00:23:25
and all this stuff, you know,
-
00:23:26
and I get to the
end of it and I say,
-
00:23:28
"Do you have any questions?"
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00:23:30
And they go, no. Oh, okay.
Awesome. Great. Yeah.
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00:23:33
Turn back on the
music, driving the van,
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00:23:35
go home, put them
to bed, whatever.
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00:23:36
Next morning I wake
up, have my coffee.
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00:23:40
Just sitting there waiting for
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00:23:41
my dad of the year
trophy to arrive in the mail
-
00:23:43
because of how
good I did at this, right?
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00:23:45
Just thrilled with myself.
-
00:23:47
And my daughter, my
precious baby daughter,
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00:23:50
she comes walking
down the stairs.
-
00:23:51
And she walks up to me
and she says, "Daddy?"
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00:23:54
I said, "Yeah, baby girl."
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00:23:55
She goes, "I do not
want to get married."
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00:24:01
I said, "Why don't you want
to get married, baby girl?"
-
00:24:04
She goes, "I do not want
someone to pee-pee in my butt."
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00:24:09
And that's the moment I realized
-
00:24:12
it probably didn't go
as well as I thought.
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00:24:16
So anyway, if you want your kids
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00:24:18
to be confused about
sex, I'm available.
-
00:24:21
You can call me up.
I'll walk them through it.
-
00:24:23
You know, get most
of the way there.
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00:24:26
It's gonna be fine.
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00:24:27
Very confused about that.
-
00:24:29
We had some work
to do afterwards.
-
00:24:31
Now, when it comes
to this topic of sex
-
00:24:33
and pornography, I think
the world is confused.
-
00:24:36
We're actually very confused.
-
00:24:37
I mean, I mean, what is it?
-
00:24:39
Is it even -- Is it even bad?
-
00:24:41
I think that's a question
-
00:24:42
that's increasingly
common, by the way.
-
00:24:45
What do we do with this?
-
00:24:46
I mean, is it something --
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00:24:48
I think we can all
agree that an addiction
-
00:24:50
to pornography, that's
probably not good,
-
00:24:52
that's probably not healthy.
-
00:24:53
But what about
something less than that?
-
00:24:55
I mean, is it like alcohol where
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00:24:57
and used in
moderation, there's a safe
-
00:25:00
and healthy place for it?
-
00:25:01
Or is it like heroin
where you go, "No,
-
00:25:02
there's no moderate use
of that. That's not okay."
-
00:25:04
Does it help a marriage?
-
00:25:06
Does it take pressure
off of a spouse
-
00:25:09
to have sex maybe more
often than they want?
-
00:25:11
Or does it damage a marriage?
-
00:25:13
Does it hurt no
one except for me,
-
00:25:15
or does it hurt
everyone around me?
-
00:25:17
There are real
questions with this.
-
00:25:19
This poll is going
back a few years,
-
00:25:21
but I think it
puts it pretty well.
-
00:25:22
This is from Gallup in 2018.
-
00:25:24
It says more than 4 in 10
Americans, that's 43%,
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00:25:28
now say pornography
is morally acceptable,
-
00:25:31
a 7% increase from last year.
-
00:25:35
What does that mean?
-
00:25:37
Well, it means if you're in here
-
00:25:38
and you hear me say
the word pornography
-
00:25:40
or porn and you're
like, "Is that even bad?"
-
00:25:42
I just want you to
know, that's okay,
-
00:25:44
that that puts you kind of
-
00:25:46
in like half the
country right now.
-
00:25:47
We're not really sure
what to think about it.
-
00:25:49
And you're welcome here
-
00:25:51
and you're welcome
to ask questions.
-
00:25:53
And in this place,
it's a church,
-
00:25:54
so hopefully
you're not surprised,
-
00:25:56
I will tell you what I
think the Bible says
-
00:25:58
and what God says about it.
-
00:25:59
But I actually don't
want to start there
-
00:26:01
to answer this
question of what is it
-
00:26:03
and is it good for us?
-
00:26:05
What's going on with porn?
-
00:26:06
Instead I just want
to look at some stats.
-
00:26:08
Now you can do this on your own.
-
00:26:10
You can look at
stats if you'd like to.
-
00:26:12
They're everywhere, by the way.
-
00:26:13
When you Google this Google
porn stats, not just porn,
-
00:26:17
that will take you
to different stuff
-
00:26:18
you don't want.
So pornography stats.
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00:26:21
Here are some I
collected for us.
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00:26:22
Do you know that 50%
of 11-13 year olds
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00:26:24
report having seen porn, 50%.
-
00:26:27
If you're in here
and you're a parent,
-
00:26:29
chances are your child has
seen pornography already.
-
00:26:34
57% of men ages 30-49 have
watched porn in the last month.
-
00:26:38
78% said they watch
porn on some regular basis.
-
00:26:41
Porn sites have more
visitors every single month
-
00:26:44
than Netflix, Amazon
and Twitter combined.
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00:26:48
This used to be
something, by the way,
-
00:26:50
that was more of a
male dominated issue,
-
00:26:52
but unfortunately, now
it's becoming something
-
00:26:54
that's more of an equal
opportunity offender.
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00:26:56
According to Pornhubs'
last stats that they released,
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00:26:58
which they stopped doing this
after their 2019 annual report,
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00:27:02
32% of hits to their
site were from women.
-
00:27:08
That's crazy to me.
-
00:27:09
35% of males are
compulsive users.
-
00:27:11
78% of 16 and 17 year olds
have reported seeing porn.
-
00:27:15
17% of women now report being
compulsive users of pornography.
-
00:27:19
It is everywhere. And
what does that mean?
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00:27:23
Well, it means that
it's normal, actually,
-
00:27:25
is what it means. It's normal.
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00:27:27
Which I think is part
of what contributes
-
00:27:29
to this confusion
of maybe it's okay
-
00:27:32
because if
everybody is doing it,
-
00:27:34
it can't possibly
be bad, can it?
-
00:27:37
Well, it doesn't take a
long look at history books
-
00:27:39
to figure out that
that doesn't actually
-
00:27:41
lead to good outcomes,
that kind of logic.
-
00:27:44
Well, everybody
else is doing it.
-
00:27:45
How bad can it be?
-
00:27:48
But this is how we
feel about it. Right?
-
00:27:50
See, normal doesn't equal good.
-
00:27:53
Do you know that it's normal
-
00:27:55
for a one year old
to poop their pants?
-
00:27:58
That's normal.
-
00:27:59
But none of us would ever say
-
00:28:01
because it's so
normal, even natural,
-
00:28:04
let's just all poop our pants.
-
00:28:05
No, we would
say there's actually
-
00:28:07
a better way to
live that we want
-
00:28:08
to work towards and aspire to.
-
00:28:11
And so when it
comes to pornography,
-
00:28:12
we can't stop at is it
normal? Is it acceptable?
-
00:28:16
Do a lot of people do it?
