Vent To God; He Wants You To

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- Hey, welcome to Crossroads

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and thanks for joining us online today.

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We're a church made up of normal people

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all over the globe that meet online and in person,

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in church buildings and homes,

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coffee shops, bars and even prisons.

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My name is Andy.

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I'm the community pastor for Crossroads Anywhere,

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and I'm going to tell you a little bit

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about what you can expect from today.

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In just a moment, my buddy Justin and the band

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will do what followers of Jesus have done

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for thousands of years, use music

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to help connect us with God.

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For us online, that means this is

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more than just a Spotify playlist.

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It's a chance to connect with

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the Creator of the Universe wherever we are.

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Then we're going to hear from

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our senior pastor Brian Tome

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about some really exciting

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and really important things

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coming up for our entire church.

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Pro tip make sure you don't skip over this.

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And then you're going to hear from

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one of our teaching pastors, Chuck Mingo,

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on how you can hear from God.

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Let's start right now.

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- Well, hey everyone, welcome to Crossroads.

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Whether you're online or in the room,

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we're so glad you're here. How are we doing?

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How are we doing today?

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Great. Hey, we're in week two of our series,

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How to Hear from God.

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Maybe you hear that phrase and you go,

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"Man, I love that, like, hearing from God

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is a thing that that happens to me daily."

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Maybe you're on the other end of that

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and you're like, "I don't really hear from God at all."

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Well, I want to encourage you and all of us

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that there's a God who wants deep connection with us.

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It's true. He wants to be close,

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and He wants us to know that He's close.

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And one of the ways that we get to spend

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some time with Him is through this thing

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called worship and music, singing songs to Him.

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So I want you to stand up on your feet right now

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as we sing to and about a God who loves us

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and sees us and is with us.

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Come on, let's sing to Him.

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- Hey. When you came in today, you were given a light.

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I want you to go ahead and take that light out.

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Don't turn it on yet, but just take it out.

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If you didn't get a light, just grab your phone

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and get ready to use your flashlight.

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In a second, we're going to see a series of questions.

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And if the answer is yes to the questions,

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I want you to simply turn your light on.

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If it's not, just keep your light off.

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So let's just have a test run real quick

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so we're all on the same page.

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Turn your light on if you grew up eating Fruity Pebbles.

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Okay. Nice. All right, turn your light back off.

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Turn your light on if you wear shoes with no socks.

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That's -- come on. I love the boldness.

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I'm secretly thinking things about you right now.

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You can turn your light off.

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We're going to have some questions like that

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show up on the screen,

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and I want you to answer honestly.

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There'll be some fun, funny questions.

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There'll be some more serious questions.

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I just want you to take a minute to opt in.

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Just opt in to the questions.

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Let's see what those are now.

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- I love the honesty in this room.

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If I had a light in my hand, I would have

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put it up for that last one too.

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There are moments I felt that God was distant,

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that He wasn't close, and I'm sure

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we've all felt that or feel that.

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I think what's important for us to know

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is that there's a God that we serve,

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He's the same God that we've seen

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throughout generations.

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He's the same God as we've read

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in the Old Testament, in the New and in the now.

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He's the same God who who looked after people

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in the past, who's still looking after,

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looking after each and every one of us.

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I think about the Scripture in Hebrews 13:5

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when He says, "I'll never leave you

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nor forsake you."

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He means that, and He's always meant that.

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I wish we could ask people like Moses and David

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and Jacob if God was faithful,

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or if they felt distant from God ever.

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I'm sure they would say yes, and I'm sure that

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they would say, "God was always with me."

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I want you to think about that

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as we continue to sing that the Lord is with you.

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Let's sing together.

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- If that you, if you're in need of something from God,

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just put your hands out as we call out to Him.

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- Now those words are true,

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we're standing on Your faithfulness.

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God, we're standing on every word that you've promised.

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And maybe sometimes those words we felt have fallen short.

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So we stand here right now, God, and say,

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"We need You, God. We need You to show us where You are.

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Show us what you're saying to us.

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Show us what you're putting in front of us

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to go after, Lord."

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God, if there's anything, we need it more

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in this time, it's more of You,

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more of You, more of You, more of You.

