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We've all been forced to pause, reset
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and reclaim our futures in light of the chaos of 2020.
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There's always darkness and adventure
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when you're not sure where you're going.
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Join us for Crossroads Weekend Spark Talks
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and hear from people who will challenge you
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with new ideas to ignite your life.
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- Hey, welcome to Crossroads.
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My name is Brian Tome, Senior Pastor.
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It is great to be with you today.
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This is a series called Spark that we do
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pretty much every year for the last several years.
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We're trying to spark and ignite new thoughts,
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new ideas in you that could take your spiritual life,
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could take your life to a new place.
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Even though I'm kind of the senior guy around here,
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I don't have to speak every week, because guess what?
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I don't have all the best ideas.
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And other people God is working in and through
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have amazing things to tell us.
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You're going to find that today.
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We want to help you.
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We want you to go on the adventure
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that God wants you on, whatever that is.
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And to do that, you're going to need His spark.
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And we're trying to spark you today.
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So let's get started.
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- The lesson I've learned in 2020
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is no matter how fast I run, I can't outrun trouble.
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2020 turns out to be the year of trouble.
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We've got big trouble all across our world.
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We've got a nation deeply divided along political lines.
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We've got the deep trouble of racism and injustice in our country.
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And to top it all off, we have the trouble of a global pandemic,
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which, whether you think it is nothing or the end of the world,
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can we at least all agree it's brought a lot of trouble?
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This is not what I had planned for the year, by the way.
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My name is Kyle, one of the teaching pastors
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here at Crossroads.
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I lead our creative teams.
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And this is not what I had planned for the year.
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This wasn't to be the year of trouble.
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It was to be the year of a great vacation.
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It was going to be amazing.
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I've been planning it since last year:
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an all inclusive no kids trip to the Caribbean
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with my wife and some of our friends.
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It was going to be absolutely incredible.
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Then the pandemic hit and shut the whole thing down,
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can't even go there, and not happening.
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And get this, I don't know if you know this,
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but you can pay for a vacation online in four seconds,
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but the company says it's going to take
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four months to get my money back,
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which means I needed a different vacation plan,
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one that was free.
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So I called my parents, who happen to live near the beach,
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and I said, "Hey, Mom and Dad, can come to your house?"
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They said, yes, which is great.
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Mom and Dad, thank you so much.
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Also, just here's a little thing,
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a week at your parents' house is not quite the same
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as a weekend all inclusive with no kids in the Caribbean.
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It's a little bit different.
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It was not the year of the great vacation.
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Still, my wife and I were like,
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"Not the great vacation.
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Let's make it the year of the pretty OK vacation day."
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My parents said we could have a day alone,
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just the two of us to go out.
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The day comes, we're very excited.
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Get in the car, we drive,
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we go to our favorite restaurant
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on the whole entire island where they live.
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We pull up and there's this handwritten sign on the door.
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It says, "Closed indefinitely
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due to COVID outbreak among employees."
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We're like, "Oh, no, that is bad, but fine."
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You know, we know the verse suffering produces perseverance;
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perseverance, character, hope,we're going to get to hope here.
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We're going to maintain hope.
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And so we go to our second favorite restaurant.
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We get there, same sign's on the door.
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Go to our third favorite restaurant, same sign's on the door.
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Go to our fourth favorite restaurant, same sign's on the door.
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Shake it off, it's fine.
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We'll just go to the beach.
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We'll have a great day at the beach.
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We'll just forget the restaurants.
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We'll have a great day at the beach.
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So we get to the beach. It's crowded.
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We want peace and quiet, so we see a spot way in the distance.
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We start hiking.
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We get all of our crap, the cooler, and the beach chairs
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and the towels and all that stuff.
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We are hiking down the beach.
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I can't even emphasize how far we walk.
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Incredibly far down the beach.
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Sit down, pull out my Kindle, start reading
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and I'm in heaven. It's amazing.
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And what feels like ten minutes later I look up
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and coming across the sea is a great gray storm cloud,
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like an intergalactic star destroyer.
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And it's heading straight towards my chair.
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It starts to whip rain at us before we can even move.
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It's like bullets coming.