-
00:28:17
Am I in the majority if
I'm a user of pornography?
-
00:28:19
We can't stop there.
-
00:28:20
Instead, we have to say what
are the affects of pornography?
-
00:28:24
Is it living water or
is it a broken cistern?
-
00:28:29
And again, before
we get to the Bible,
-
00:28:31
there is some stats on
this too that we can look at.
-
00:28:34
Marriages.
-
00:28:35
What's the effect of
pornography on marriages?
-
00:28:37
Well, if you are a
regular porn user,
-
00:28:40
your marriage has a
300% more likelihood
-
00:28:44
to have an affair inside of it.
-
00:28:47
In fact, if you look
at divorce cases
-
00:28:48
and divorce filings, you'll
find that 56% of them
-
00:28:51
have a spouse who is obsessively
interested in pornography.
-
00:28:58
What does it do to your attitude
towards women in particular?
-
00:29:01
Well, not good things.
-
00:29:03
There was a journal that
looked at pornography,
-
00:29:05
pornography scenes
to look for violence,
-
00:29:07
and they found that 88.2%
of pornography scenes
-
00:29:12
feature violence against women.
-
00:29:15
You know that porn
has been proven
-
00:29:17
to rewire your
brain and your heart
-
00:29:19
for what is and
is not acceptable.
-
00:29:20
Scenes like that, they
don't just sit in your brain,
-
00:29:22
they actually change
what you think is okay.
-
00:29:26
See, it's all about power,
it's all about control,
-
00:29:29
and it's all about violence.
-
00:29:31
There are 46 published
research studies that
-
00:29:34
have demonstrated that
exposure to pornography
-
00:29:36
makes you much more likely
to commit a sexual crime.
-
00:29:38
The latest data from Barna,
-
00:29:40
a national research
institute, says that
-
00:29:41
daily porn users
are twice as likely
-
00:29:43
to feel anxious and overwhelmed,
-
00:29:44
three times more likely to feel
-
00:29:46
that life is not worth living.
-
00:29:47
And even if you zoomed
away from the affects
-
00:29:49
on the rest of your life,
-
00:29:50
how it might destroy
your marriage, isolate you,
-
00:29:53
how it might make you
anxious and depressed.
-
00:29:55
If you just zoomed
in to what's the affect
-
00:29:57
it has on your sex life?
-
00:29:58
What does it do to you sexually?
-
00:30:00
You'd also find its
effects are devastating.
-
00:30:04
Absolutely devastating.
-
00:30:05
It used to be when they made
erectile dysfunction drugs,
-
00:30:08
they were for
older, older people
-
00:30:10
who were having
issues with their body.
-
00:30:12
Now, the growing
audience for E.D. pills
-
00:30:15
is 16-21 year olds.
-
00:30:18
Do you know that
45% of 16-21 year olds
-
00:30:21
have trouble
performing sexually.
-
00:30:24
Do you know that number
was 2% 20 years ago?
-
00:30:27
See, this is a growing
pandemic in our country
-
00:30:32
and it's time to talk about it.
-
00:30:34
So if you walked into
church and you went,
-
00:30:36
"This isn't really
what I wanted today."
-
00:30:37
Well, this is what
people are dealing with
-
00:30:39
and this is therefore
what we have to talk about
-
00:30:41
because there's a better way.
-
00:30:42
It's a broken cistern.
-
00:30:44
Porn is utterly
a broken cistern.
-
00:30:47
Before we get to the
Bible, the data says it.
-
00:30:49
It's conclusive.
-
00:30:51
So the question is, well,
why does anybody use porn?
-
00:30:53
I mean, these these
stats aren't hidden.
-
00:30:55
You can find them and
you can find so many more.
-
00:30:57
They're everywhere
on the internet.
-
00:30:58
It's actually being
talked about.
-
00:31:00
And so why in the world
would anybody ever use porn?
-
00:31:04
Well, it's because
porn makes a promise.
-
00:31:05
And the promise of porn is that
-
00:31:07
it will satisfy your thirst,
-
00:31:09
just like the best energy drink.
-
00:31:12
It's got all kinds of claims.
-
00:31:15
I've read this in
a book by a man
-
00:31:17
named Michael Kuchek
called Surfing for God.
-
00:31:20
He listed the
counterfeit promises.
-
00:31:21
If you were to
look at the the can,
-
00:31:23
the energy drink of
porn, and you were to find
-
00:31:25
the promises, he says, this
is what would be on them.
-
00:31:28
Validation without
requiring strength,
-
00:31:31
fulfillment without
relationship,
-
00:31:33
intimacy without
risk and suffering,
-
00:31:36
and power without
responsibility and humility.
-
00:31:40
See those things,
validation, fulfillment,
-
00:31:43
intimacy, even
the sense of having
-
00:31:45
some agency and some power,
-
00:31:46
those actually are deeply
felt heart needs in you
-
00:31:51
and God does want
you to fulfill them.
-
00:31:53
Absolutely, 100%.
-
00:31:55
But the means by which
God wants you to fill them
-
00:31:57
are so that the
character building traits
-
00:31:59
on the other side
get formed in your life.
-
00:32:02
See, when you skip
straight to pornography,
-
00:32:04
you skip the character formation
that God wants for you.
-
00:32:08
It's a lie.
-
00:32:10
It's the same as this stuff
will help you burn body fat.
-
00:32:13
I mean, if you do diet and
exercise too, you know.
-
00:32:16
Same exact thing.
-
00:32:17
It's just a lie on the
outside of the can.
-
00:32:21
This is not an
accidental lie, by the way.
-
00:32:23
It's an intentional one.
-
00:32:24
With porn, I don't
know if you know this,
-
00:32:26
you are being actively hunted.
-
00:32:27
I read you that
verse from Jeremiah
-
00:32:29
at the very beginning
of the service
-
00:32:30
about the God saying
He's the living water,
-
00:32:33
and that we go to
these broken cisterns.
-
00:32:34
That was Jeremiah 2:13.
-
00:32:36
I'll read you the next two
verses 2:14-15 says this:
-
00:32:52
You are being hunted.
-
00:32:54
The images is that
there is someone
-
00:32:55
coming after you like a lion,
-
00:32:58
which lines up exactly
with Peter's description
-
00:33:01
in his letter 1
Peter. It says this:
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00:33:11
So please hear me clearly,
-
00:33:12
if you are currently
struggling with porn,
-
00:33:14
if you've ever
struggled with porn,
-
00:33:16
I want you to know
it is not your fault
-
00:33:18
that you have been hunted.
-
00:33:20
There is an enemy
who's coming after you.
-
00:33:23
It started a long time ago.
-
00:33:25
You know, I actually don't
know anybody, I mean,
-
00:33:27
if you think about
your first experience
-
00:33:28
with pornography, the
first time you ever saw porn,
-
00:33:31
I have yet to meet anybody
-
00:33:33
who went actively
searching for it.
-
00:33:35
It seems like it just
kind of shows up.