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Will we experience that today,

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more of Your presence, more of Your truth,

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more of Your faithfulness that can carry us,

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it can help us, God. That's what we're leaning on.

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God, You're faithful and we thank You for being faithful.

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In Jesus's name we pray. Amen? Amen.

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3, 2, 1. Ignition sequence start.

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[engines firing]

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[typing]

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[Music: Let the New Begin by We are CHPTRS]

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Won’t give up

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Won’t give in

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Take everything we have

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and let the new begin

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- That's one small step for man;

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one giant leap for mankind.

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- We're about to push for 10X,

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10X spiritual growth in your life,

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10x spiritual growth in our community of Crossroads,

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and 10X in the Kingdom of God

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for what God is asking us to do.

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I believe this is going to be

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the most important six weeks of my life.

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I believe it's going to be the most important

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six weeks for our church's life.

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And I think, if you let it, it'll be

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the most important six weeks for your life.

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I think you can 10X your ability to sense God,

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to be on His page and to have His spiritual power.

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We're going to have a multifaceted process,

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a bunch of different angles and experiences

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to get you deeper with God

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and have Him come alive in you.

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And as we personally get revived,

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our church is going to get revived

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and we could impact 10X

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what God wants us to do in the Kingdom.

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That's what I'm asking for you.

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That's what God's asking for us.

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He's been pushing on us,

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and I'm pushing on you a little bit right now,

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just like God's been pushing on me

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for quite some time about making this happen.

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This is going to be great,

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it's going to be hard,

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and it's going to be important.

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I'm asking you to clear your calendar for six weeks.

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Make it a priority to get to church.

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For six weeks try the things we're giving you as tools:

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a guide, a prayer experience, discussions.

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Do the thing and see how God may use it.

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It's going to end with us being able to make

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a financial commitment above and beyond

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what we regularly give for three years.

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That's just a part of it, because the whole thing

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is about our personal spiritual growth

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and the potency of our church.

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This is going to change the way

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you and I interact with God.

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This is going to change the way

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you and I are used by God.

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We believe this.

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He's called us to this.

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Let's lean into the push

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and let's do

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what God's asking us to do.

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Let's go.

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- Let's go, let's go.

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I like locker room Brian.

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You guys like locker room Brian?

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I like that. One of the reasons

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I'm at this church is because God continues

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to call this community to go in bold directions,

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and we say, yes.

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I'm excited about The Push.

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And I want to just give you context on what this is about.

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Brian just casted that vision.

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This is about our church coming together

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and pushing into what God has for us

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over the next ten years.

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We want a 10X our Kingdom impact.

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We want 10X of what God would do through Crossroads

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first and foremost, through you personally.

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This is about personal revival.

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This is about you personally going

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to a new place with God, and also

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what God would do in our community.

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It's really about us going to a new place.

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And as you think about what is a push,

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I want you to think about it this way.

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It is a spiritual journey

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that ends with a financial commitment.

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That's what The Push is.

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And so thinking about analogies, if you've been around Crossroads

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and you've done these things called Journeys,

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you know what that's like when all of us

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get sweet guides or whatever it is

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we're doing in the app, everybody gets in a group

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and we're all kind of focused in the same direction.

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We've done some of these

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and they've been incredibly powerful.

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How many people were here for the Free Journey?

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People remember that?

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The Free Journey was all around

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being free from false identities.

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We also did a Journey called Grow.

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We did one on Play & Purpose.

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We did one that was really impactful

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in my life called Brave.

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And every time we've done these Journeys,

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yeah, people remember that one.

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Every time we've done these Journeys,

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God has done something in our lives as a community.

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It's also, The Push is also partially

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like a financial campaign.

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Crossroads has done four financial campaigns.

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My wife, Maria, and I have been a part of three of them.

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And every time it has pushed our church into new territory.

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Honestly, everyone here, if you're sitting in a seat,

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if you're watching online, a big reason is

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because people sacrificially gave so that

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you could have a place to connect with God.

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This is something that God does

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over and over again in our community,

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and He's doing it again.

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Let me just say this.

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I know that you might be freaking out

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about the money thing.

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Don't freak out about money.

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Seriously, just give yourself the gift

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of going on the Journey.

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In fact, if you want to know

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what we're running after, we're doing these things

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called mission briefings.

