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- I have a dream that one day:
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- Hey, welcome to Crossroads
and a special welcome
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to anyone who is joining
us for the first time.
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I'm Sean, a community coach
for Crossroads Anywhere,
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which means I'm here to
help you build community
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wherever you are.
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Now Crossroads is a church
of people meeting in person
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and digitally all
over the country,
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and we're so glad that
you joined us today.
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You're joining us
for our second week
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in the book of Nehemiah,
where we're talking about
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bridging the gap between
the vision of our life
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and how to make it real.
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But before we dive into that,
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we're going to spend some
time in worship through song.
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We call it our
prayers set to music,
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and this is a way to put
our attention towards God
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and to tell Him that
we want more of Him
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and what He wants
to do in our lives.
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So turn up the
volume, go full screen,
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and let's get started.
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- Following the Lord,
we're following Jesus.
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He is real. He is present.
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He is with us, even
right here in this moment.
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I want you to sing
this with me right here.
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You're more than a story.
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- Hey, I don't know
if this is true for you,
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but for me, I think it's weird
to sing about someone's blood.
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Like, unless it's a T
Swift breakup song,
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it's pretty weird, right?
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But here's why we
embrace the weird.
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Because we believe
something miraculous
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and mysterious happens
because of the blood of Jesus.
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Think of it like this.
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Blood represents life.
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It represents power,
inheritance, sacrifice.
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We believe there's
something miraculous done
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by Jesus giving
of His own blood,
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by laying down His life.
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Like, we actually believe
these words of this verse,
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written -- Let me
do face ID. Got it.
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Now it's got my face.
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These words, written
after Jesus died on a Cross,
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rose again, and
the writer says this:
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In Jesus we have
redemption through His blood,
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the forgiveness
of our trespasses,
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according to the
riches of His grace,
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which he lavished upon us.
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Everybody do what I
do, I have my kids do
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when we read this
verse, say lavished.
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Come on, say it
better. Say lavished.
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If singing about
blood wasn't weird,
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maybe it's weird for you
to say lavished like that.
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Embrace the weird,
because love and blood
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go hand in hand with this King.
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It's what He laid down
for you to give us life.
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Sing about that freedom.
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- That's what his
blood did for us.
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[crying]
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- She's beautiful, guys.
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- Oh, it is so good to see you.
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- We don't want more
friends, we want real friends.
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Friends who make
us feel like we belong.
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Imagine being
able to be yourself
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and still be accepted. No
judgments. No fine print.
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Groups are a safe
space to be who we are
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and grow together.
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Life is better
together. Join a group.
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- Well, hey, I've
got a few things
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I want to put on
your radar today.
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And they're all
around community,
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which is something I am
super passionate about.
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First off is the Connect Event
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special for a Crossroads
Anywhere community
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on Sunday, January
14th from 12 to 1 p.m..
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You know, Crossroads
is a movement of people
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meeting in person and
digitally all over the country,
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and this event is meant
for you to meet others
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in our community digitally
and learn more about
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how you might be able to meet
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and connect with others
in your physical area.
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Plus, we'll even hook
you up with a free gift card
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for just attending,
so don't miss it!
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Join us on Sunday,
January 14th from 12 to 1
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and RSVP at
Crossroads.net/anywhere.
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Now, if you can't make
it to the connect event,
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there are still other ways
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to get connected to
community around here.
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One of the best ways is to
find a group to be a part of.
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Whether you're simply
looking to connect
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with others in a
similar life stage,
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seeking spiritual growth,
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or deep healing in
an area of your life,
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we have options for you.
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We have hundreds of
groups waiting for you
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in person and digitally,
and you can find out
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more information by going
to crossroads.net/groups.
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Now, one of my favorite
weekends of the year
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is coming up just
around the corner.
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It's Super Bowl Sunday
and at Crossroad,
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it's not just
about the football.
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You know, many years
ago we took the weekend
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when nobody went to church
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and we turned it
into an experience.
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It became our highest
attended weekend of the year.
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It will be loud, it will
be unpredictable,
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and it probably should have
gotten us shut down years ago.
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It's the Super
Bowl of Preaching,
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and there's going to be a
great experience for you
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beyond watching
the crazy thing online.
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Now, if you're a part of
our Anywhere community,
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you can sign up to
receive a kit from us
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that will help you host your
own experience at home.
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If you want to host friends to
stream the service with you,
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use it for that.
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Or if you'd rather just
watch the actual Super Bowl
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and throw a party
with your friends,
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we'd love to help
make that happen.
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We have 50 kits available
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and they're first
come, first serve.
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Now head on over to
Crossroads.net/anywhere
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to sign up for your kit,
and we'll mail it to you
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wherever you are.
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Now, if you're wondering
about who funds this place,
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the Connect events,
this online experience,
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let's be clear on who is not.
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There are no corporate sponsors
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or franchise affiliations.
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It's simply the generosity
of everyday people
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in our community
that fuels live change
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that we experience around here.
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You can be a part
of that generosity,
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or if you just
want to learn more
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about what we believe about it,
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you can go to
crossroads.net/give.
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Now, today we're
continuing to talk about vision.
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Let's dive in as Chuck
Mingo talks about
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having a plan and how to
get the tools to execute it.
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- I know, like you want --
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Good news, Chuck
is speaking tonight.
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- We love Brian.
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- I know, but I
know they like you
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better than they like me.
You say that all the time.
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I understand, I understand,
but he is speaking.
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He's got a good talk tonight.
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I'm looking forward to
hearing it myself. Excuse me.
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I should've say
something different there.
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- Okay.
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Because this is, uh, this
is going to go to all sites.
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So I should have said this.
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Actually, it's Thursday night.
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This is very fun, isn't it?
- It is.
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- What if we just start over?
- We could just read it.
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- Because I said tonight
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and I should be
saying today because
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they're going to be
watching this on Sunday.
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See how good you are
Thursday, first time.
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- Yes.
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- You get the raw, you
get the raw Crossroads
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and everybody else gets
like this. [indiscernible]
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- Here's here's a good
news. Good news is this,
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good news is this, Chuck
is actually speaking today.
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He's speaking today.
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I know you like
him more than me.
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You tell me that all
the time. I know that.
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So he's speaking today,
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and we're going to
let him do his thing.
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But first, before he does that,
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I got really good
stuff that's going on
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I want to make
everyone aware of.
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Chuck was on staff for
full time staff for how long?
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- 15, 15 years?
- 15 years.
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And then how long did you
go into on to part time staff?
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- It's been about 2
years now, a little bit over.
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- So two years ago
he's on part time staff.
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He teaches here,
does some other things.
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But he is the leader,
the director for --
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- Yeah, for Undivided.
So Undivided is a -- yes.
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Got some Undivided
love in the house.
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And Undivided is a
ministry that really is enabling
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the church to love
and lead well on race.
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That's what we're doing.
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We've been doing it in churches
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and also in organizations
across the country.
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- So good news on that
is that people have noticed
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in the publishing industry
across the country,
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like, yeah, this
guy's got a voice,
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him and a buddy of his
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who's also part of our
church, Troy Jackson.