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It's like Aroldis Chapman fastballs
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just rain and wind whipping up the sand
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and stinging places you didn't know sand could even sting.
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It was horrible and it was awful.
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Umbrellas are flying across the beach
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where I assume they went to the ocean
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and probably stabbed dolphins to death
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because that's what happens in 2020.
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It's the year of trouble.
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The question is: what do you do when trouble comes your way?
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There's really only three options how to handle trouble
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and you probably default to one of them.
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The first option is the ignore option.
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Option A, you ignore the trouble.
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You diminish it, you dismiss it.
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You pretend it's not real.
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You're going to shove it aside.
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I did this once in my life with my teeth.
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See, I'm a logical, educated person.
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I understand that dental hygiene is important.
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Still, I decided to ignore the trouble of teeth
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that kind of hurt and gums that were a little sore.
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And I didn't go to the dentist for ten years.
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Children do not be like me, it's a bad idea. Bad idea.
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As it turns out, when you ignore a problem,
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it does not magically disappear; it methodically gets worse.
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By the time I got to the dentist,
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I had a little thing called periodontal disease,
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which is basically bacteria that eats away your jaw bone
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until you have no more jaw bone and no more teeth.
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Horrible.
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Which is all for I had to sit in a dentist chair
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for an hour while they literally peeled my gums off my teeth
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and power washed underneath of them.
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Like you, like what you did last Saturday.
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You rented that thing at Home Depot,
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you power washed your deck,
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it was just like that just for an hour, twice.
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It was terrible.
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When you ignore a problem, it doesn't get better.
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Still, some of us fall into this trap
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when we experience trouble in our lives.
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We go with the ignore it route.
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Maybe this is where you are.
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Maybe you've been ignoring the trouble
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of your stalled out career.
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Maybe you've been ignoring the trouble
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of your weight gain over the course
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of the last four months in quarantine.
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Maybe you've been ignoring the trouble in your marriage.
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Or you've been ignoring the trouble in your finances,
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in your debt.
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Maybe you've been ignoring the trouble
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of your addiction, of your anger.
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Friends, it will not magically disappear;
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it will methodically get worse.
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Now there's a second option for what to do
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when trouble comes your way.
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Option B in many ways, is the opposite of option A.
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In option B, you don't ignore the trouble.
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Instead, you obsess over the trouble.
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You just look at the trouble.
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You read every article, every news story, every everything.
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You think about all day long.
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You bring it so close
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that it completely blocks your field of view.
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The problem here is you lose all sense of scale.
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Take your fingers like this, just pinch them like this.
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Remember this game used to play in elementary school,
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Just do that right now, turn to the person next to you
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and go, "I crush your head, I crush you, I crush you."
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Now, what looks in your field of view
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is that your fingers are so large,
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they are so powerfully devastating
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that nothing can possibly stop them.
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Is that true?
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No, of course not. It's not true.
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The same is true of trouble.
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If you pull trouble so close to you
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that it completely blocks your field of view,
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you will lose all sense of scale
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and you will think that trouble is bigger
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and more indestructible than it actually is.
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You focus all your attention on trouble,
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you'll do the only logical thing.
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If you see it this big and this mighty
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and this inconquerable, you'll do the only logical thing,
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you'll give up. You'll give up.
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You'll lose all hope, not just for right now,
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but for the future.
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You'll believe that the trouble isn't just for right now.
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The trouble isn't just is, it is and always will be.
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You'll give up.
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I wonder if this is what you've done with the trouble in your life.
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I wonder if you've pulled the trouble so close to you
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that you can't see anything else and you've given up.
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Maybe you've pulled the trouble of your physical health
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so close to you that you've given up hope
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of ever living pain and medication free.
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Maybe you've pulled the trouble of your stalled out career
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so close to your face. It's so painful.
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And you just decided, "I'm never going to catch a break.
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Never going to happen for me. It's over."
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Maybe you've pulled the trouble and the disappointment
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of the loss of your loved ones so close to you
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that it's blocked your view from ever seeing
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that there could be a good God.
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Now there's a third option for how to deal with trouble.
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It's the Jesus option.
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Surprise! You're in church, there's a Jesus option.
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Yes, it's the very best one.
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It's a two part process.
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Part one of the process is that you acknowledge the trouble.