-
00:33:38
A friend shows you a
picture on their phone.
-
00:33:40
You go to a friend's house
-
00:33:41
and there's a
magazine from their dad.
-
00:33:44
That was my story.
-
00:33:45
I was 11 years old,
-
00:33:47
went to my friend Jason's house,
-
00:33:49
and we were just messing
around doing whatever.
-
00:33:51
And we go into his dad's office
-
00:33:52
and we just start opening
drawers, you know,
-
00:33:54
seeing what's in
his dad's office.
-
00:33:56
And we open this drawer
and sitting right there
-
00:33:58
is a Playboy Magazine.
-
00:34:01
And so I shut my
eyes and ran away.
-
00:34:04
I did not do that. [laughter]
-
00:34:06
I did not do that.
Neither did you.
-
00:34:09
That's not what we
do. I was mesmerized.
-
00:34:11
I was like, this is the
most amazing thing
-
00:34:13
I've ever seen
in my entire life.
-
00:34:15
Like, it left an impression.
-
00:34:16
I mean, to this
day, 30 years later,
-
00:34:20
I can describe to you
the room, the wallpaper,
-
00:34:23
the curtains, the desk,
-
00:34:24
the drawer that
we pulled it out of.
-
00:34:26
I was probably in that room
-
00:34:27
for a total of maybe
three minutes in my life.
-
00:34:29
Haven't been there since,
but it left a mark on me.
-
00:34:33
Now, thankfully,
when I went home,
-
00:34:35
this is 30 years
ago, there wasn't
-
00:34:38
the same access to
porn that there is now.
-
00:34:40
So even though I might
have wanted to look at more,
-
00:34:43
I couldn't find it.
-
00:34:44
Porn had haunted
me, had found me
-
00:34:45
and left a mark on me,
-
00:34:47
but I didn't have
immediate access to it.
-
00:34:49
And this is the biggest
fundamental change
-
00:34:51
from 20 years ago.
-
00:34:52
This is why we see
those giant spikes
-
00:34:54
in stats from 2% to
45%. It's because of this.
-
00:34:59
Because now you used
to have to hunt porn,
-
00:35:01
but now porn hunts
you every single day.
-
00:35:05
If you think about this
from your seat right now,
-
00:35:07
it's faster for you to reach
pornography than it is
-
00:35:09
to get an actual
drink of actual water.
-
00:35:12
It's so close, all over
your house this is true.
-
00:35:16
On your TV, on your
phone and your computer,
-
00:35:18
it's everywhere lurking for you.
-
00:35:21
You'll find it even
when you're not looking.
-
00:35:23
This is what happens to me now.
-
00:35:24
I go on Instagram, I get
into woodworking. Right?
-
00:35:26
And so I watch woodworking
videos on Instagram
-
00:35:29
and on YouTube.
-
00:35:30
And at some point that
algorithm started to go,
-
00:35:32
you know, what you might like is
-
00:35:34
a woodworking video with
a naked lady inside of it.
-
00:35:37
And I'm like, what?
-
00:35:38
I started watching golf videos,
-
00:35:40
learning about golf and swings
-
00:35:41
and how to get better at golf.
-
00:35:42
Same thing happens,
all of a sudden,
-
00:35:44
here's a scantily clad
woman playing golf.
-
00:35:46
It haunts you even if
you're not looking for it
-
00:35:49
and it wants to kill you.
-
00:35:51
It'll show up where
you're not expecting it
-
00:35:53
and it will try to kill you.
-
00:35:55
Proverbs is a book about wisdom,
-
00:35:57
and not coincidentally,
it puts this scene,
-
00:36:01
this scenario, being
hunted in the very beginning.
-
00:36:05
Proverbs 5:1, it says:
-
00:36:29
Now, this is not a
sexist view of women.
-
00:36:32
This is not actually a woman.
-
00:36:33
This is death disguised
as the thing you want,
-
00:36:37
showing up in a place you
weren't even looking for it.
-
00:36:40
Lips that drip honey
that calls out and says,
-
00:36:43
"This is good for you."
-
00:36:44
But he says, the
writer of Proverbs says,
-
00:36:46
"Make no mistakes,
-
00:36:47
the steps lead
only one direction,
-
00:36:48
they go straight
down to your death.
-
00:36:52
This is porn,
we're being hunted.
-
00:36:53
And so what do we do about it?
-
00:36:55
Because many of
us are being caught.
-
00:36:56
And that's why
we're talking about it.
-
00:36:58
Many of us are being caught.
-
00:36:59
Many of us have been caught.
-
00:37:00
Many of us feel that we're
stuck and we're trapped.
-
00:37:03
If there's a broken
cistern it feels like
-
00:37:05
we've fallen down to the bottom
and there's no ladder to get up.
-
00:37:07
And so the easiest thing to
do is to stay where we are.
-
00:37:11
What do we do?
-
00:37:12
Well, it turns out that
-
00:37:13
the largest sex organ
you have is your brain.
-
00:37:15
Did you know that?
-
00:37:16
The brain is the largest
sex organ you have.
-
00:37:18
And so if you want
to start to rewire
-
00:37:20
how you perceive
pornography, how you think
-
00:37:23
about this whole issue of sex,
-
00:37:24
you have to start with your mind
-
00:37:27
and level up above pornography
-
00:37:29
and ask some
questions of what is sex
-
00:37:33
and what does God say about sex?
-
00:37:35
Does He care about
my sexuality at all?
-
00:37:40
And to see this, there's
kind of two macro views
-
00:37:42
on sex that I want
to walk you through.
-
00:37:44
One is the secular view.
-
00:37:45
This is just pop culture.
-
00:37:47
If you just walk
out into the world,
-
00:37:49
if you just live in
21st century America,
-
00:37:52
you aren't trying to
pick up any kind of rules,
-
00:37:54
regulations, tips,
truths or anything.
-
00:37:56
This is what you'd end up with
-
00:37:58
just by virtue of
being alive right now.
-
00:38:01
Contrasting to that
is the biblical view,
-
00:38:04
which is different
than the world's view.
-
00:38:06
And I want to lay
these out for you.
-
00:38:08
Now each of them
have a foundation,
-
00:38:09
there's a foundation
to each view.
-
00:38:10
The foundation of the
secular worldview is
-
00:38:13
a belief that your origin
story reads like this:
-
00:38:16
There was nothing,
-
00:38:17
and from nothing
something came accidentally.
-
00:38:22
Then some more stuff and
some goop and then you. Okay?
-
00:38:25
And what that means is that
-
00:38:26
there are no moral absolutes.
-
00:38:28
Therefore, you're free
to do whatever you want.
-
00:38:31
Now, contrast to that
is the biblical worldview
-
00:38:34
that says you're
not an accident.
-
00:38:35
In fact, there was a
powerful, all powerful being
-
00:38:38
who created everything
you see and can't see,
-
00:38:41
from the cosmic scale,
galaxies and solar systems
-
00:38:44
all the way down to the workings
-
00:38:46
of the smallest
bits and particles,
-
00:38:47
quantum mechanics.