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They said, would
you write a book
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on this whole race thing?
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And they have and they've
included me in the editing.
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I didn't write anything
but ran some drafts by me
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and stuff like
that. It's really cool.
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And that book is available.
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It's really, really solid.
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It's just really, it's really
cool that our church
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gets to be a part of that,
especially, you know,
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we've taken our lumps
on race around here.
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- Oh, yeah.
- You know, all of our country
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has take our lumps on race,
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on both sides, not
talking about it right.
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It's not talking about
not enough times.
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It's not whatever it is.
And we've been in that.
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But it's also a tension
we choose to stay in
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because God wants all people
to be undivided and to be one.
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And so we're thankful
to be on that journey
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here at Crossroads
and thankful for you
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that you've done this
book. Dude, well done.
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- Thank you. - Fantastic.
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- Thank you.
- How's it feel to be an author?
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- It's amazing. It's
been a surreal week
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and I'm just so
grateful. I've been --
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My two words have been
gladness and gratitude.
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And I have a lot
of it, particularly
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for our community here
at Crossroads. Yeah.
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- Well, and you're
also going to bless us
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because you got a
special deal for us
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in case we should
happen to read that book.
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- Absolutely. Yeah.
You know, I want
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the friends and family discount
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for my friends and family
at Crossroads, right?
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So Baker Publishing
has said that effective,
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I think February -- not
February, through February 29th
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they're going to
give you, Crossroads,
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40% off of however many
books you want to buy.
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So you can go to Baker Books.
I think we've got a QR code.
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There's a little code
there, CROSSROADS24.
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If that's a blessing to you
or someone in your life,
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want you to definitely
not have to pay full price
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because your friends and
family. So there you go.
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- Well, you have, been
a fantastic friend to me,
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fantastic leader around here,
communicator around here.
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We're thankful that we get
to be in ministry with you,
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and we're ecstatic to
see how God's using you
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in ways that are beyond
the Crossroads hemisphere.
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So well done, good
and faithful servant.
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- Thank you so much. Thank you.
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- Love you.
- Love you, man.
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- All right, so I got
a question, though.
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Here's my question: is
it too late into January
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to say Happy New Year?
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- No.
- Okay, well, happy new year.
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Happy New Year, everybody.
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It's really great to be here.
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And I love how we're
kicking this year off
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with this series
that's based on one of
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my favorite, favorite
characters in the Bible,
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the character of Nehemiah.
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And we're going
to get into that.
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But I want you to know,
today we're talking about
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the spiritual
practice of planning.
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Yes, you heard me correctly.
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I believe that planning
is a spiritual discipline,
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that it is a practice that we
see modeled in the Bible,
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we see modeled
in the life of Jesus,
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we see modeled in
the character of God.
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Now some of you
are super excited.
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Who's planners in the house?
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Planners in the house are
like, you know what?
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I wish you'd have told me
that because I would have
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planned to have somebody here
who needs to hear this message.
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I know that because
that's how the planners think.
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How many of you are on
the other side of the equation,
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you're just not into planning?
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In fact, I'm going to
have you raise your hand,
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but you're a little bit annoyed
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because you're
planning to do something.
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It's like, "Chuck, that's
not spontaneous enough."
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Who are the non
planners in the house?
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How many of those do we have?
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All right. So yeah,
you know we can be
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on different extremes
when it comes to planning.
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I know for me I am a
planner, I am a planner.
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And obviously I'm not alone,
especially at this time of year.
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Planners, journals, calendars
is a $1 billion industry.
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So somebody's making
a whole lot of money
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on people who want to plan.
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In fact, I came across
this quote. It said:
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Anybody guilty of
that? Yes. Okay. Right.
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Yeah, yeah. Just
keeping it real.
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And, you know, yet all of
us may have some struggle
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with this concept of planning.
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I actually am a
planner. I love to plan.
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I go through a whole
process at the end of the year
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to do this kind of planning
thing and set goals.
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I'm not a resolutions person,
but I am a goals person.
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Like, I like a goals with a
spreadsheet kind of person.
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That's who I am
and I love the plan.
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But here's the thing,
with me I realize
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there's two ditches
that I can fall into
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as it relates to planning.
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The one side of that
ditch is I can actually
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really get upset when things
don't go according to my plan.
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So that's one of the things
that I can fall into the ditch.
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But here's the other one.
I told you, I have spreadsheets.
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I have those kind
of strategic plans.
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I can get enamored with
what's on the spreadsheet
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more than I'm enamored with
taking what's in the spreadsheet
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and waking up every day
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and doing the hard
work of making it a reality.
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And so maybe you're a planner.
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Maybe you're not a planner.
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But all of us have
something, a vision
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that we want to
bring about to reality.
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A God given vision.
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You see, we got vision
over here kind of reflected
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as part of the journey.
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And then we've
got over here reality.
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And what is in between?
The messy middle.
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What is up with this wall?
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This is clearly unfinished.
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This isn't anything that
we would say is complete.
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And in the middle of
your vision and reality
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is exactly where we need a plan.
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Now, here's the thing.
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I believe, because planning
is a spiritual discipline,
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that you have a spiritual enemy
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that wants to come
against your planning.
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Look at what Jesus says
in John 10:10. He says:
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I believe that one of
the things the enemy
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wants to steal,
kill, and destroy
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are visions that
God has given you.
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I think there are people
who are here today
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that have God sized vision,
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something that God
has put in your heart.
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00:26:05
Maybe it's a personal vision.
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00:26:06
Maybe it's a family vision.
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00:26:07
Maybe it's an
organizational vision.
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00:26:09
Maybe it's a vision
for your community.
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00:26:11
Maybe it's a vision
for your street,
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your block, whatever it
is, God has put it there
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00:26:15
and yet it will be opposed.
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00:26:17
We don't plan in
a vacuum, right?
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00:26:19
Life is difficult.
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00:26:21
Anybody realize
that life is difficult?
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00:26:24
Life is hard. Life is difficult.
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00:26:25
And so we'll spend a lot
of time in the messy middle.
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00:26:28
But the big idea today is this:
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The only way to fill the gap
between vision and reality
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is with a God given plan.
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00:26:35
We need a plan,
and we see that God
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has in His character this
idea and passion for planning.
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00:26:42
One of my favorite verses is
Jeremiah 29:11, which says:
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And I believe these words
are some of the ideas
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that Nehemiah, this
character in the Bible,
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had to hold on to
in his messy middle.
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00:27:04
Nehemiah was a historical
character in the Bible
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whose homeland was
Israel and his hometown,
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if you were, the most
important city in that area,
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was the city of Jerusalem.
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But when we come
to Nehemiah's story,
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00:27:18
he's not in Jerusalem because
Jerusalem had been sacked.
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00:27:20
It had been conquered
by another king.
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00:27:22
And he's actually a
servant to that other king.
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00:27:26
But every now and then
there were some people
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00:27:28
who had left
behind in Jerusalem,
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00:27:29
but they weren't
doing really well.
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00:27:31
The walls were broken down.
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00:27:32
It was not a good situation.