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You don't diminish the trouble,
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you don't ignore the trouble,
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and you also don't inflate the trouble.
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You don't obsess over the trouble.
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You look it honestly in the eye for what it is,
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sober mindedly, candidly.
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You say, "This is trouble. This is not good.
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This is unlikely to change quickly."
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There's a part two, you also acknowledge
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and believe in the power of a good God
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who promises victory in your life.
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You say, "This trouble is real, but this trouble is not forever."
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Jesus put it this way in John 16:33. He said:
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"In this world, you will have trouble."
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That's part one.
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"But take heart," part two, "I have overcome the world."
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Yes, there will be trouble,
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but ultimate victory is coming your way.
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It may not be exactly the way you want it.
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It may not be exactly when you want it.
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But the story isn't over.
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The story does not end here. It doesn't end now.
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The story extends into eternity
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and you can hope for redemption and victory.
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Now, I believe for Crossroads there is trouble.
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Just look at the global pandemic we're in.
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Can we just all understand and agree
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it's not great for a church to close its doors
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for as long as we have to?
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We think it's the right decision.
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We think it's a good decision.
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We think it's a responsible decision.
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And also, it's not great. It's trouble.
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And it would be wrong of us to diminish it
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or ignore it or pretend it doesn't exist.
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It would be wrong of us also to say
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that this is going to completely destroy us,
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because that's not true, either one.
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The trouble is real and the victory is real too.
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See, I wholeheartedly believe the trouble
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we're experiencing right now as a church, as a community
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is not the end of the story.
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In fact, I believe there's a day coming
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when future generations will look back on right now
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and the way that we pivoted, the way that we innovated,
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the way that we continue to care for each other
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through crisis, and they'll say, "That's it.
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That was the moment.
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That was the moment the tide turned
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and our nation started to go back to God."
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That's what I believe.
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I think about my personal life.
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I've got trouble in my personal life the same as you do.
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I've got a child who we're pretty sure has ADHD.
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My wife and I Sarah, we're choosing not to ignore the trouble
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and we're also not bringing it so close it obscures our view.
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Rather, we're believing what Jesus said,
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"We'll have trouble, but take heart,I've overcome the world."
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So we're learning. We're learning about the trouble.
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We're embracing the challenges,
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but we're not believing this is doomsday for our son.
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We're believing this is simply a step on the path
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to his destiny, the good one that God has created for him.
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You know, personally, in my marriage, we have trouble.
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We had three kids in three years.
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Listen, if you ever think to yourself,
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"How could I take my married sex life?"
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Do that, have three kids in three years.
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Because you know what you won't have time for?
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Yeah, exactly.
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But rather than give up, rather than go,
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"This is never going to get good,"
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or that this is never going to change.
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Rather than ignore the problem,
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ignoring the uncomfortable, difficult conversations,
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Sarah and I are saying, "No, let's step into it.
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Let's acknowledge there's trouble,
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but let's believe that the best intimacy in our marriage
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isn't what happened before kids.
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It's what to happen after kids,
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Don't knock on the door, kids, by the way,
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just leave us alone.
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What about you?
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What if you took the third option when trouble came your way?
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So this trouble is real,
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this trouble is not small
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and this trouble will not win.
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There is victory for me.
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What if years from now your family could look back
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on what you did right now in this season
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and they could say, "That was it. That was the moment.
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That was the moment our family went
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from completely dysfunctional to amazingly dependable.
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That was the moment our family went from languishing
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to loving."
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What if you could look back years from now in your own life
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and you could say, "That was the moment right there.
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That was the moment my career started to turn around."
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What if you could look back right now on this moment
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and the way that you interact with God
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and you could say, "That was the moment,
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the moment I confronted the real trouble
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of my pain, my grief, my disappointment,
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of the loss of my loved one,
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but I chose to believe the story wasn't over,
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that there was a good God."
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And that while it may not come today, victory is on the way.
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John 16:33; "In this world, you will have trouble,
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but take heart, I have overcome the world."
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- I hope something is sparking inside of you so far today.
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Generosity is one of the things that God sparks
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inside of us who want to be more like Him and be generous.
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Crossroads a tithing church.