-
00:38:49
Now, interestingly,
it's science, not religion,
-
00:38:51
that is termed the way
that that stuff works,
-
00:38:53
the way the universe
works as laws,
-
00:38:56
which, by the definition
of that word implies
-
00:38:58
there are absolutes
to the way things work
-
00:39:01
and absolutes to the
way things don't work.
-
00:39:04
There is expressed
purpose and design.
-
00:39:07
Now inside of these frameworks
is the purpose of sex.
-
00:39:10
In the secular worldview,
the purpose of sex
-
00:39:12
is to get pleasure.
-
00:39:14
The idea is basically
get as much pleasure
-
00:39:17
as you possibly can.
-
00:39:18
The more pleasure you have,
-
00:39:19
the more happy you'll be.
-
00:39:21
And so the advice is
to follow your urges.
-
00:39:23
Which think about
this for just a second.
-
00:39:25
In what other sphere of life
-
00:39:27
is the accepted advice
follow your urges?
-
00:39:30
What would happen
to your waistline
-
00:39:32
if you followed every
urge to eat food?
-
00:39:35
Probably have an affect, right?
-
00:39:36
What would happen
to your relationships
-
00:39:38
if you followed
every urge to say
-
00:39:40
what you really
think in the moment
-
00:39:41
about that dumb thing
they just said, right?
-
00:39:43
Probably have
less relationships.
-
00:39:45
What would happen
to your bank account
-
00:39:46
if you followed every
urge to buy everything
-
00:39:48
every time you
got a little bit sad
-
00:39:50
and wanted to medicate
with Target, right?
-
00:39:51
You'd have less money.
-
00:39:53
Follow your urges is
intellectually shallow
-
00:39:56
and does not work,
but it is the wisdom
-
00:39:58
of the age when it
comes to sex somehow.
-
00:40:01
This is the foundation,
the purpose of sex.
-
00:40:03
Now contrast
that with the Bible.
-
00:40:05
In the Bible, the purpose of sex
-
00:40:07
is not to get pleasure,
it's to give love.
-
00:40:12
Give love, which is different.
-
00:40:14
There's a cultural
version of love in culture.
-
00:40:17
The the height of
love is the measure
-
00:40:21
of how much I want to have you.
-
00:40:23
That's how we describe love.
-
00:40:25
I want you so much.
-
00:40:26
I want to have you so much.
-
00:40:27
That's the height of love.
-
00:40:29
But in the Bible, that's
not the height of love.
-
00:40:31
The Bible is the opposite.
-
00:40:32
It's not how much
I want to have you.
-
00:40:34
It's how much I
want to give you.
-
00:40:36
In fact, the
highest form of love
-
00:40:39
is self sacrificing your body
-
00:40:41
for the sake of someone else.
-
00:40:44
Very radically different.
-
00:40:46
Both these views
also have a take
-
00:40:49
on the nature
of the body itself.
-
00:40:51
Now, in the secular worldview,
because you came from nothing
-
00:40:54
and there's no purpose
and there's no design,
-
00:40:55
the purpose of your body is that
-
00:40:58
it's just an isolated,
temporary meatsuit,
-
00:41:00
you know, there's no meaning,
-
00:41:02
and there's just
made of stardust.
-
00:41:03
It'll return to stardust.
So YOLO, right?
-
00:41:06
Do whatever you want to.
-
00:41:07
In the Bible, though.
-
00:41:08
And this is this is
really key to understand,
-
00:41:10
because a lot of
people walk into church
-
00:41:11
and they think that
we're talking about
-
00:41:13
a spiritual life and
then a financial life
-
00:41:15
and then a physical life.
-
00:41:17
And so it can feel like, well,
-
00:41:18
God's interested
in my spiritual life,
-
00:41:20
but that's a separate thing
from these other categories.
-
00:41:22
But that's actually
a different religion.
-
00:41:24
It's called Gnosticism.
-
00:41:25
The idea that the
flesh and the Spirit
-
00:41:27
are separate and don't interact.
-
00:41:29
That's Gnosticism,
that's not Christianity.
-
00:41:31
Christianity says that
it's all woven together.
-
00:41:34
There is one life and one you,
-
00:41:37
and your body is
fully you and fully,
-
00:41:41
if you believe in Jesus,
a member of Christ.
-
00:41:45
It says this in 1
Corinthians 6:15:
-
00:41:51
You've been joined
together with them,
-
00:41:53
your body, not your
soul, not your spirit,
-
00:41:56
your body,
according to the Bible.
-
00:41:58
It's not a temporary
meatsuit, it is you.
-
00:42:01
I mean, think about
this for a minute.
-
00:42:03
Before you get to the
cross or the resurrection,
-
00:42:05
the fundamental claim
of Christianity is that
-
00:42:09
the temporal, the physical
-
00:42:11
have eternal spiritual
consequences,
-
00:42:15
that they are inextricably
related to each other.
-
00:42:17
That's the foundational
claim of Christianity.
-
00:42:20
And that's what
he's saying here.
-
00:42:22
Your body and
what you do with it
-
00:42:24
is inextricably
linked to who you are
-
00:42:27
in your eternal reality
and who you are becoming.
-
00:42:30
That's the nature of the body.
-
00:42:32
Now each of these
have a type of agreement.
-
00:42:34
There is an agreement in place
-
00:42:36
in order to engage in sex
-
00:42:38
in each of these
different views.
-
00:42:40
In the secular world view,
-
00:42:41
the type of contract is
a temporary contract,
-
00:42:45
and the only obligation
is momentary consent,
-
00:42:48
just for a little bit.
-
00:42:49
And the contract
works as long as
-
00:42:51
we hold to the
terms of the consent,
-
00:42:53
and then as soon as it's done,
we can go our separate ways,
-
00:42:55
and there's nothing
else required to us.
-
00:42:57
And that's why porn fits
very nicely into this view.
-
00:43:00
It's essentially a blank check
-
00:43:01
that someone else
has already signed.
-
00:43:03
Here you go. I put
my signature on it.
-
00:43:05
Do whatever you want,
as much as you want.
-
00:43:07
That's the appeal
of pornography.
-
00:43:10
Now, in the Bible, the
agreement necessary for sex
-
00:43:13
is much, much different.
-
00:43:14
It's not a temporary contract.
-
00:43:16
It's an eternal, lifelong
covenant which says,
-
00:43:21
whether or not you
please me, I will please you.
-
00:43:25
Whether or not you
love me, I will love you.
-
00:43:29
Whether or not you serve me,
-
00:43:31
I will serve you for
the rest of my life.
-
00:43:34
It's radically,
fundamentally different.
-
00:43:38
The obligation is
lifelong commitment.
-
00:43:40
Which, by the way, I don't know
if you know this about sex.
-
00:43:43
Sex is uniquely formative to us
-
00:43:44
and leaves such
an imprint on us.