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00:27:33
They were under oppression,
and they were not able
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00:27:35
to live fully into the identity
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00:27:36
that God had for
them as a people,
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00:27:38
and certainly the
vision that God had
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00:27:40
for the city of Jerusalem.
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00:27:41
And so this comes to Nehemiah,
and it breaks his heart.
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00:27:45
And Brian talked last
week about what happens
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00:27:47
from that point is
Nehemiah gets a vision,
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00:27:50
and his vision is, "I
want to go to Jerusalem
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00:27:53
and I want to rebuild that wall.
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00:27:55
I want to actually
make a difference
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00:27:57
in the lives of the
people of God."
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00:27:59
He wants to go
from vision to reality.
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00:28:03
And what we're
going to look at today
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00:28:04
is how does Nehemiah
walk out that plan?
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00:28:08
And I want to say this, like,
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00:28:10
hearing as you're in
captivity that there is
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00:28:12
a city miles away
that needs to be rebuilt
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00:28:16
is what is called a BHAG.
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00:28:18
Does anybody know
what that means?
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00:28:20
It is a big, hairy,
audacious goal.
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00:28:25
A big, hairy, audacious goal.
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00:28:27
And I'm guessing that if
we were to get together
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00:28:29
and connect, maybe there's
something stirring in you.
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00:28:32
And one of the reasons
you don't even want to claim it
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00:28:34
is because it's a BHAG.
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00:28:36
It's a big, hairy,
audacious goal.
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00:28:39
And yet it may be the very thing
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00:28:41
that God is calling you to.
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00:28:43
If that's true, then
I want you to lean,
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00:28:45
I want to help you lean
into the four essentials
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00:28:48
of the spiritual
discipline of planning,
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00:28:50
things we see in the
story of Nehemiah.
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00:28:52
And the first is you
have to confront reality.
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00:28:56
You have to confront reality.
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00:28:58
Look at what it says
in Nehemiah 2:12:
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00:29:12
So Nehemiah is
doing this at night.
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00:29:14
He's doing it with a
small group of people.
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00:29:15
He's really trying to be low
key. What is he doing? He says:
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00:29:25
He's walking around and he's
seeing these broken down walls,
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00:29:27
and he's looking at all of the
things that would need to happen
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00:29:30
for this place to be
strengthened. He said:
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00:30:01
So the first thing
Nehemiah does is
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00:30:03
he confronts reality
and what is his reality?
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00:30:07
It's broken down walls.
It's broken down walls.
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00:30:10
One of the books
that has inspired me
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00:30:12
as it relates to
planning is called
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00:30:14
The Redemptive
Nonprofit, and it's from
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00:30:16
an organization
called Praxis Labs.
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00:30:17
And this is one of the
things they talk about
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00:30:19
when they talk about
planning. They say:
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00:30:34
They're talking about
the spiritual discipline
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00:30:36
of planning and the
need to confront reality.
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00:30:39
And I'm drawn to this
three fold illustration
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00:30:42
of reality: dignity,
tragedy, and possibility.
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00:30:48
What does it mean to confront
the dignity of your reality?
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00:30:52
It means this: that
we are not failures.
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00:30:55
We are image bearers.
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00:30:57
That we are literally
created with the capacity
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00:30:59
to make and create things that
serve people and honor God.
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00:31:04
So one of the things that
you have to ask yourself is,
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00:31:06
is my vision rooted in
the dignity of other people
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00:31:10
or am I in this for myself?
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00:31:12
Is my vision actually something
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00:31:14
that's going to
degrade other people,
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00:31:16
or is it going to
build people up?
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00:31:18
We have to confront the reality
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00:31:19
that God is not going
to bless your vision
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00:31:21
if the vision is selfish and
actually harms other people.
-
00:31:24
God is not going to bless that.
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00:31:25
But if there is something
God has put in your heart
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00:31:28
that recognizes and elevates
the dignity of the individual,
-
00:31:31
even if it's you, hey, I
want to get my life different.
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00:31:33
I want to grow, I want
to change, I want to heal.
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00:31:35
That's something that
taps into the dignity
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00:31:38
that is essential
for any Godly plan.
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00:31:41
But here's the second thing
we have to confront the tragedy.
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00:31:45
And what is the tragedy?
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00:31:46
The tragedy is because of
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00:31:49
something called
the sinful nature,
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00:31:50
everything that we do
in this world is tainted
-
00:31:54
by the impact and
the effect of sin.
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00:31:57
So even some of my best ideas
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00:31:59
aren't going to be great ideas
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00:32:01
because they're
tainted and impacted.
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00:32:03
And I have to be willing
to confront that reality.
-
00:32:06
In fact, I've got
some bricks up here
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00:32:08
to just help us kind
of lock in the things
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00:32:10
that must be true if we're
going to build this plan.
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00:32:13
As you confront
reality, one of the things
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00:32:17
that you have to be
willing to do is reflect.
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00:32:18
I, like I told you, I've got
spreadsheets. I love the plan.
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00:32:21
And so it was doing that
work over the Christmas break.
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00:32:25
Nd usually I'm really
excited to get to the,
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00:32:27
okay, what's my
word for the year?
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00:32:29
What are the 3 or 4
things I'm going to go after?
-
00:32:31
And I did that, but that
was way, way less time
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00:32:35
than the time I spent
really reflecting in 2023.
-
00:32:38
I went through
five areas of my life,
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00:32:40
went through my spiritual
life, my relationships,
-
00:32:43
my intellectual
life, my physical life
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00:32:46
and my financial life.
-
00:32:47
And I just asked some really
good and honest questions.
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00:32:50
First, what's good
in these areas?
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00:32:52
Where is God blessing?
What is God doing?
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00:32:54
And then I asked the question,
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00:32:56
what's broken in these areas?
-
00:32:58
And I sat in some of the
disappointments of 2023.
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00:33:02
I sat in some of the
ways that I didn't do
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00:33:04
what I said I was
going to do in 2023,
-
00:33:06
and I sat in that
honestly with God.
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00:33:09
And I want to tell you, I
didn't need as much time
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00:33:12
to set goals because
sitting in that reality,
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00:33:15
reckoning with the
tragedy was enough for me
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00:33:18
to know very clearly, "Here is
where God is calling me to go."
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00:33:22
It was a powerful way
to reflect on the year,
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00:33:25
but thankfully we don't have
to stay stuck in the tragedy.
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00:33:29
Yes, there's probably things
you started and didn't finish.
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00:33:31
Yes, there may be plans that
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00:33:33
you don't know how
you're going to achieve,
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00:33:34
but I love Nehemiah's hope
in the midst of the tragedy.
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00:33:38
Yes, he inspects the walls.
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00:33:39
He sees all that's broken.
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00:33:41
But this is what he says
when he finally goes public
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00:33:44
in Nehemiah 2:17, he says:
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00:33:48
You all see it. You see
the broken down walls.
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00:33:50
And we have these in our
lives, our broken down walls.
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00:33:52
But listen to what
he says. He says:
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00:34:00
What I love about
Nehemiah's vision is that
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00:34:02
it was never really
just about the wall,
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00:34:05
but what he understood
was the rebuilding of the wall
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00:34:08
was going to be the catalyst
-
00:34:09
for God to do the work
of rebuilding people.