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If you want to be a giver or grow to that,
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you can go to Crossroads.net/give.
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You know, a few weeks ago we had another giving opportunity,
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which I'm really excited about.
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I want to make sure that you're in on
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or at least you're aware of it.
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We are partners with Compassion International.
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We've had thousands of people come alongside
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and have a direct one to one relationship
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with a child in a third world country to feed
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and educate them for their entire childhood for $38 a month.
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If you missed out on that or you're still considering it,
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hey, come on, chop chop. You can still do that.
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Spark something in your life.
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Spark something in somebody else's life.
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You can go to Crossroads.net/compassion.
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It's good to be used by God.
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And here's some examples of what's happening with us and Compassion.
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- The Crossroads community partners
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with Compassion International in Nicaragua and Bolivia.
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Compassion has been working for more than 65 years
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to provide impoverished children
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with a strong opportunity to overcome poverty.
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For $38 a month children are given a real chance to succeed.
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Not only does that money go towards a child's food
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and educational needs, but it also leads to lifelong
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relationships between the children and their sponsors.
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- Hello. God bless you, esteemed sponsor Bill Vasquez.
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- Hello, and God bless you. How are you?
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I'm really glad to write this letter.
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- I'm grateful to God for putting in your heart
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the desire of sponsoring me.
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- I want to tell you about my promotion to preschool.
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- My school teachers name is Nyla,
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and she has taught me to read, to write and to pronounce words.
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- I participated in a parade in September at my school.
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- I'm on vacation this week and I'll soon start preschool.
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- I'm happy because I passed my school year.
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I got good grades and I'm on vacation.
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- Last week I had an exam in my school
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and I got a 60 out of 60.
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With God's help, we can do everything.
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- I am learning to pray and drawing the project.
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- I like to see the photos of your grandchildren
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that you enclosed.
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- I also like the letters that you sent me.
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- I ask you to pray for God to guide my family.
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- I ask you to pray for my grandmother because she is sick.
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- And I ask that you pray for my mother.
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- You are always in my prayers.
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- And I will be praying for you and your family.
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- I will always remember the beautiful moment when I met you.
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- Goodbye with love and affection, Irvin.
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- God bless you, Alexander and family.
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- With much love, Maykes.
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- Goodbye with a strong hug.
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- I sponsor Lydia. She is six years old.
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She reminds me of my daughter, they're around the same age.
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And they're just so happy.
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It just brings joy to my life.
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- She was just a beautiful little girl.
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I just can't imagine somebody not being able to help her.
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And I'm just so thankful that it's Laurie and I.
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- My name is Ciara Elisse Harris.
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And I have not sat down and lived in one place for two years.
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I'm an actor on the first national tour of Dear Evan Hanson.
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And for the past two years,
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I have been traveling the country performing with the show.
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So you can imagine how this new way of life felt for me.
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I couldn't believe that finally, after all this time,
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I was going to get to unpack.
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I wasn't thinking about not being able to go to work
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or not seeing my friends
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or the fact that I'd be moving back in with my parents.
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All I was thinking about was
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how I finally got the chance to rest.
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So it didn't hit me until week three
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when I realized what I was actually asking for.
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Now I am a routine person.
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00:18:55
I spent the past two years of my life with the mindset
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of what can I do today
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before I have to be at the theater tonight?
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00:19:02
Which meant a lot of planning
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and making use of my time every single day.
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00:19:07
But with quarantine, the question became,
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how many things can I do today
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before I end up on the couch and it feels justifiable?
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Before this, I had a plan.
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I was going to finish the tour, move to New York,
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finally have a designated grocery store
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00:19:22
and audition for Broadway.
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But since there was no plan to work towards,
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I felt purposeless.
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I didn't know what God wanted me to do
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and I felt like everything I was supposed to do
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had been taken from me.
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Then on top of all of this, everything shuts down:
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live events, concerts, sports games,
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00:19:42
everything until further notice.
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00:19:45
So while I'm stuck at home trying to make Zoom my new normal
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00:19:49
and find something positive on the news,
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00:19:52
I come across this article that says:
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the arts are not essential.
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But listen, this is nothing new.
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I went to college and got my BFA degree
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at the Cincinnati College Conservatory of Music.