-
00:43:45
Because when you have sex
-
00:43:47
and you engage
in any form of sex,
-
00:43:49
self sex or
pornography, for sure,
-
00:43:51
the hormones are
released in your body
-
00:43:53
and those hormones are designed
to lead you into commitment.
-
00:43:58
They're literally
designed to reinforce
-
00:43:59
the idea of
commitment in your mind
-
00:44:02
and your in your body.
-
00:44:03
But when you practice
sex outside the bounds
-
00:44:06
that the Bible draws,
particularly solo sex,
-
00:44:09
you're literally
retraining your body.
-
00:44:11
You're literally going,
-
00:44:13
don't think about
commitment. Don't do that.
-
00:44:15
And you're rewiring your body
-
00:44:17
instead to learn
to serve yourself.
-
00:44:20
The path leads
to self fulfillment.
-
00:44:22
By the way, if you're in here
-
00:44:23
and you're not yet
married, I want to take
-
00:44:25
a quick tangent for you.
-
00:44:27
Do you know that it's possible
-
00:44:29
to make this kind of
covenant commitment
-
00:44:31
to your future spouse now,
-
00:44:33
before you've ever met them?
-
00:44:35
Do you know that?
Think about it right now.
-
00:44:37
If God has someone for you,
-
00:44:39
they're probably
alive right now. Okay?
-
00:44:41
They're alive and they're
walking around on the earth.
-
00:44:43
And right now you can decide
to commit yourself to them.
-
00:44:47
I don't care what
you've done yesterday.
-
00:44:49
I don't care what
you did this morning.
-
00:44:50
I don't care about your past.
-
00:44:51
From this moment on, you
can commit yourself to them.
-
00:44:54
This is a covenant.
-
00:44:57
It has big consequences.
-
00:44:59
It's not just a moment.
-
00:45:01
It's not just an act.
-
00:45:02
It results in who
you are becoming.
-
00:45:07
If you follow the secular path,
-
00:45:09
what you'll become
is a self servant.
-
00:45:12
You will learn to serve
yourself really, really well.
-
00:45:16
If you follow the
biblical model,
-
00:45:18
you'll be the opposite.
-
00:45:19
You'll learn to be
a selfless servant.
-
00:45:21
It's not a moment.
-
00:45:22
It's about who you're becoming.
-
00:45:24
The stakes are incredibly,
incredibly high on this.
-
00:45:27
And maybe you're in
here and you're like,
-
00:45:29
"Man, I wish I heard
this talk a long time ago
-
00:45:31
because I've been
drinking porn like crazy,
-
00:45:34
and I don't like
who I've become.
-
00:45:36
I'm full of shame.
My life has secrets.
-
00:45:39
I worry about being found out.
-
00:45:41
I worry about having to stop.
-
00:45:43
It's all hidden.
It's out of control.
-
00:45:45
I feel guilty all the time."
-
00:45:47
Maybe that's what you've become.
-
00:45:48
See, that's because
porn is a broken cistern.
-
00:45:51
At the bottom of the
well is poison, nothing,
-
00:45:55
you're worse off than
-
00:45:57
if you had had
nothing in your life.
-
00:45:59
That's pornography.
-
00:46:00
I just want you to
know if you feel stuck,
-
00:46:03
if you feel stuck,
if you feel trapped,
-
00:46:05
you can get free.
-
00:46:07
And that can
actually start today.
-
00:46:09
See, God has a promise,
this amazing promise
-
00:46:12
where He goes, "Yes,
you've done two evils.
-
00:46:14
You've rejected my living water
-
00:46:16
and you've been drinking
from your own broken cisterns."
-
00:46:18
But that same God,
that's the truth part,
-
00:46:20
that same God comes in
with grace and He goes,
-
00:46:23
"Guess what? I'm not
going to leave you there.
-
00:46:25
Guess what? I'm going
to make a way out."
-
00:46:27
His name is Jesus
and He's coming for you.
-
00:46:30
And if you'll interact with Him,
-
00:46:32
He will change your life
and show you the way out.
-
00:46:35
It says this in 1
Corinthians 10:13, it says:
-
00:46:52
God says you can escape.
-
00:46:55
I know that you can escape.
-
00:46:56
You know how?
Because I did. I did.
-
00:46:59
After looking at that
magazine at 11 years old
-
00:47:03
I was hooked on it, right?
I was like, "This is amazing.
-
00:47:05
This is the best
thing in the world.
-
00:47:06
I got to find this
more and more."
-
00:47:08
And it was difficult
back in the day.
-
00:47:09
Didn't have high speed internet.
-
00:47:11
Some of you remember these days.
-
00:47:12
You download a picture
you weren't supposed to,
-
00:47:14
and it would go in bars.
-
00:47:16
It was like ka-chunk,
you know? You wait.
-
00:47:19
Ka-chunk. Oh, yeah.
There's your hair.
-
00:47:22
Wait. Is that my mom?
That's not my mom.
-
00:47:25
Ka-chunk. Oh, yeah,
we're getting close.
-
00:47:28
Okay. This is okay.
-
00:47:29
It's now just spinning now.
-
00:47:30
That was -- That
was basically porn
-
00:47:32
when I was in high school.
Okay, that was porn.
-
00:47:34
Then I went to college.
-
00:47:36
And in college, we had
the most amazing thing.
-
00:47:39
I'd never seen it
before in my life.
-
00:47:40
It was called high
speed internet.
-
00:47:43
It was incredible.
-
00:47:44
All of a sudden I had unlimited
-
00:47:47
instantaneous access
to whatever I wanted,
-
00:47:51
and not unsurprisingly, porn
became a problem for me.
-
00:47:55
So fast, so fast,
before I even knew
-
00:47:57
what was happening,
I felt like I was just taken.
-
00:47:59
I would think about it.
-
00:48:00
I would think about when I
could go look at more of it.
-
00:48:02
This is how I'd build
my life around it.
-
00:48:04
Thankfully, I met a group
of guys not long after,
-
00:48:08
not long into this
journey of college.
-
00:48:10
A group of guys who
were pursuing Jesus
-
00:48:12
and who, for whatever reason,
-
00:48:14
have this abnormally
vulnerable way of sharing life.
-
00:48:17
And so one time I'm
hanging out with these guys,
-
00:48:19
and one of them shares that
they were struggling with porn.
-
00:48:21
And I was like, "Oh my gosh,
-
00:48:22
we're not supposed
to talk about that.
-
00:48:24
What are we doing?
I gotta go, you know?"
-
00:48:26
And he shares and
another guy shares
-
00:48:28
and he's also
struggling with porn.
-
00:48:30
And then another
guy and all of a sudden
-
00:48:32
I start to realize, "Well,
maybe I'm not alone.
-
00:48:35
Maybe this is okay to share."
-
00:48:37
And so then I shared, "This
is a problem for me too."
-
00:48:40
And over the next few years,
we walk with each other.