-
00:34:12
Every plan that is worthwhile,
ultimately, is about people.
-
00:34:17
It's about building up
people who God loves
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00:34:20
and cares about, including you.
-
00:34:23
God has plans for
your life because
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00:34:25
He wants to build you up.
-
00:34:26
He is not content
with you staying with
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00:34:28
the broken down
walls in your life.
-
00:34:30
He wants to build you up.
-
00:34:31
Our God is in the
redemption business.
-
00:34:33
He's in the reconstruction
business, if you will.
-
00:34:36
You can trust that that is what
He wants to do in your life.
-
00:34:39
But we have to be
willing to confront reality.
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00:34:42
Now, what is the other
thing that Nehemiah needs?
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00:34:44
After he confronts
reality, he recognizes
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00:34:46
he needs to lean
into relationships.
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00:34:49
When you read the
book of Nehemiah,
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00:34:51
you will read a bunch of names.
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00:34:53
In fact, a lot of us are
doing this right now.
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00:34:54
We have a Bible challenge
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00:34:56
and you can join us
in the Crossroads App.
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00:34:57
There's a daily
reading we're all doing.
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00:34:59
We're reading through
this book together.
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00:35:01
And you'll notice a lot
of names in Nehemiah.
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00:35:04
It was important
for him to recognize
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00:35:07
the relationships and
the interconnectedness
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00:35:09
that he had with other people.
-
00:35:11
You know, this
weekend, as we remember
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00:35:13
the legacy of Doctor
Martin Luther King,
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00:35:14
one of the interesting
insights about his life
-
00:35:17
was highlighted
in an interview that
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00:35:19
me and Troy Jackson,
my coauthor, did with Brian
-
00:35:21
on his Aggressive Life podcast.
-
00:35:22
It's coming out on MLK
day, and it's this idea
-
00:35:26
that we often think
about King as kind of
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00:35:28
this self-made leader, right?
-
00:35:29
Like, you know, heard
a calling from God
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00:35:31
on the mountaintop and
begin to lead the people.
-
00:35:33
But that's actually
not the story.
-
00:35:35
When Martin Luther King
was in Montgomery, Alabama,
-
00:35:37
it was actually the
people around him
-
00:35:39
who were already
organizing around
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00:35:42
the Montgomery bus
boycott, already training people
-
00:35:45
on nonviolent resistance,
already enabling people
-
00:35:48
like Rosa Parks to
be ready for a moment
-
00:35:50
when it was time to take
this campaign into action.
-
00:35:53
And in many ways,
that group of leaders,
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00:35:55
everyday people,
shaped Martin Luther King.
-
00:35:58
Troy, my co-founder,
also had his PhD,
-
00:36:01
he did a PhD on King and made
it a book called Becoming King.
-
00:36:04
And I love what he
says here. He says:
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00:36:16
You know, I will
honestly say the book
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00:36:19
that Troy and I
wrote would not exist
-
00:36:21
had it not been
for our relationship.
-
00:36:23
Because in 2014 I met
Troy in the Oakley Atrium
-
00:36:27
by the fireplace for
the very first time.
-
00:36:29
Actually, Brian introduced
us to each other.
-
00:36:31
And Troy, at that time,
had the ability to call me up
-
00:36:36
and call me in to God's heart
-
00:36:39
for racial healing and justice,
-
00:36:40
and it sparked something in me
-
00:36:42
that God took and
continued to grow.
-
00:36:45
It was a seed that
began to germinate.
-
00:36:47
I put it this way: Troy
has the blackest name
-
00:36:50
you could think of, but Troy
is a 53 year old white guy.
-
00:36:53
So if you were thinking
about Troy as a black guy,
-
00:36:56
he is not. We couldn't
be more different.
-
00:36:58
He's from Anderson, Indiana.
-
00:36:59
I'm from Philadelphia,
Pennsylvania.
-
00:37:00
We have very
different musical styles.
-
00:37:02
Let's just say that, people
that were interested in,
-
00:37:04
his favorite songs
are songs I don't know.
-
00:37:06
And many of mine are
songs that he doesn't know.
-
00:37:08
But anyway, yes, you're right.
-
00:37:10
So that relationship, that
cross-cultural relationship
-
00:37:12
really became the fuel
and the crucible that was
-
00:37:15
growing me into the leader
God had called me to be.
-
00:37:18
And I think about
that, and I think about
-
00:37:20
the plans that you have,
the visions you have,
-
00:37:22
and I think you need
three kinds of people.
-
00:37:25
I think you need
counsel in your life.
-
00:37:28
Organizations have
a board of directors.
-
00:37:30
Here at Crossroads we
have a spiritual board, CEO,
-
00:37:32
you know, organizations all
over the world have counsel.
-
00:37:35
People who are really
guiding your journey.
-
00:37:38
I think we all need counsel.
-
00:37:39
But here's the other thing.
We need constituencies.
-
00:37:42
What do I mean when I say that?
-
00:37:43
Well, think about it in
terms of the political context.
-
00:37:46
If you're a representative,
you're representing
-
00:37:48
the people who voted for you.
-
00:37:50
And so your goal is to
represent their interests.
-
00:37:53
And I think about it this way.
-
00:37:54
When it comes to
plans in our lives,
-
00:37:57
who are we accountable to?
-
00:37:59
Who are the people
who have the right to say,
-
00:38:02
"You committed to this,
and I want that for you
-
00:38:04
and maybe even
need that from you."
-
00:38:06
We need a constituency.
-
00:38:08
I think about in my
life, when I've had
-
00:38:10
the most success at weight
loss and being healthy,
-
00:38:13
it wasn't because I
really wanted to look good
-
00:38:16
in clothing up on a
stage, that didn't do it.
-
00:38:18
That wasn't enough motivation.
-
00:38:19
But when I envisioned
my three kids having kids
-
00:38:22
and I envisioned
being a grandfather
-
00:38:24
who can actually
still get on a bike
-
00:38:26
and ride with his grandchildren.
-
00:38:27
When I envisioned
being a grandfather
-
00:38:29
who could be present for
the next generation of Mingos,
-
00:38:31
if God chooses to bring
more Mingos into the world,
-
00:38:34
that's been the motivation.
-
00:38:35
My kids, my wife
were the constituency
-
00:38:38
that motivated me to
follow through with my plans.
-
00:38:40
Who's your constituency
as you think about
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00:38:43
the plans that God
has in your life?
-
00:38:44
But then you also
need collaborators.
-
00:38:47
You need people who are
going to roll up their sleeves
-
00:38:49
and get in the
trenches with you.
-
00:38:50
In Nehemiah's
story we hear a lot,
-
00:38:52
and you'll hear a lot about
the people he collaborated with.
-
00:38:55
And it's one of the reasons why
-
00:38:57
we do groups at
Crossroads, because we want
-
00:38:59
you to have people in your life
-
00:39:01
who will roll up their
sleeves and do life with you.
-
00:39:04
So I'm excited that
one of the groups
-
00:39:06
that we're doing as we
launch groups in this season
-
00:39:08
is based on the book
Living Undivided.