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It's an opportunity to understand more about

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the territories that God is asking us

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to expand for His Kingdom.

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So be on the lookout for those

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and take an opportunity to be connected to one of those.

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There will be some happening in person.

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There's also going to be some that are happening online.

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But here's what I want you to know.

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The most important weekend

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in the history of Crossroads is happening

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in just a couple of weeks.

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And there's two things happening.

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First and foremost, on Thursday, October 10tha

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and then on Sunday, October 13th,

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we are kicking off the 10X Push.

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And so every service we're going to

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be giving out these guides.

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We got some special things planned.

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You will not want to miss it.

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That same weekend, Friday and Saturday,

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because this is about us all

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personally experiencing revival,

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personally experiencing God, impacting our lives,

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impacting our families,

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impacting our relationships, impacting our kids.

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We at Base Camp are throwing an old school tent revival.

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Anybody experienced a tent revival before?

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I grew up in a church where we used to

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do those kinds of things, and I'm telling you,

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I have seen God show up in some powerful ways.

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We are opening it up and saying,

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"God, we want what You want for us."

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And I'm just encouraging you, if you can be

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at all of that that's happening that weekend,

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don't miss it.

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God has something good for us as a church.

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He has something good for us as a community,

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and I want you to be a part of it.

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So you can go to Crossroads.net

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and get all the details, all the dates,

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all the times, so that you can be a part

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of this special, special thing

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that God is doing in our church.

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Well, if you were here last week,

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we kicked off a series, a conversation

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that we're having about how to hear from God.

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I would love to hear from God more than I do.

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Anybody else love to hear from God?

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If God's got something to say to me,

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I want to hear it.

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I think if you're here

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or if you're watching online, that's why you're here.

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And maybe we think about this

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hearing from God thing in the good times,

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how God will speak good things to us.

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But I love the Olympics, and one of the things

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that I've been thinking about a lot

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is while we focus on the glory of the Olympics,

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rightfully so, there's also another side,

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and that is the agony of defeat.

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[music: Everybody Hurts by R.E.M.]

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[music: Turn It Up by Esone]

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- Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh.

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Raygun will never live down that moment.

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You know they'll be showing that

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at every Olympics forever, right?

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Like, that'll be in a space capsule

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somewhere in outer space.

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When the aliens find it, they'll be like,

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"Everything else made sense. But what is --

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What is that? What is that?" So.

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But the reason I been thinking about that

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is because you ever think about how that must feel

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to go to the Olympics, you train

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just like the person next to you.

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You train just like Simone Biles.

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You train just like the best swimmer.

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You train just like, well, maybe Raygun didn't train,

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but whatever she did, she did.

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But you don't come home with the gold.

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You come home with defeat.

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The Olympics is this place where you have

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celebration and you have lamentation coexisting.

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And man, if I think about it, that's what life is like.

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Life is this crazy combination where we have

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these high highs, and so do the people in our lives.

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But man, all of us also experience

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these moments of low lows.

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There's a verse in Romans 12:15

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that I want to anchor us in,

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not just this week, but next week.

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We're kind of doing a twofer where we're going to

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kind of tie these two ideas together.

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Romans 12:15 says that we should:

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So we're going to do two parter this week.

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We're going to talk about lamentation.

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What does it look like to weep

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and to weep with those who weep?

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And then next week we're going to talk about celebration.

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And the reason for that is because both of these

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are part of everyone's human experience.

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Both of these are ways you can hear from God.

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And both of these have deep roots in the people of God.

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There are spiritual practices, ancient practices

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that work when it comes to being honest about

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the pain in life and when it comes

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to celebrating with God.

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So we're going to be leaning into that.

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So today I've got an encouragement for you,

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and I'm going to give you an assignment at the end.

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And the encouragement is this.

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I want you to get all up in your feelings with God.

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I want you to practice getting all up in your feelings,

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bringing all of that to God.

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And I believe that as we do that,

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we will experience God.

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And in fact, I would say there are some things

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about connection to God and hearing from God

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you can only experience if you're willing

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to lean in to the practice of lament.

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Let's pray. God, I pray that You would use

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this time to meet us in the place that we are.

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God, I know that some people who are listening

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right now are riding high, and maybe the idea

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of grief or the idea of lament seems so far

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from what they're experiencing right now.