-
00:48:44
We helped each other.
-
00:48:46
We held each other accountable.
-
00:48:47
We helped each other
find healthy boundaries.
-
00:48:49
And over the course
of those years,
-
00:48:51
I was able to stop that cycle.
-
00:48:53
That was so important to me
-
00:48:54
to have this group
of guys around me.
-
00:48:55
[applause]
Thank you. Yeah.
-
00:48:58
When I got to
Cincinnati, the first thing
-
00:49:00
I looked for was a
group of guys like that.
-
00:49:02
I came to Crossroads,
and all I was doing
-
00:49:04
was trying to find
that group of guys.
-
00:49:05
Thankfully, I found them.
-
00:49:08
And I'm telling you, in my life,
-
00:49:10
porn has not been an issue for
-
00:49:11
a very, very, very,
very long time.
-
00:49:15
Listen, clearly, it's not
because it doesn't haunt me.
-
00:49:19
It's not because it's
not coming for me.
-
00:49:22
It's not because the lion
went, "Well, not you anymore."
-
00:49:25
It comes from me every
single day, every day.
-
00:49:29
I still in my life, the
most important rhythm
-
00:49:31
I have in my life
is connecting with
-
00:49:33
the other men who I can
be fully transparent with
-
00:49:35
and fully vulnerable
with in my life still.
-
00:49:37
And I put up boundaries
in my life that I enforce.
-
00:49:39
There are some
things, if you saw my life,
-
00:49:41
you'd think I was Amish.
-
00:49:43
You'd be like, that's crazy.
-
00:49:45
Bridgerton, Never seen it.
-
00:49:46
Game of Thrones,
never seen it, never will.
-
00:49:49
Lots of popular shows
that feature sex and nudity
-
00:49:51
and never seen it, never
will, just can't go near it.
-
00:49:53
Tiktok, I had TikTok
for about 4.5 seconds.
-
00:49:56
And then TikTok is like,
"I'll bet you'd like this."
-
00:49:59
And I was like, "Oh
my gosh, run away!"
-
00:50:01
And you know, you
hear that and you're like,
-
00:50:03
"Oh, but you're missing
such good stories.
-
00:50:05
I mean, Bridgerton is so great,
Game of Thrones, so great.
-
00:50:08
Kyle, you missing
such great stories.
-
00:50:09
And I mean, me, I watch it
-
00:50:11
and that's not for the
sex. It's for the stories."
-
00:50:13
I'm like, "You know
what that sounds like?
-
00:50:14
That sounds like my buddy
-
00:50:15
who used to read
Playboy for the articles.
-
00:50:17
You know? That's cool for you.
-
00:50:20
I'll bet you -- I bet
that's right." Right?
-
00:50:23
And the thing is, if
you want to get free,
-
00:50:25
you can get free.
-
00:50:26
It's going to
take vulnerability,
-
00:50:28
it's going to take work,
-
00:50:29
and it's going to take
connecting to the living water.
-
00:50:31
But you can get free.
But not alone. Not alone.
-
00:50:36
When surveyed, 65%
of people who have
-
00:50:39
some form of porn
use in their life,
-
00:50:41
65% believe they can
get out of it on their own.
-
00:50:45
And I'm just telling you,
-
00:50:46
I just want to press
on you a little bit.
-
00:50:47
If you struggle with porn
-
00:50:49
and you haven't
been able to stop,
-
00:50:51
the reason is because
you hold this belief.
-
00:50:53
You've tried to
do it on your own.
-
00:50:55
And you still
think in your mind,
-
00:50:56
"I don't have to tell
anybody about this
-
00:50:58
because I can get
out of it on my own."
-
00:50:59
No you can't.
-
00:51:01
That's the number one
lie that will keep you stuck.
-
00:51:04
See step one to
freedom is confession.
-
00:51:06
Not to God. God
knows, by the way.
-
00:51:09
Think about this, God
knows every moment.
-
00:51:11
He's not surprised.
-
00:51:12
He doesn't need you to tell Him.
-
00:51:13
Saying sorry might be
okay, but He doesn't --
-
00:51:15
He's not shocked by it.
-
00:51:16
But God says there's
a unique power
-
00:51:18
when we expose our private life
-
00:51:20
to the people around
us, when we take
-
00:51:22
what's been hidden
in the darkness
-
00:51:23
and we bring it into the
light, it stops festering.
-
00:51:26
It says this in James 5:16:
-
00:51:35
What would it be like for you
-
00:51:36
to confess your sin to somebody?
-
00:51:38
What would it be like
before you go to bed tonight
-
00:51:40
to tell somebody what's
actually going on in your life?
-
00:51:43
You might be like,
"That sounds awful.
-
00:51:45
Are you kidding me?
-
00:51:46
You know how much
shame I would feel, Kyle?"
-
00:51:49
And my pushback
would be, "Well, yeah,
-
00:51:51
but how much shame do
you feel right now already?"
-
00:51:54
See, when you confess,
-
00:51:55
it's not stepping into shame.
-
00:51:57
It's stepping out of shame.
-
00:51:59
Shame doesn't get to
have a hold on you anymore.
-
00:52:01
But you have to walk
through that moment.
-
00:52:04
By the way, note to married
couples if you're in here,
-
00:52:07
and one of you
confesses to the other
-
00:52:09
at some point later on today,
-
00:52:11
let's say say that happens.
-
00:52:13
I want to warn you,
it will be painful,
-
00:52:15
and I want to encourage
you to do it anyway.
-
00:52:17
If you're the spouse
who gets confessed to,
-
00:52:19
I know it'll hurt.
It'll hurt a lot.
-
00:52:21
I know it will.
-
00:52:22
But your partner is
somebody who is trapped
-
00:52:25
and wants to get free.
-
00:52:27
And it's not
about you. It's not.
-
00:52:29
There are wounds.
There are pains.
-
00:52:31
They have been
hunted their whole life,
-
00:52:33
and they want to get free.
-
00:52:35
And your pain and
your feeling of betrayal
-
00:52:37
are real and they
are legitimate.
-
00:52:38
My encouragement to you is
-
00:52:40
you both need
someone to talk to,
-
00:52:41
you both need support,
you both need help.
-
00:52:44
And I want to give you a vision:
-
00:52:46
your partner on the
other side of confessing
-
00:52:50
can become the person
you thought they were,
-
00:52:53
and so much more
before you knew.
-
00:52:56
If it's in your marriage,
it's already affecting you.
-
00:52:59
The Bible says that
when you're married,
-
00:53:01
two people are one.
-
00:53:02
Whether or not you knew
what was causing the pain,
-
00:53:06
it was there.
-
00:53:07
And so wouldn't you rather know
-
00:53:09
and deal with it with open eyes?
-
00:53:10
If you do, your marriage
can go to an amazing place.
-
00:53:13
Healing is possible.
-
00:53:16
I've seen it in my life.
-
00:53:17
I've seen it in friends'
lives all over the place.