-
00:39:10
And if you want to go to
Crossroads.net/Bookstudy,
-
00:39:12
you can learn more about that.
-
00:39:14
The groups are starting in
the week of January 22nd.
-
00:39:16
I'm going to be leading a group.
-
00:39:17
Others are going to be leading
groups all across the city,
-
00:39:20
all across the region,
and even across states.
-
00:39:21
There's going to be people
-
00:39:23
who are rolling up their
sleeves and saying, "Hey,
-
00:39:25
this is a vision God
has for the church.
-
00:39:26
How can we lean into it?"
-
00:39:28
And I'm excited about
that, because I know
-
00:39:30
what happens when
you get into groups.
-
00:39:32
When you get
around collaborators,
-
00:39:34
there's the
possibility of change
-
00:39:35
that isn't possible
any other kind of way.
-
00:39:38
So, you know, we
talked about it earlier.
-
00:39:40
If you want to do a group,
go to that site so we know,
-
00:39:43
so we can support
you and resource you.
-
00:39:45
There's going to
be video teachings
-
00:39:46
that Troy and I have
done, ten minute teachings
-
00:39:48
that will be a part of
every week of the group.
-
00:39:50
That's the way
you'll access those.
-
00:39:52
And if that's not good
enough, we're throwing a party
-
00:39:54
for everybody who does
the book study at the end,
-
00:39:56
and we want to
invite you to that.
-
00:39:58
And that's the way you'll
get plugged into that as well,
-
00:40:00
because we're hoping this
is the beginning of a journey
-
00:40:02
that we can continue to be
on as a community together.
-
00:40:05
So I want to encourage
you to think about that.
-
00:40:07
Now, maybe Living Undivided
is not the group for you.
-
00:40:09
We have a lot of other groups.
-
00:40:11
We have men's groups
and women's groups.
-
00:40:13
We have mom's
groups and dad's groups.
-
00:40:15
And maybe that's not
where you are in your life,
-
00:40:17
but you need healing.
-
00:40:18
We have amazing healing groups.
-
00:40:20
There are healing groups
like Divorce and Beyond
-
00:40:22
for people who have
experienced divorce.
-
00:40:24
I know for some of us there's
a grieving that happened.
-
00:40:26
Maybe you lost
someone in your life.
-
00:40:28
We've got groups for that.
-
00:40:29
I want you to
have collaborators.
-
00:40:31
God wants you to
have collaborators.
-
00:40:33
These are people who
help you stick to the plan
-
00:40:36
that God has for your life.
-
00:40:37
And the other thing
that groups give you,
-
00:40:39
what you need and what
Nehemiah needed was resilience.
-
00:40:44
Resilience.
-
00:40:45
Any plan that's going
to succeed has to have
-
00:40:49
an element of resilience because
-
00:40:51
you know what life will do?
-
00:40:53
You know what life will do?
-
00:40:54
Life will mess up
your plans. Life will.
-
00:40:57
Life will take you
off schedule, right?
-
00:40:59
Things will happen that
you couldn't anticipate.
-
00:41:02
And when that happens,
the only way that
-
00:41:05
you're going to be
able to continue with
-
00:41:07
what God has for
you is if you have
-
00:41:09
a measure of resilience.
-
00:41:11
I mean, think about this.
I think about, like,
-
00:41:13
what are great plans that
have happened in the world?
-
00:41:16
Amazing plans.
-
00:41:17
I think it's hard to
argue that a plan
-
00:41:20
that actually intended to
take men to space, the moon,
-
00:41:25
and bring them back in one
piece was a pretty elegant plan.
-
00:41:28
Would you agree with that?
-
00:41:30
That that was a
pretty elegant plan.
-
00:41:31
And yet, even with the
elegance of that plan,
-
00:41:34
even with the full weight
and power of the government,
-
00:41:37
even with the best engineers
on that plan and mission,
-
00:41:41
one of those missions
led to this famous line,
-
00:41:44
"Houston, we've had
a problem." Right?
-
00:41:48
And you got to
believe at that point,
-
00:41:50
the only -- one of the
-- one of the reasons,
-
00:41:51
I mean, I think there was a lot
of divine intervention there.
-
00:41:54
But one of the reasons
they were able to get these,
-
00:41:56
I mean, think about it,
-
00:41:57
they were 200,000
miles away from Earth.
-
00:42:00
They were literally living
on six ounces of water a day,
-
00:42:05
which is one fifth of
what a human needs.
-
00:42:07
And they were in
basically a small refrigerator
-
00:42:09
because the temperature
wouldn't go above 37 degrees.
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00:42:13
So when you think about
all that had to happen
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00:42:15
to solve that problem, it
took a ton of resilience.
-
00:42:19
And I want to tell you,
part of the resilience
-
00:42:21
was there because they had
done the planning process,
-
00:42:24
because they could name
what had gone wrong,
-
00:42:27
and they could start to
think about contingency plans
-
00:42:29
to make a difference.
-
00:42:30
And the fact that
in a narrow window,
-
00:42:32
they actually returned
those men home is a miracle.
-
00:42:35
It really is a miracle.
-
00:42:38
And yet it was
because of the resilience
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00:42:40
of those engineers,
it was because of
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00:42:42
the resilience of the astronauts
-
00:42:43
that they were
actually able to do that.
-
00:42:45
One of the things that
Troy and I experienced
-
00:42:47
in the writing process
was a setback,
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00:42:50
a significant setback.
-
00:42:51
Actually, the book
was going to launch
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00:42:53
this time last year, and it
was at the printer already.
-
00:42:58
And while it was at the
printer, we got some feedback
-
00:43:01
that was really challenging.
-
00:43:03
Feedback that said,
"Hey, I don't know
-
00:43:05
if this is the tone you
want for this book.
-
00:43:07
And I think there's
some missing pieces
-
00:43:08
and elements of this book."
-
00:43:10
And let me just
tell you, at the point
-
00:43:11
where your book
is at the printer,
-
00:43:13
that's the wrong time to
hear that kind of feedback.
-
00:43:15
And we had to make a choice.
-
00:43:17
And one of the choices
that was a legitimate choice
-
00:43:19
is we could have ignored
that feedback and said,
-
00:43:22
"We're pressing on ahead."
-
00:43:23
But here's what we both knew.
-
00:43:25
We both knew that the
people who were giving us
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00:43:27
that feedback were
what the Bible calls,
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00:43:30
it was wounds from a friend.
-
00:43:31
And the Bible says wounds
from a friend can be trusted.
-
00:43:35
And so the question became,
would we have the humility
-
00:43:38
to receive this
corrective feedback?
-
00:43:41
And then would we
have the courage
-
00:43:43
to actually trust God
and despite the cost
-
00:43:45
of pulling the book off
the printer and all of that
-
00:43:47
and all the things that
we had planned that
-
00:43:49
then had to shift
for another year,
-
00:43:51
would we be willing to
trust God and press in?
-
00:43:54
And I will tell you, I
am so glad that we did,
-
00:43:56
because there is no
doubt it's a better book.
-
00:43:59
It's a better book because
we had the resilience
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00:44:01
to work through that.