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But I also know that given the size of our church

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and just the diversity of our church,

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there's bound to be people who are listening

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to this right now who are in a low period,

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who are hurting, who are grieving,

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who are wrestling with something

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in their life that's causing pain.

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And so, God, I believe that

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whether we're at a high or low,

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You want to teach us something today.

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You want to teach us something about You

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and will teach us something about

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how we can hear from You.

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And I pray that that would happen, in Jesus's name, Amen.

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So what do I mean when I say lament?

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Here's a simple definition.

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Lamenting is dealing honestly with God's pain --

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With life's pain.

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Lamenting is dealing honestly with life's pain.

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If I were to meet you in the atrium

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and talk to you, see you at a restaurant

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and I said, "Hey, how's it going?"

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What's your typical answer to that question?

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Hey, how are you doing? How are you doing?

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We got some people in here that are like,

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"Hey, I'm fine." Who are some I'm fine people?

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We got some I'm fine people.

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We got anybody in here that's like,

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"I'm doing great," like no matter what,

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they're like doing great all the time?

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They could be bleeding out, but they'll still

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tell you, "I'm doing great," right? You know.

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There's some people like that, right?

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Hopefully you are doing great.

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You know, then you got some people that are like,

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"Hey, I'm maintaining." We got some maintainers in here.

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We got some people who, like, maintain.

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Then you have people who say things

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that I just really don't understand.

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Have you ever heard this one?

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I've asked some people how they're doing

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and they say, "Man, if I was any better,

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I'd be a twin," have you ever heard that one?

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[laughs]

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I think that's like a Southern or Midwestern thing.

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I never heard that until I got to Cincinnati.

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But like, I love it, I love it.

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I kind of get it. I kind of get it.

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Then you got people who say things like,

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"Fine and dandy, like cotton candy."

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Actually, I just made that up.

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That's pretty stupid, so hopefully

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you don't say that when someone asks you a question.

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But here's the thing, you may be great,

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you may be wonderful, but there are times,

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honestly, don't we answer that question

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a little bit inauthentically?

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What would it look like to be honest

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about that question?

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Because here's the thing, I think one of

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the knocks on people of God can be, "Man,

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we're just so Pollyanna.

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Everything's always wonderful.

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I'm blessed and highly favored."

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And yes, we are, and we have a lot

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to celebrate as people of God.

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And yet there's a part of us that can feel

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to people disconnected from the reality of life.

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And here's what's interesting about that

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as you think about the way that plays out,

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particularly in the American church.

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There's a great book called The Prophetic Lament.

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And in it Soong-Chan Rah, the author, says this:

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In fact, I want to show you this by running some numbers.

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So I want to take a look at some numbers

00:37:12

around lamentation.

00:37:14

So how many people grew up like Presbyterian, Baptist?

00:37:17

You grew up in a church,

00:37:19

they had hymnals in the pews, right?

00:37:21

You even know what a pew is, right? Yeah.

00:37:23

Well, in those hymnals, someone did the math

00:37:26

and what they found is that 80 to 85%

00:37:30

of the Baptist and Presbyterian hymnals

00:37:32

are celebratory songs.

00:37:34

And again, we have a lot to celebrate.

00:37:36

I don't know if you know this or not.

00:37:37

I believe Jesus actually died for me,

00:37:40

and He rose again, and that I have

00:37:42

a relationship with Jesus.

00:37:44

That's worth celebrating.

00:37:46

So I'm not saying we should be sad people,

00:37:48

I'm just saying 80-85% are celebratory happy hymns.

00:37:52

Only 15 to 20% of hymns in the Baptist

00:37:56

and in the Presbyterian Hymnal books

00:37:58

are about suffering and pain.

00:38:01

Just stop and think about that.

00:38:03

Stop and think about the experiences of life

00:38:06

and what that says.

00:38:07

And it's actually even worse when you think about

00:38:10

the songs that are sung at churches like Crossroads.

00:38:12

So they looked at contemporary church,

00:38:14

modern worship kind of songs that we would sing.

00:38:17

95% of them are celebratory, victory,

00:38:22

it's all going to turn out great.

00:38:23

It's awesome right now, Jesus is my best friend.