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Here's the difference between
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telling someone you're going to school for theater
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and telling someone you're going to school to be a doctor.
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If you tell someone you're going to school to be a doctor,
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the response is usually like, "Wow, that's incredible.
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You're going to be so successful and set for life."
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But if you tell someone you're going to school for theater,
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the response is usually like,
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00:20:27
"Oh, what's your survival job going to be?
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Do you have a backup plan?
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Will you be able to eat?"
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In our culture, being an artist is perceived
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00:20:38
as this struggling, broke, hanging by a thread person
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00:20:41
who's been making all these sacrifices to pursue a career,
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which I can't imagine is that much different
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than going to med school.
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But regardless of getting an education,
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00:20:51
regardless of talent, people are more concerned
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with whether or not you'll make money.
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00:20:56
And so they end up devaluing what you do.
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00:20:58
So when people binge things on Netflix
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00:21:01
or download their favorite singer's new album
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00:21:04
or hang a beautiful piece of art in their home,
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00:21:06
they forget that there is a living, breathing human
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00:21:09
behind that piece of art they are consuming
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00:21:11
who is incredibly passionate about what they do
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and clearly successful too,
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00:21:16
regardless of how often you find them talking to themselves.
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00:21:20
And when you go to the theater and you see a piece on stage
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00:21:23
that has characters that look like you,
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00:21:25
have the same anxiety as you
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00:21:27
or fell in love with someone who didn't love them back
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00:21:30
just like you, there is a healing that takes place.
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00:21:34
It's important to see stories written
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00:21:36
about the human experience because that makes us realize
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00:21:38
we are a lot more alike than we think we are.
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00:21:41
This detour 2020 has taken us on has proven
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00:21:46
that the arts have been the most consumed thing
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00:21:49
getting us through this time.
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Benefit concert streamed online,
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theater companies hosting play readings,
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00:21:54
and of course, the surprise release of Hamilton on Disney+
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00:21:59
so that all of us who have been trying to see the show
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00:22:01
for the last two years can finally watch it
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00:22:04
from the comfort of our own home.
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00:22:06
I mean, can you imagine how much happiness
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00:22:09
was spread around the world that night
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00:22:10
brought to you by the very people pursuing a career in theater?
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00:22:16
These moments have been monumental to people
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00:22:19
trying to find a bit of light in this very difficult time.
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00:22:23
With everything going on in this world,
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00:22:25
it's easy to feel lost when you've lost your job
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00:22:28
or your ability to do what you love
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00:22:30
and feel passionate about, it can take a toll on you.
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00:22:34
When I lost my job, I felt like I didn't know how to contribute.
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00:22:38
I kept waiting for God to tell me how to take action,
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00:22:41
how to move forward, how to find my purpose.
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00:22:45
But what I was really doing was fighting His attempt
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00:22:47
to tell me to just be where I was.
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00:22:51
God was saying, "I know it looks like
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00:22:53
you're even further away from what you really wanted,
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00:22:55
but just be here and see what you can find."
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00:23:00
If you have faith that God has you here for a reason,
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00:23:04
then you can have hope in His plan for you.
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00:23:07
And if I've learned anything during this time,
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00:23:09
it's this: God's plan never looks the way you think it will,
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00:23:13
and it never arrives in the time you think it will.
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00:23:16
But it is always exactly what you never knew you needed.
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00:23:21
Artists all around the world have been doing what they can
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00:23:23
from where they are to bring people together,
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00:23:26
hosting panels about the racial injustice in our country,
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00:23:30
creating new songs about world peace,
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00:23:33
collaborating with people from different backgrounds.
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00:23:35
I thank God every day, that even without my job,
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00:23:38
I can still use my voice as an artist
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00:23:40
to talk about mental health, to encourage positivity,
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00:23:44
and to spread healing to the world
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00:23:46
by letting people know that they are not alone.
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00:23:50
If I can do all of that from behind my computer screen,
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00:23:53
there is nothing you can't set your mind to.
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00:23:56
So if you are an actor who was just about to start your career
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00:24:00
or a mom who was planning to use this time
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00:24:02
to finally find yourself after your kids left the house
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00:24:06
or someone who is about to take that trip
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00:24:08
you've always dreamed of
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00:24:10
or anyone who feels uncertain of their future,
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00:24:14
just know this: you are still valuable.