-
00:44:03
You know, we got feedback.
-
00:44:04
Nehemiah got pushback.
-
00:44:07
There were literally people
who wanted to kill him
-
00:44:09
and end his work.
-
00:44:11
At one point, it says
Nehemiah and his workers
-
00:44:13
were working with a
hammer in one hand
-
00:44:15
and swords in the other.
-
00:44:18
That's some pushback.
-
00:44:20
I don't know about your
plan, but my guess is
-
00:44:22
you're not out there
trying to lose weight
-
00:44:24
with, like, you know,
a treadmill in one hand
-
00:44:26
and a shotgun in the other.
I hope you're not doing that.
-
00:44:29
I hope things haven't
gotten that bad for you.
-
00:44:31
I hope people aren't opposing
your weight loss that bad.
-
00:44:34
I hope people aren't opposing
your new business that bad.
-
00:44:36
I hope people aren't opposing
-
00:44:37
you being in a healthy
relationship that bad.
-
00:44:39
But here's what I know.
-
00:44:40
I know for Nehemiah,
he had the resilience
-
00:44:43
to withstand even that level
of pushback. You know why?
-
00:44:46
Because he was able
to lean into relationships.
-
00:44:49
He leaned into relationships
with other people,
-
00:44:51
but he also leaned into
relationship with God.
-
00:44:53
See, his confidence in
the completion of his plan
-
00:44:55
had way less to
do with the people,
-
00:44:57
and it had way more to
do with the God of heaven.
-
00:45:00
This is what he says to that
pushback
-
00:45:01
in Nehemiah 2:20. He says:
-
00:45:08
So here's what I know,
all of us are going to have
-
00:45:11
a Houston, we've had
a problem moment.
-
00:45:13
Whatever your plan
is, there's going to be
-
00:45:15
a Houston, we've had
a problem moment.
-
00:45:17
It reminds me one
of the best quotes
-
00:45:18
I think Mike Tyson
ever said, which is that
-
00:45:20
everybody has a plan until
they get punched in the mouth.
-
00:45:22
Have you ever been
punched in the mouth?
-
00:45:24
Some of us are like,
-
00:45:25
"Yeah, I physically
have been punched in the mouth."
-
00:45:27
That's a whole different story.
-
00:45:29
I mean, have you been
punched in the mouth
-
00:45:30
as it relates to something
you want to go after?
-
00:45:33
Have you experienced
that kind of setback,
-
00:45:35
maybe that kind of pushback?
-
00:45:37
Here's the interesting thing.
-
00:45:39
Apollo 13 astronauts said this:
-
00:45:51
I think sometimes right
when we get to the point
-
00:45:54
where God is beginning
to take new ground,
-
00:45:57
right when we're at the point
-
00:45:59
where we're going
to start to see fruit
-
00:46:01
from the long, hard work
that God has called us to,
-
00:46:04
that's the very point
where the pushback
-
00:46:06
gets the most extreme,
and we're tempted to retreat.
-
00:46:10
And I just want
to say to you, hey,
-
00:46:11
what if that is the
very place where God
-
00:46:14
wants to begin a miraculous
recovery in your life?
-
00:46:17
What if that is the very
moment that God wants
-
00:46:20
to do something in you that
you never thought possible?
-
00:46:23
What if you're right at
the point of breakthrough?
-
00:46:26
What if you're right
at the point of change?
-
00:46:28
What if you're right at the
point of growth, of healing,
-
00:46:31
of experiencing God's
powerful work in your life?
-
00:46:33
And what you need to do
is have enough resilience
-
00:46:36
to trust that the God of
heaven will bring victory,
-
00:46:40
even when it seems
like all you see is defeat.
-
00:46:44
I want to encourage
you to lean in this year
-
00:46:47
to having that
kind of resilience.
-
00:46:50
And let me tell you
one way you can have it.
-
00:46:52
One way you can have
it is by really making
-
00:46:55
this idea of planning
something different
-
00:46:58
than if you don't
have God involved,
-
00:46:59
because I think that
one of the key pieces
-
00:47:02
of a godly spiritual practice
of planning is rejoicing.
-
00:47:06
And I don't mean rejoicing
when you cross the finish line.
-
00:47:09
See, the Bible says,
rejoice in the Lord always.
-
00:47:13
And again I say rejoice.
-
00:47:14
The Bible tells us that
we don't have to wait
-
00:47:17
for the victory to
begin to rejoice in God.
-
00:47:20
It's really interesting
what happens
-
00:47:22
after Nehemiah
rebuilds the wall.
-
00:47:24
Remember, it was
never just about the wall,
-
00:47:26
it was about rebuilding people.
-
00:47:28
And so as they
have rebuilt the wall,
-
00:47:30
they were able to do
something because
-
00:47:31
of the safety and
protection they now had
-
00:47:34
that they hadn't done
in many, many years.
-
00:47:36
They were able to hear
God's Word read to them.
-
00:47:40
They were able to have a
public reading of the Bible.
-
00:47:43
And Ezra, who has a
whole story dedicated to him
-
00:47:46
about the rebuilding
of the temple,
-
00:47:47
he was a contemporary
of Nehemiah.
-
00:47:49
Ezra gets together and he begins
to read the law to the people.
-
00:47:54
And as he's reading the law,
-
00:47:56
it's a really striking
thing because
-
00:47:58
as he's reading the law,
the people are reminded
-
00:48:00
about the goodness of God.
-
00:48:02
They're reminded about
God's covenant relationship
-
00:48:05
with them as a nation.
-
00:48:06
They're reminded about
all the promises of God.
-
00:48:09
But here's the other thing.
-
00:48:10
They're reminded of all
the ways they fall short.
-
00:48:14
Have you ever
actually gotten success
-
00:48:18
only to realize
that that success
-
00:48:20
was just the beginning
of the journey?
-
00:48:22
Like, you thought that first
level of success would be it.
-
00:48:25
And then when you
get there you realize
-
00:48:27
how woefully inadequate you are.
-
00:48:29
Like, you really
wanted to get married,
-
00:48:30
you got married, and
now you're realizing
-
00:48:33
how woefully, inadequately
prepared you are for marriage.
-
00:48:36
You know, you really
wanted to start something new.
-
00:48:38
You started something
new, and now you're realizing
-
00:48:41
how woefully inadequate
you are as a leader
-
00:48:43
and God is stretching
you in your leadership.
-
00:48:45
You know, you really
wanted to break an addiction,
-
00:48:47
and now you've actually gotten
-
00:48:48
some victory
over that addiction.
-
00:48:50
But you're recognizing
all the friends in my life
-
00:48:52
were people that were
formed by the addiction,
-
00:48:54
and I got to go in a
different direction relationally
-
00:48:56
if I'm going to
continue in this journey.
-
00:48:58
What do you do when
that's the place that you are?
-
00:49:01
Here's what the people did.
-
00:49:02
They begin to weep.
They begin to weep.
-
00:49:05
They were heartbroken
because they recognized
-
00:49:07
there is no way we can live
into who God wants us to be.
-
00:49:11
There is no way.
-
00:49:13
I know we rebuilt the
wall and that's wonderful.