00:38:27

It's great. It's awesome. 95%.

00:38:30

Now here's the thing, there is a songbook in the Bible.

00:38:34

It's called the Book of Psalms,

00:38:36

and 50% of the Psalms are lament.

00:38:43

I'm just going to say Jesus was formed

00:38:47

by songs where 50% of them dealt with

00:38:49

the suffering and the pain of life.

00:38:52

You and I are being formed by only 5%.

00:38:56

I think there's a problem.

00:38:58

And I think I'm responsible.

00:39:02

As a pastor I'm responsible.

00:39:04

I'm giving this message because I believe

00:39:06

we run the risk of being malformed

00:39:08

if we don't talk about

00:39:09

how to face pain honestly with God.

00:39:12

In fact, I'm giving this message

00:39:14

because a friend of mine challenged me.

00:39:16

He said, "Chuck, I've heard you talk

00:39:18

and preach about a lot of things.

00:39:19

I've never heard you give a message on grief."

00:39:22

And at first I wanted to be defensive.

00:39:24

And then I was like, "You know what? You're right."

00:39:26

In all the years that I've been speaking,

00:39:28

I don't think I've ever given a message on grief.

00:39:30

And I was like, "You know what?

00:39:31

When I have an opportunity,

00:39:33

I'm going to change that," because again,

00:39:35

I just know what life is and what life brings.

00:39:38

And I think a lot of us would say, "Yeah,

00:39:40

I can use some formation on how to feel

00:39:43

pain honestly with God."

00:39:45

Because here's the thing, when we don't lament,

00:39:48

that pain goes somewhere.

00:39:50

Somebody put it really well, they said,

00:39:52

"Those who do not turn to face their pain

00:39:54

are prone to impose it." Hurt people hurt people.

00:40:00

And I would argue you either impose it

00:40:04

or sometimes even worse, you ingest it.

00:40:08

That some of the anxiety, not all;

00:40:10

some of the depression, not all;

00:40:11

some of the addiction, not all;

00:40:13

but some of it is because

00:40:15

we haven't learned how to deal with pain,

00:40:18

how to deal with it in a healthy way.

00:40:20

I mean, basically, we have to think about

00:40:22

what's the spiritual alternative here.

00:40:24

And the spiritual alternative is

00:40:26

you get all up in your feelings with God.

00:40:27

When it comes to pain, you really only have four options.

00:40:30

You can ignore it, you can complain about it,

00:40:33

you can feel it, or you can feel it with God.

00:40:37

And I want to submit to you that

00:40:39

feeling pain with God is a spiritual practice.

00:40:43

It's a lost art, but it's one I want

00:40:45

to help us reclaim today.

00:40:48

Because the Bible is full of people that we call heroes,

00:40:51

who understand that life has to include lament.

00:40:56

I'll give you some examples. Elijah.

00:40:58

Elijah is an amazing prophet in the Old Testament.

00:41:00

Right after his highest moment of victory,

00:41:03

he's won a victory for God.

00:41:04

There's been all these prophets that were false prophets.

00:41:07

They all get slaughtered.

00:41:08

Like, he's ready to clean house, and yet

00:41:10

the Queen, Jezebel, threatens his life.

00:41:13

And Elijah runs to the wilderness,

00:41:15

afraid for his life, feeling alone.

00:41:17

This is what he says in 1 Kings 19:4, he says:

00:41:25

This is God's hero saying, "God, I feel so alone.

00:41:29

I feel in so much pain.

00:41:31

I would rather you just take my life."

00:41:35

If you know the story of Job.

00:41:37

Job is a person who suffered immense pain,

00:41:41

immense pain in the Bible.

00:41:43

And Job says this honestly in Job 3:16, he says:

00:41:46

Or why was I not as a hidden stillborn child,

00:41:50

as infants who never see the light?

00:41:53

Job says, "God, if this is the life

00:41:54

that you drew up for me, why was I even born?

00:41:58

It would have been better for me not to even be born."

00:42:02

Jeremiah the prophet, by the way,

00:42:04

it kind of sucked to be a prophet.

00:42:06

I don't know if you're seeing that as a trend.

00:42:08

Like, I know some of us are like,

00:42:09

"Man, I want to be a prophet."

00:42:11

Good on you. Good on you.