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00:24:18
And all this means is that God has other plans
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00:24:21
to use you and bless you in your life.
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00:24:26
So don't be afraid to start where you are
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00:24:28
and do something right here, no matter how big,
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00:24:31
no matter how small, no matter how essential.
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00:24:48
- In a world that is often disconnected,
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00:24:52
negative, and stifling, my team and I
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00:24:55
have been on a mission to bring people together
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00:24:58
where they can grow inside of a positive
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00:25:00
and encouraging environment.
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00:25:02
And on the afternoon of March 16th, 2020,
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00:25:05
I received news that would make
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00:25:07
an already challenging mission nearly impossible.
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00:25:11
My name is Alex Harbin and I'm the founder
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00:25:13
and operator of a gym in Cincinnati, Ohio,
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00:25:16
called Iron Sharpens Iron.
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00:25:18
And I get it, I get it.
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00:25:19
When you hear me say gym, you already have an idea
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00:25:21
of what it's like, a bunch of muscle bound bro
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00:25:23
sitting around drinking protein shakes,
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00:25:26
talking about hitting their macros and bench press PRs.
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00:25:29
But I promise that's not us at all.
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00:25:32
You see, we are a community of diverse individuals
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00:25:35
from different racial, economical, occupational backgrounds.
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00:25:39
We're all different ages, genders, races, shapes and sizes.
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00:25:44
We don't all think the same. We don't look the same.
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00:25:46
We don't even believe the same.
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00:25:47
But we do all know that you can come as you are,
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00:25:51
but you don't have to stay as you are.
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00:25:54
You see the gym for many people
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00:25:56
beyond Iron Sharpens Iron is a place of peace,
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00:25:59
a place of stress relief.
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00:26:00
For some, it's therapy.
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00:26:02
For some it's an escape.
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00:26:03
But for all of us, it's a place
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00:26:05
where we can choose challenge and create change in our lives.
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00:26:09
But what happens when challenge chooses you?
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00:26:14
That's exactly the question I was faced with on March 16th
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00:26:18
when I received orders that I had to shut my business down
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00:26:21
with no return dating sight.
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00:26:24
And I knew when I turned the lights off that day
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00:26:27
at Iron Sharpens Iron, it may have been for the last time.
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00:26:31
I, like many of us, upon receiving news of a shutdown,
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00:26:36
began to experience a wide range of emotion.
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00:26:40
I went from angry and confused
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00:26:42
to moments of happiness and clarity.
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00:26:44
I went from moments of discouragement
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00:26:47
to moments of encouragement from doubt
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00:26:49
to full certainty of what was to come.
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00:26:52
If there was an emotion to be had, I was having it
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00:26:56
all within about five minutes.
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00:26:59
I felt like life was just happening to me,
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00:27:01
like I was having this outer body experience.
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00:27:04
It was like I was watching eight years of hard work
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00:27:08
and building trust and rapport with the community,
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00:27:11
thousands of lives impacted in a positive way
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00:27:15
was all brought to a halt with no sign
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00:27:18
of when it was going to be able to come back, if ever.
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00:27:21
I felt helpless, I felt like I was at the mercy
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00:27:24
of things completely out of my control.
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00:27:27
But it was in that moment that I heard an invitation from God.
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00:27:31
He said, "Commit to expansion."
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00:27:35
Commit to expansion?
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00:27:37
How am I supposed to do that? Everything is closed.
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00:27:40
People aren't coming in, revenue's not coming in.
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00:27:43
I've got a seven month old daughter
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00:27:45
and a wife that are depending on me.
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00:27:47
I have people that come to the gym.
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00:27:48
I have people that work at the gym that are depending on that.
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00:27:51
How do you expand when everything is being chopped down?
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00:27:55
I didn't know how expansion would happen.
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00:27:59
I just knew that that invitation from God
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00:28:02
was a reminder that I still had a choice.
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00:28:07
No matter what was happening in the world around me
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00:28:10
or to me, God reminded me that I still had a choice
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00:28:14
on how to respond and reacted to those things,
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00:28:18
and I still had a mission.