-
00:49:15
But God, how are you
going to rebuild us?
-
00:49:18
We are so broken.
We are so in need.
-
00:49:20
We need help. And
they begin to weep.
-
00:49:24
And you would think
that Nehemiah as a leader
-
00:49:27
would say to the people,
"Hey, remember the vision,
-
00:49:29
remember the vision."
-
00:49:31
But that's actually
not what he says.
-
00:49:32
You know what Nehemiah does?
-
00:49:34
As people are weeping,
-
00:49:35
as they're realizing
their inadequacy,
-
00:49:37
he calls time out and he
says, "Guys, let me tell you,
-
00:49:40
you know what we're going to do?
-
00:49:41
We're going to throw a party."
-
00:49:43
What? We're going
to throw a party?
-
00:49:44
That's exactly what he says.
-
00:49:46
Here's what he says in
Nehemiah 8:10. He says:
-
00:50:01
I want to say that a
couple times together.
-
00:50:02
The joy of the
Lord is our strength.
-
00:50:04
Let's say that together.
-
00:50:06
The joy of the
Lord is our strength.
-
00:50:08
Let's say it again, the joy
of the Lord is our strength.
-
00:50:11
Now why would Nehemiah say that,
-
00:50:14
go and celebrate,
go have a party?
-
00:50:16
It's because Nehemiah knew
what all of us need to know
-
00:50:20
about any change and any plan
-
00:50:22
that God is
working in our lives.
-
00:50:23
And it's this: God is
involved in the process,
-
00:50:29
and sometimes the
process is the point.
-
00:50:32
Let me say it again.
-
00:50:33
God is involved in the process
-
00:50:36
and sometimes the
process is the point.
-
00:50:39
I'm not saying that God
won't get you to a new reality,
-
00:50:42
but you know what
God wants to do?
-
00:50:43
He wants to make
you a new person
-
00:50:45
by the time you
get to that reality.
-
00:50:47
He wants to give you
something that will help you
-
00:50:50
climb the next mountain
that He has for you,
-
00:50:52
that will help you
continue to experience
-
00:50:55
the ways that he wants
to change and grow you.
-
00:50:57
I came across a teaching
-
00:50:58
and it's from Christina
Patterson, and she said this
-
00:51:01
about why would they weep and
why can they have joy? She said:
-
00:51:15
Friends, that's good news.
-
00:51:17
That is really good
news to know that
-
00:51:19
where you feel
inadequate right now
-
00:51:21
is the very place God is
affirming and confirming.
-
00:51:25
He's going to give you the
wisdom, the discernment,
-
00:51:27
and the strength
to actually change.
-
00:51:31
So stay resilient.
-
00:51:32
Keep working the plan
and recognize that, friends,
-
00:51:35
you can rejoice when
your plan succeeds,
-
00:51:38
but you can also rejoice
when your plans go awry.
-
00:51:42
Look at what it says
in the New Testament.
-
00:51:43
James chapter one says:
-
00:51:50
Who celebrates a trial?
-
00:51:52
Who does backflips
when the thing gets hard?
-
00:51:55
Yeah. Me neither, but that's
what the Bible says to do. Why?
-
00:52:09
Let me tell you, you
can rejoice in the trial
-
00:52:12
because the God who
gave you the vision
-
00:52:14
is the God who will
give you the victory.
-
00:52:17
You can rejoice
because you can have
-
00:52:19
the same words be your prayer
-
00:52:20
that was Nehemiah's
prayer in 2:20.
-
00:52:22
The God of heaven
will make us prosper.
-
00:52:24
God will make you prosper
when you don't want to prosper.
-
00:52:27
He will make you prosper
when you're resisting
-
00:52:28
the prosperity He wants
to bring into your life.
-
00:52:30
God will make us prosper and we,
-
00:52:33
his servants, will
arise and build.
-
00:52:34
You can celebrate because
our God uses setbacks
-
00:52:38
to stage amazing
comebacks. It is what He does.
-
00:52:42
So when things look like
they're at their bleakest,
-
00:52:44
when it seems like
nothing's going to change,
-
00:52:46
that's the very moment
where God starts to show off
-
00:52:49
and starts to do things
that only God can do.
-
00:52:52
I love this verse.
Proverbs 24:16 says:
-
00:52:58
Think about that,
seven times of failure,
-
00:53:02
seven times where
you didn't get it right,
-
00:53:04
seven times where once
again you fell into that trap.
-
00:53:07
And yet, because of the
goodness and grace of God,
-
00:53:10
you can rise again.
-
00:53:11
This is not the
end of your story.
-
00:53:14
See, here's the good news.
-
00:53:15
Joy becomes a
weapon in our plan.
-
00:53:18
Because Joy says
to us, it says to others,
-
00:53:21
and it says to the enemy,
-
00:53:22
God is not done with my story.
-
00:53:24
And so joy becomes
a weapon that fuels us
-
00:53:28
and continues to
move us forward.
-
00:53:29
God is a planner.
-
00:53:30
The beautiful thing
about God, though, is
-
00:53:32
He is a planner who always
finishes what He starts.
-
00:53:36
And God wants to invite
you into relationship with Him
-
00:53:40
for the things He
wants to do in your life.
-
00:53:42
I think sometimes
we want to say, "God,
-
00:53:44
would you come
and bless my plan?"
-
00:53:45
God is saying, "My plan
for you is so much better.
-
00:53:49
Would you come and be a part of
-
00:53:50
what I have
envisioned for your life?"
-
00:53:53
And thankfully, He's resilient.
-
00:53:55
God is not going
to give up on you.
-
00:53:58
He has grace for you,
upon grace for you,
-
00:54:00
upon grace for you.
God is patient with you.
-
00:54:03
He knows the
weaknesses that we have.
-
00:54:05
He knows our limitations,
and He is so committed
-
00:54:08
to your change and
growth that He says,
-
00:54:10
"I'll never leave you and
I will never forsake you."
-
00:54:15
If we want to receive
that, then we don't have
-
00:54:18
to sweat the messy
middle because we know
-
00:54:20
that God is with us.
-
00:54:22
Proverbs 21:31 says this:
-
00:54:28
God wants to bring
victory into your life.
-
00:54:31
If you'll embrace the
spiritual practice of planning,
-
00:54:34
you'll experience
that kind of victory.
-
00:54:36
As you face reality, as you
strengthen relationships,
-
00:54:40
as you stand resiliently,
and as you rejoice,
-
00:54:43
not at the end, but
on the way to the end
-
00:54:46
because of God's goodness.
-
00:54:48
So when you came in,
you got a Lego piece.
-
00:54:51
I want you to go ahead
and take that Lego piece out.
-
00:54:53
I love Legos. Anybody
else love Legos?
-
00:54:56
Legos are so awesome!
-
00:54:57
I love that my kids
still play with Legos.
-
00:55:02
These bricks, we're going
to use these as a symbol
-
00:55:06
of a plan that God may
be calling you to in your life.
-
00:55:09
So here's what I want you to do.
-
00:55:11
I want you to think
for a moment about
-
00:55:13
a place in your life this
year where you need
-
00:55:16
to practice the spiritual
practice of planning.