-
00:53:21
I'm one of them is a
good friend of mine
-
00:53:23
who you might know
well. His name is Chuck.
-
00:53:25
Here's his story.
-
00:53:31
- One alpha, take one.
-
00:53:33
- I grew up in a family where
-
00:53:34
I was very much a
surprise, but also very loved.
-
00:53:38
But as I reflect on, you
know, some of the things
-
00:53:40
that created this thirst in me,
-
00:53:42
what I realized is
the other true story
-
00:53:45
that I was believing
about myself was that
-
00:53:47
somehow I had to earn
my way into the family,
-
00:53:51
because this family had
its own thing going on,
-
00:53:54
and I was kind of a disruption
-
00:53:56
or an interruption to that.
-
00:53:57
I remember when I was,
I don't know, probably 12
-
00:54:00
we got cable TV.
-
00:54:02
I had my own room and I
had cable TV in that room.
-
00:54:05
That was not good for me.
-
00:54:06
And the movies
had, I remember SSC.
-
00:54:09
It would say strong
sexual content.
-
00:54:11
And it -- something
like unlocked in me
-
00:54:15
as I was watching it.
-
00:54:17
And when I say
unlocked in me, it was like
-
00:54:19
there was just this, like,
-
00:54:20
this is what I've
been looking for.
-
00:54:23
And I know at the same time,
-
00:54:25
I can't tell anybody
about this, I can't --
-
00:54:28
This isn't something
that I share.
-
00:54:29
This isn't something
that I tell my parents.
-
00:54:32
This isn't something
that I tell even my friends.
-
00:54:34
Like, this is something
that has to be kept so secret.
-
00:54:36
And it just became this
pattern that really gripped me
-
00:54:40
even as I was in the church,
-
00:54:42
going to a Christian school,
-
00:54:44
pursuing a
relationship with God.
-
00:54:47
But there was this
other aspect of me,
-
00:54:49
pornography and masturbation,
-
00:54:51
kind of that whole
sexual expression
-
00:54:54
became the way that I medicated.
-
00:54:56
And then I went to
college, and I just remember
-
00:54:59
in the computer
lab, down in the dorm
-
00:55:02
that I was living
in I discovered
-
00:55:05
internet pornography, and
I was immediately hooked.
-
00:55:09
I mean, it just
became an obsession.
-
00:55:13
And that really began a
pattern that, you know,
-
00:55:18
quite frankly, is
still something that
-
00:55:20
I'm in recovery for and
wrestling with in my life.
-
00:55:23
In my mind, I had
always had these lines
-
00:55:26
that I would not cross.
-
00:55:27
I'm acting out, I'm
watching stuff on cable TV,
-
00:55:30
but like, I'm not going
to go buy a magazine.
-
00:55:33
Then you buy the magazine.
-
00:55:35
Yeah, I bought a
magazine, but I'm not --
-
00:55:37
I'm never going to
interact with a person.
-
00:55:40
Then I ended up
in a massage parlor.
-
00:55:41
Yeah, yeah, I went
to a massage parlor,
-
00:55:44
but I'm never going to go
to a straight up strip club.
-
00:55:46
And then I ended
up in a strip club.
-
00:55:47
And it's just -- I
just realized, like,
-
00:55:49
this is progressing
and it's taking more
-
00:55:54
and more of me,
and I can't control it.
-
00:55:57
This is out of my control.
-
00:55:58
And I would say that
was the point where
-
00:56:00
I realized it's never
going to satisfy me.
-
00:56:03
Like, that was the
moment when I knew
-
00:56:05
I needed to change,
but I still didn't know
-
00:56:08
how to change,
and I just felt stuck.
-
00:56:10
And I tried all the
things, I prayed, I fasted,
-
00:56:14
I read Every Man's Battle
and I did all the things.
-
00:56:17
I did all the things,
-
00:56:18
and none of it was
really helping me.
-
00:56:20
And when things
began to change for me
-
00:56:23
was when I met Chuck Moore.
-
00:56:25
Chuck Moore leads
men's healthy sexuality
-
00:56:28
and has helped
hundreds of guys like me.
-
00:56:30
I was actually was
about to come on staff
-
00:56:32
and I was like, "I
just need to tell you
-
00:56:35
just how jacked up I am."
-
00:56:37
Chuck looked at me and he said,
-
00:56:39
"Hey, it's not your fault."
-
00:56:43
And it didn't
penetrate the first time.
-
00:56:46
I don't know if it
penetrated the 10th time
-
00:56:48
because I was so
wracked with shame.
-
00:56:51
Shame had such a grip on me.
-
00:56:53
I needed someone
to look at me and say,
-
00:56:57
"This is not your fault,
-
00:56:59
but this is your opportunity
-
00:57:02
that you could actually
heal and change
-
00:57:07
and you could be free."
-
00:57:09
As Chuck said
it's not your fault,
-
00:57:12
I think just for a
moment, maybe,
-
00:57:14
just that that grip
of shame released
-
00:57:17
just enough for me to
lean in and see what's next.
-
00:57:22
His ability to to hear my
story non-judgmentally
-
00:57:27
and invite me into
something different,
-
00:57:30
it's a moment that
literally changed my life.
-
00:57:34
I would say it was a
moment that saved my life.
-
00:57:38
You know, I entered
into 12 step recovery
-
00:57:41
right here at Crossroads
-
00:57:42
while I was a pastor
at Crossroads.
-
00:57:46
And what I found is
that there is a way,
-
00:57:49
there is a way over
time in community
-
00:57:53
to make different choices.
-
00:57:55
I wish I could tell
you I'm perfect.
-
00:57:57
I wish I could tell you
-
00:57:58
this is still never
a struggle for me.
-
00:58:00
But the truth is, I'm
a work in progress
-
00:58:03
and I would just want
anybody who's kind of
-
00:58:06
on the early side of this
to know you can be free.
-
00:58:10
There is a God who loves you.
-
00:58:12
There is a God who says to you
-
00:58:13
the same words that
Chuck said to me,
-
00:58:15
it's not your fault.
-
00:58:16
We're all wounded, but
God is an amazing healer.
-
00:58:28
- It's a story of hope.
-
00:58:30
And what he said
is true, by the way,
-
00:58:32
it's not your fault that
you've been wounded.
-
00:58:34
It's not your fault that
you've been hunted.
-
00:58:37
But God says you have
agency and you have a choice
-
00:58:40
and you can do
something about it.
-
00:58:42
He wants to help you see.
-
00:58:45
Step two, after confession,
-
00:58:48
is to change what
you're drinking.
-
00:58:49
It's not enough to
do this on your own.
-
00:58:51
Human efforts are
not going to get it done.
-
00:58:53
You need God and
you need living water.
-
00:58:56
You need an encounter
with the living water,
-
00:58:58
the same as the
woman at the well.
-
00:59:01
You know when
Jesus walked up to her,
-
00:59:03
He knew everything about
her just like He does you.