00:42:13

Jeremiah was despised.

00:42:15

His message from God wasn't popular.

00:42:17

And at one point they threw him into a well to die.

00:42:20

And Jeremiah, in that place of difficulty,

00:42:22

says this in Jeremiah 20:14:

00:42:30

I'm reading these to you so you can see that

00:42:33

the heroes of our faith understood lament,

00:42:36

and were willing to be honest about

00:42:38

the painful moments with God.

00:42:40

In fact, you could say

00:42:41

Jeremiah wrote the book on on lament.

00:42:44

He literally did.

00:42:45

There's a book in the Bible called Lamentation,

00:42:47

and it's five poems that Jeremiah wrote

00:42:50

after the city where he lived

00:42:52

was utterly devastated by an enemy.

00:42:54

Can you imagine? I'm in Cincinnati.

00:42:55

I know there's people watching from other places,

00:42:57

but can you imagine what if in the last 48 hours

00:43:01

Cincinnati had been decimated?

00:43:03

Not the football team? That's a whole other story.

00:43:09

I'm talking about the city.

00:43:11

I'm saying, what if the city had

00:43:12

an army run through it?

00:43:14

And the army that ran through it

00:43:15

literally was slaughtering kids on the street.

00:43:17

There was bloodshed and we were left

00:43:19

in the rubble of the city.

00:43:20

This is the situation in which Jeremiah

00:43:23

writes the book of Lamentation,

00:43:25

a place of deep, deep pain.

00:43:27

And as I read that book, I see for us a roadmap,

00:43:31

a roadmap for how we can deal with pain

00:43:34

honestly before God.

00:43:36

Four things that I see as practices of lamentation.

00:43:39

First is you need to state your complaint.

00:43:43

State your complaint.

00:43:45

Look at what it says in Jeremiah 1:20, he says:

00:43:56

In the streets the sword bereaves.

00:43:58

There's been so much violence that even

00:44:00

the weapons of violence are sad, he's saying.

00:44:05

And then he says this in Lamentations 2:5, he says;

00:44:22

I'm so glad that words like this are in the Bible,

00:44:25

because you notice that Jeremiah in that last verse

00:44:27

is saying, "God, it's almost like You are our enemy.

00:44:31

It's almost like You have been the one

00:44:33

that wanted to bring this pain on us."

00:44:35

I love the honesty of these heroes of faith

00:44:39

because I don't think it's heretical

00:44:41

to be direct and honest with God.

00:44:44

I think God can take it.

00:44:46

And I think God desires for us

00:44:48

to be honest with Him about the things

00:44:51

that are struggling,

00:44:52

the things that are hard in our life.

00:44:54

I think it's okay for you to say, "God,

00:44:57

I committed to this marriage

00:44:59

and I kept my end of the deal,

00:45:02

but this person betrayed me.

00:45:04

What am I to do with that?"

00:45:05

I think that's the kind of honesty God wants from us.

00:45:08

I think it's okay for you to say, "God,

00:45:10

You know that we want children.

00:45:12

Why is it that we had another miscarriage?

00:45:15

God, what are we to think about

00:45:16

Your desire for us to be parents?"

00:45:18

It is okay to be honest with God.

00:45:21

It is okay to say those kind of things.

00:45:23

It is okay to state your complaint.

00:45:26

In fact, I think you have to.

00:45:28

I think you have to.

00:45:29

If I'm going to stay in relationship with God

00:45:32

in the hardest things, it can't be like it was

00:45:34

when I grew up in church.

00:45:35

When I grew up in church, there was

00:45:37

a whole set of things where they were like,

00:45:38

"Well, you can't say that in church.

00:45:40

You can't say that in church."

00:45:42

And some of the things I just said up here

00:45:44

are things that somebody would have pulled me

00:45:46

to the side and said, "You can't say that about God.

00:45:48

You can't tell God like that.

00:45:49

You can't pray like that."

00:45:50

I'm telling you you can.

00:45:52

And I'm not telling you only because I believe it,

00:45:55

I'm telling you because I see it in the scriptures.

00:45:57

I see it in the people who God loved.

00:45:59

I see it in the people who God lifts up.

00:46:01

I see the people who God comforts

00:46:03

in the midst of their pain.