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00:28:20
And going back to that mission
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00:28:22
brought me clarity on how to move forward.
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00:28:25
I had to decide, were we still on mission
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00:28:28
or was it time to abandon ship?
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00:28:30
Could we still bring people together?
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00:28:32
Could we still help them grow?
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00:28:34
Could we create a positive and encouraging environment
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00:28:37
even though we didn't have a physical space to do it in?
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00:28:40
I chose to say yes to God's inviting
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00:28:43
and within just a few short days,
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00:28:46
we created a YouTube page where we uploaded workouts
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00:28:48
for people to perform at home.
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00:28:50
We began to lead live workouts through Zoom.
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00:28:53
We even led one for Crossroads on Instagram live.
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00:28:57
One night a week, people would show up
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00:28:58
from all over the city of Cincinnati, the country,
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00:29:01
and even the world to hear a few encouraging words
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00:29:04
and to break a sweat together.
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00:29:06
This was still a business,
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00:29:08
remember we still had to generate income.
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00:29:11
But another bold decision we made
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00:29:14
was to give away all of these services.
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00:29:16
Now I get it, giving away your services
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00:29:19
isn't the best business plan.
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00:29:20
But we were on a mission and we wanted
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00:29:22
to increase positivity and we thought we could
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00:29:24
do that more effectively through generosity.
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00:29:27
And wouldn't you know it, people were generous right back
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00:29:29
and still found a way to support us financially,
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00:29:32
even though we didn't ask for it.
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00:29:35
God invited me to commit to expansion
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00:29:38
in a time where everything was shrinking back.
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00:29:41
I didn't know how He would do it,
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00:29:43
I just knew that His invite was the first reminder
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00:29:46
that I still had a choice.
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00:29:49
Even though it felt like life was happening to me
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00:29:51
and things were happening all around me,
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00:29:53
God reminded me that I still had a choice
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00:29:57
on how I responded and reacted to those things.
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00:30:00
Over the past few months, I've never been more aware
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00:30:03
of the sadness and the despair
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00:30:06
that we experience in our world.
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00:30:08
And yet at the same time, I've never been more aware
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00:30:12
of the hope and the peace that we have in God.
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00:30:16
And we have weathered the storm so far as a business.
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00:30:19
And and I say so far, because the reality is
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00:30:23
this is still a story that's unfolding.
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00:30:26
Things seem to be changing by the minute.
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00:30:28
But you know what's not changing is God.
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00:30:32
God is still growing.
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00:30:33
He's still expanding His kingdom
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00:30:36
and He's still sending that invitation to all of us
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00:30:40
that when we commit to God, we commit to expansion,
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00:30:45
expansion of our faith, expansion of His grace,
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00:30:50
expansion of His presence in our lives,
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00:30:53
expansion of our reality that He is our ultimate provider
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00:30:56
and not anything that we have in this world.
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00:31:00
I don't know where you are in this whole thing,
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00:31:02
but I do know this:
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00:31:03
God is calling you to expand in something.
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00:31:11
- Even though we don't always understand what God is doing,
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00:31:14
we can choose to trust Him and engage in worship.
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00:31:17
We can declare that we believe
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00:31:19
that what He wants for us is good.
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00:41:16
- I hope you were encouraged today or helped with something.
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00:41:19
And if you want to interact with somebody more on this,
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00:41:22
you can go to Crossroads.net
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00:41:23
and we'll have somebody chat with you.
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00:41:25
It's a real live person who would love to interact with you.
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00:41:28
And if you'd like to get some more things
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00:41:30
that could spark something inside of you,
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00:41:32
you can go to sparktalks.net and look at our archive.
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00:41:37
Thanks for being with us today.
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00:41:38
We'll see you next week.
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00:41:40
- Crossroads is a church that is about
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00:41:42
more than just a video a week,
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00:41:44
but we actually want to help you take the next step
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00:41:47
in your spiritual adventure from anywhere you are right now.
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00:41:50
I'm Lena and I'd love to get you connected to community.
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00:41:52
And one of the ways to do that is
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00:41:54
if you chat with us on the Crossroads website.
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00:41:56
Just head to Crossroads.net
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00:41:58
and click on the chat button and we'll chat with you soon.