-
00:55:19
Maybe this is the year where
you said, you know what?
-
00:55:22
I need to change
my financial situation.
-
00:55:25
I need to be more
intentional about saving.
-
00:55:27
I need to be more intentional
about being generous,
-
00:55:29
whatever that is.
-
00:55:30
Maybe this is a
year where you said
-
00:55:32
I really need to work
on a specific relationship.
-
00:55:36
Maybe it's a friendship,
-
00:55:37
maybe it's a relationship
with one of your children.
-
00:55:39
Maybe it's a relationship
with your parent
-
00:55:41
if you are the
child. I don't know.
-
00:55:43
Maybe this is the
year where you're like,
-
00:55:45
I need to learn this skill.
-
00:55:46
I know I've been putting it off,
but I need to lean into this.
-
00:55:48
I want you to think
about just one plan,
-
00:55:51
one thing in your life.
-
00:55:53
And if you have a
Lego the size of mine,
-
00:55:55
you may not be able
to write the full word,
-
00:55:57
but you can use initials,
-
00:55:59
or you can use one
letter to symbolize.
-
00:56:01
But if you have a full Lego,
-
00:56:02
maybe you're
going to write a word
-
00:56:04
that symbolizes that plan.
-
00:56:10
Just write it on
your Lego brick.
-
00:56:12
My mind is T R, which
stands for Take Risks.
-
00:56:19
One of the things
that I reflected on
-
00:56:21
over the last year was
that it's easy for me
-
00:56:24
21 years into a marriage
to not take as many risks
-
00:56:28
of vulnerably pursuing
my wife's heart.
-
00:56:32
And God kind of elevated
that for me and said,
-
00:56:34
this is a year where I want
you to aggressively pursue
-
00:56:36
Maria like you did
before you were married.
-
00:56:40
And I'll just be
honest with you,
-
00:56:41
22 years almost into a
marriage, that can be risky.
-
00:56:45
But I feel like God
is calling me to that.
-
00:56:47
So this is mine.
Mine is take risks.
-
00:56:49
And so here's what
I want you to do.
-
00:56:50
Once you have that
Lego kind of filled out.
-
00:56:53
Again, this is just
a symbol of the plan
-
00:56:55
that maybe God
is calling you to.
-
00:56:56
First thing I want you to do
is I want you to put it down.
-
00:56:59
Maybe you're going
to put it on your chair.
-
00:57:01
Maybe you're going
to put it on your lap.
-
00:57:03
Maybe you're going
to put on the floor.
-
00:57:06
Because here's what I believe.
-
00:57:08
I know that I come to this with
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00:57:10
my own thoughts, my own ideas,
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the way that I think
this is going to play out
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for me and Maria this year.
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00:57:16
And one of the first
things that I think
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God wants us to do is
lay down those plans.
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Surrender them to Him.
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And so just as a symbol of that,
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as you release that plan,
I want you to just think
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about, like, God, I
want to surrender
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what I think this is
going to look like.
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I want to be open to what it is
You want to do in my life.
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00:57:38
Now that you've laid it down,
I want you to pick it back up.
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But I want you to pick it up
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and put it in to
open palms like this.
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Because I believe
that God wants to pour
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into this area of your life.
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And so, so many times
I realize that my vision
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is so small compared
to what God has in mind.
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00:58:05
So in this posture
with your palms open,
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I just want you to say
a quick prayer to God.
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God, I want to receive what
You have for me this year.
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00:58:14
In this area I want to
receive, God, what you have
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for the ways that I
vulnerably pursue
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Maria's heart this year.
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I want to leave you
with this reflection.
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Jeremiah 29:11, as I said,
is one of my favorite verses.
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I know the plans I have
for you, says the Lord,
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plans to prosper
you, not to harm you,
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plans to give you
hope and a future.
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I have that verse written
down all over my life.
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It's in journals. It's on --
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I just love that word.
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But I want to share with you
what God says right after that.
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In Jeremiah 12:13, God says:
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I want to submit to
you that the first step
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when it comes to the
plans God has for your life,
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is not the plan, it's
connecting with God personally.
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00:59:08
It's seeking Him and finding Him
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and desiring Him
with all your heart.
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00:59:13
The thing that we need most
is not to fulfill this plan.
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00:59:16
We need to encounter a
loving God who cares for us,
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who wants good for us.
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00:59:24
And man, if we will
open ourselves up to that,
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00:59:26
then we will see that
He has good plans for us.
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00:59:29
We will experience
His provision.
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00:59:31
We will experience all the
ways in which God will show up
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00:59:34
that are far beyond
what you can imagine,
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00:59:37
and it will help us
to close the gap
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00:59:38
from the vision God has given us
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00:59:41
to the reality that
He has in mind for us.
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00:59:45
I want to invite you to
stand wherever you are,
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00:59:47
and I just want
to pray over you.
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00:59:48
I want to pray over your year.
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00:59:50
I want to pray over the things
that God is calling you to
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as we close this time today.
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God, I thank You so
much that if I look around
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just the room that I'm
in, but if I think about
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all the rooms where people
are, including their own homes.
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01:00:04
God, you have good plans
for each and every person
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01:00:07
under the sound of my voice.
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01:00:09
God, would we seek
You this year first?
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01:00:13
Would we seek Your face as
we sing sometimes around here
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01:00:16
and not Your hand?
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01:00:18
And know that as
we connect with You,
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01:00:21
You will give us
every step we need
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01:00:25
to close the gap
between vision and reality.
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01:00:27
God, I believe there are
going to be breakthroughs
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01:00:29
and things that happen
in our lives this year
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01:00:31
that would blow us away if
we knew this day in January
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01:00:36
what you're going to do
in just these 12 months,
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01:00:39
let alone over the entire
lives that we have left.
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01:00:42
God, we trust You, we
thank You, and we are Yours.
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I pray this in
Jesus's name, Amen.
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- Hey, thanks for watching.
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01:00:51
Since you stuck around,
I wanted to give you
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01:00:53
a challenge that will
bring you closer to God
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01:00:54
and help you get more
out of the message.
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01:00:56
You know, around Crossroads,
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01:00:57
we call ourselves
Spiritual Outfitters,
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01:00:59
and that's exactly what
we want to help you
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01:01:01
with this year,
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01:01:02
outfitting you on
your spiritual journey.
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01:01:03
A great place to start is
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01:01:05
in the Crossroads Anywhere app
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01:01:07
where you can check
out daily scripture,
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01:01:09
engage in the Bible challenge,
-
01:01:11
connect with community,
and read articles
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01:01:13
that cover all sorts of
topics and what God's Word
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01:01:16
might be in areas
like singleness, dating,
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01:01:19
marriage, sports,
anxiety, Taylor Swift,
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01:01:22
New Year's resolutions,
and so many more.
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01:01:25
We also have podcast
versions of these articles
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01:01:27
that you can listen
to on your drive.
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01:01:29
You can get these articles
sent directly to your inbox
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01:01:32
each Monday too.
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01:01:33
Check out the Crossroads
app for all the details.
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01:01:36
Thanks for joining and
we'll see you back next week.