00:46:05

It is okay to state your complaint.

00:46:07

Think about it this way: any good physician

00:46:10

needs to know exactly where the pain is

00:46:12

if they're going to heal it.

00:46:15

And here's the thing.

00:46:16

God knows where the pain is.

00:46:19

You stating it honestly says to God

00:46:22

you see where the pain is too.

00:46:24

And when you're willing to be that honest with God,

00:46:26

man, I just think that that is

00:46:28

a powerful experience that can help you

00:46:30

hear from God and experience an intimacy with Him

00:46:32

like you can't any other way.

00:46:35

So first, state your complaint.

00:46:37

Second, express your emotions.

00:46:40

Express your emotions.

00:46:42

Look at what it says in Lamentations 2:11,

00:46:44

Jeremiah says:

00:46:49

And this is so descriptive. He says:

00:47:01

What? It's kind of gross,

00:47:03

but it's a very honest picture of a man

00:47:06

who is expressing his emotions.

00:47:09

I have this up here because this has become

00:47:12

a really important thing in my life.

00:47:16

It's the feelings wheel.

00:47:18

And I don't know about you, but I need help

00:47:21

naming my feelings sometimes.

00:47:25

My wife, I love her, and one of the things

00:47:28

I love about her is she has had

00:47:30

a steadfast commitment.

00:47:32

And I love the analogy she uses.

00:47:34

We have two boys. We have a daughter.

00:47:36

She believes this for all our kids,

00:47:37

but specifically when we just had boys.

00:47:39

She said, "Chuck, I'm determined that my boys

00:47:41

will be able to feel and express emotion.

00:47:43

That's really important to me."

00:47:45

And she put it -- Yeah, you can you can clap for that.

00:47:47

And she has done an amazing job at that.

00:47:50

In fact, she says it this way,

00:47:52

and she got this analogy somewhere.

00:47:53

She said: most men have about eight crayons

00:47:58

in their emotion box.

00:48:01

We're happy, we're mad, or we're hungry.

00:48:05

I don't know, I mean, maybe there's more,

00:48:06

but like, that's, you know, that's --

00:48:08

And unfortunately society and again,

00:48:10

this might be gross generalizations,

00:48:12

but I do think this is true, that society

00:48:14

has conditioned men to be an eight box crayon

00:48:18

kind of feeler.

00:48:19

And my wife has said, "I want to raise boys

00:48:21

who have all 64 crayons in their box

00:48:24

and they can express them."

00:48:26

And so we are raising boys that have the ability

00:48:29

to name their emotions.

00:48:30

And let me just tell you, it's working.

00:48:32

Sometimes it's working way too well.

00:48:33

My sons say things to me where I'm just like, I --

00:48:36

Wow. I -- Okay. Wait, let me go get

00:48:39

the feelings wheel and let me catch up to you

00:48:41

in terms of how you're feeling."

00:48:43

I know I need tools like this to help me

00:48:46

to be honest about my emotions, because sadly,

00:48:49

some of us grew up in families

00:48:51

where this was suppressed.

00:48:54

And I want to just lament that.

00:48:55

I just want to say that if you grew up in

00:48:57

a family where you were limited in

00:48:59

the emotions you were allowed to express,

00:49:01

that was not God's heart for you, man or woman.

00:49:05

That was not God's heart for you,

00:49:07

and that there is something powerful about

00:49:09

us opening up to God and being able to feel with God.

00:49:14

In fact, I want to do an exercise right now

00:49:15

to help us with this.

00:49:17

So I want you to think about your last seven days.

00:49:19

This is going to be up on the screen here.

00:49:21

And I want to say right up front,

00:49:23

I'm not asking you to say this out loud.

00:49:24

So this is just a thought exercise,

00:49:26

but I want you to think about

00:49:28

the last seven days of your life.

00:49:30

And I'd like for you to identify three emotions

00:49:33

from these six that you felt this week.

00:49:35

Maybe this was a great week and you're like,

00:49:37

"Oh man. Yeah, joyful."

00:49:39

Maybe something went your way and you're like,

00:49:41

"I did. I did feel powerful."

00:49:42

Maybe for you it's like, "No, I'm scared.

00:49:45

There's some stuff in my life that's uncertain

00:49:47

and I don't know.