-
00:59:06
He didn't judge her.
He didn't condemn her.
-
00:59:08
He didn't brush her off.
-
00:59:09
He just pointed out
her mistakes and said,
-
00:59:11
"Would you like
something better?
-
00:59:14
Would you like
something that gives you
-
00:59:16
the life that
you're looking for?"
-
00:59:19
And she took it.
-
00:59:20
This is the end of
that story. John 4:28:
-
00:59:22
So the woman left her jar.
-
00:59:26
I think that means a lot.
-
00:59:27
She left her past.
-
00:59:29
She left what she
had been doing.
-
00:59:40
Could this be the one
who's here to save us?
-
00:59:43
Because I feel like He's
saving me right now.
-
00:59:46
Like I said, God knows
everything about you,
-
00:59:48
just like her, but He's not
coming to condemn you.
-
00:59:51
He's coming to
offer you living water,
-
00:59:54
living water that has
the power to change you.
-
00:59:58
You know, the first time
living water shows up
-
00:59:59
in the Bible, it's
not in Jeremiah.
-
01:00:01
It's actually earlier than that.
-
01:00:03
It shows up in
the Levitical law.
-
01:00:05
Now, most of that law is
about pure versus impure.
-
01:00:10
And see, whenever
these two things touch,
-
01:00:13
the impure has more power.
-
01:00:15
It corrupts the pure
again and again and again.
-
01:00:19
There is one
exception in the law.
-
01:00:22
You know what it
is? It's for living water.
-
01:00:25
See, when when living water
-
01:00:27
touches something impure,
-
01:00:29
the impure thing is
made pure forever.
-
01:00:32
It's clean. It
becomes living water.
-
01:00:37
You ever wonder
why Jesus goes around
-
01:00:38
and He touches people
when He heals them?
-
01:00:40
I mean, he's God, right?
-
01:00:41
Why touch people?
He does this all the time.
-
01:00:43
He heals lepers.
-
01:00:45
He goes up, He
touches the leper.
-
01:00:47
He heals a blind person.
-
01:00:48
He doesn't just say,
"Go ahead and see."
-
01:00:50
He walks up and He puts
his hands on their eyes.
-
01:00:53
You ever wonder why
when people touch Jesus,
-
01:00:55
they get healed even
when He didn't know it?
-
01:00:58
It's because He's
the living water
-
01:01:01
and when He touches you,
-
01:01:02
you are made whole
and pure forever.
-
01:01:09
Maybe that's all you
need to hear right now.
-
01:01:11
You've been
sitting in your seat,
-
01:01:12
you've been feeling
guilt and shame,
-
01:01:13
you've been
feeling so, so dirty.
-
01:01:16
When Jesus touches
you, you will be clean.
-
01:01:20
Now I know He's
not here right now
-
01:01:22
to walk around in bodily form,
-
01:01:24
but follow me for a second.
-
01:01:26
You know the number one
name for Jesus was teacher.
-
01:01:29
Do you know what
teacher means in Hebrew?
-
01:01:31
It's the word Yoreh.
-
01:01:32
In original language
teacher is Yoreh,
-
01:01:35
which means first rain.
-
01:01:39
See, when someone teaches you,
-
01:01:40
when they share the
word of truth with you,
-
01:01:43
it's the water, they're
spraying water on you.
-
01:01:46
This is why in John
15:3 Jesus says,
-
01:01:52
If you'll receive
Him, the Word of Life,
-
01:01:56
you'll be clean.
-
01:01:58
Now, the only kind of
vessel though that receives it
-
01:02:00
is a broken one.
-
01:02:01
If you're in here and
your heart is hard
-
01:02:04
and you're closed off
-
01:02:05
and you don't want
to hear it anymore,
-
01:02:07
I can't help you,
Jesus can't help you.
-
01:02:10
But if you're here
and you feel broken,
-
01:02:12
if today opened a
crack in your life,
-
01:02:16
or maybe it already,
-
01:02:17
there was already a gaping hole,
-
01:02:18
it already felt so
hard and so awful.
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01:02:20
If that's you, if
you feel broken,
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I have good news.
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Water can get into
you and your cistern
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and it can change you.
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Here's the Word of God for you.
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This is Colossians
1:22. It says:
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And by the way, the
first two words, but now,
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did you catch that?
Now, not later. Now.
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Living water can change
you if you'll talk to Him,
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He can change
you if you hear Him.
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That's actually what
we're going to do right now.
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We built this
service intentionally
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a little bit out of order,
almost backwards.
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We wanted to save
what we typically do
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at the beginning, where
we have conversations
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with God through
music for the end here.
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And I just want
to encourage you,
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please stay through
this experience,
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have a conversation with God.
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I've got one more
critical thing to tell you
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at the end, but for now,
why don't you go ahead
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and stand wherever you are
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and talk to the One who
has the words to heal you.
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- Let's go back to those
words we sang before,
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if we'll trust in
what He can do,
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because H's promised
that He's strong,
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He's promised that He's with us.
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So with full trust
in Him we say.
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- At the very end of the Bible,
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the book of Revelation,
one of the last scenes
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in the entire Bible,
God says this.
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Revelation 21:6: It is done.
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I am the Alpha and the Omega.
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I'm the beginning and the end.
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To the thirsty I will give from
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the spring of the water
of life without payment.
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That's His promise to you.
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01:15:17
I don't know what
you thought church
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01:15:18
was going to be today
when you walked in.
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01:15:20
Probably not
this, though, right?
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01:15:23
But maybe something
broke in you.
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01:15:25
Maybe there was a
moment where you felt hope.
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Maybe it was when we
were singing just now.
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01:15:28
You are able. He is.
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If so, I want to encourage you,
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confess to somebody,
connect with the living water,
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01:15:38
and you need to find a
transformative community.
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01:15:41
You need to find leaders
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01:15:42
who can help you
walk out of this.
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01:15:44
And I got great
news, we've got them.
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01:15:45
Chuck and Chuck from the video
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01:15:47
are putting together
a night, an event
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01:15:50
that's designed to help
you get free from porn.
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01:15:53
It's coming up on August 12th.
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01:15:54
It's information
here on the screen,
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7 p.m. in person or online.
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If you can't make
it, that's totally fine.
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Please watch it online.
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01:16:03
If you are the person struggling
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or you're the spouse
who gets confessed to,
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either way, this is
designed to help you
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get connected to
resources that can help you
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01:16:12
walk out who you
are, alive and changed.
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I also want to
offer prayer today.
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If you're in a moment
where you just need
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someone to pray for you,
we would love to do that.
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We'll have prayer
volunteers right down here
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right now as you walk out.
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01:16:30
We love to pray for you.
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I'm going to do that right now.
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God, thank You for
everyone who is here.
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Thank You for their willingness
to lean in and listen.
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Thank You for being the
living water who changes
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01:16:41
I pray for everyone
who's been dead,
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dried up and worn out.
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Bring them back to life. Amen.