00:49:48

I got a diagnosis or something happened this week."

00:49:50

I want you to name three emotions that you felt.

00:49:55

And so here's the challenge.

00:49:57

We're going to expand this feeling wheel.

00:50:00

And now I want you to name three more.

00:50:03

So if you felt powerful, did you feel like,

00:50:07

"Hey, I'm faithful. I'm following through on something."

00:50:10

Did you feel important?

00:50:11

Did you feel hopeful, appreciated,

00:50:13

respected or proud?

00:50:14

I want you to go a level deeper and name

00:50:17

three more emotions that you felt this week.

00:50:28

Now, for some of us, this is easy.

00:50:31

For others of us, this is a stretch.

00:50:34

And I guess what I want to say to you is

00:50:36

I want to encourage you to stretch

00:50:38

your emotional crayon box, to think about

00:50:42

coming to God with words and feelings

00:50:45

that maybe you've never expressed to God.

00:50:47

Because I believe this.

00:50:48

I believe that any time there is rich lament,

00:50:51

it is rich in emotions.

00:50:54

So yes, you have to state your complaint.

00:50:55

Be honest for God, but then you also

00:50:58

have to express your feelings to God

00:51:00

and He wants you to express your feelings to Him.

00:51:03

The third thing is ask God for help.

00:51:08

Ask God for help.

00:51:10

Look at what it says in Lamentations 5:21,

00:51:12

Jeremiah says:

00:51:20

You know, I love the song that we sang

00:51:22

at all of our sites this weekend,

00:51:24

O God, my God, I need you.

00:51:26

O God, my God, I need you now.

00:51:29

Like, I love that because it's asking God for help.

00:51:33

It's not saying that we have the pithy answers.

00:51:35

It's not necessarily doing a rote prayer.

00:51:37

Although there's nothing with the rote prayer.

00:51:39

But there's something about just the raw,

00:51:41

honest, "Hey, God, I just need help.

00:51:44

God, I just need you now. I need help."

00:51:47

And we see Jeremiah doing this,

00:51:49

and I think it's really powerful.

00:51:51

Here's what I've learned about asking God for help.

00:51:53

I think God loves it when we are specific.

00:51:57

I think He appreciates it when we're persistent.

00:52:00

And oftentimes He answers in ways that are surprising.

00:52:06

I was thinking about that this week

00:52:08

as I think about loss and people who have left my life.

00:52:12

This is September and October

00:52:14

are interesting months for me because

00:52:18

in both of those months, not in the same year,

00:52:19

but in both of those months, I lost within a close period,

00:52:22

I lost two people that were really, really special to me.

00:52:26

One of them, and some of you may remember her,

00:52:28

her name was Kathy Beecham.

00:52:30

And Kathy Beecham was a leader around Crossroads.

00:52:32

And she was like a spiritual mother to me.

00:52:35

And Kathy's birthday was this week.

00:52:39

And so every, every time when her birthday comes,

00:52:42

it's just an opportunity for me to remember

00:52:43

what she meant to me, what she meant for my life.

00:52:45

And and it's like I miss her, I miss her.

00:52:50

And here's what's interesting.

00:52:52

I've learned this as I've gone through grief

00:52:56

that you lose the person, right?

00:52:59

You can't engage with them in the way that

00:53:01

you could when they were alive and in the flesh.

00:53:03

But you never lose the nuggets

00:53:05

and the imprint that they made on your life.

00:53:08

Does that make sense?

00:53:09

And so, like, I've not had a vision of Kathy since she died.

00:53:13

I haven't, like, engaged with the spirit since.

00:53:15

That's not what I'm saying.

00:53:16

But here's what has happened often.

00:53:19

I've been in a situation where I'm, like,

00:53:22

"Man, I really wish I could have asked Kathy about this."

00:53:26

And God will meet me in that situation,

00:53:29

and He will bring to memory

00:53:31

things that Kathy has said to me.

00:53:33

And I don't know if this happens with you,

00:53:35

but I hear Him in her voice.

00:53:38

I hear her, like, it's just like I remember her voice.

00:53:40

I remember what she sounded like.

00:53:41

Again, nothing, nothing -- This isn't a woo woo thing.

00:53:44

I'm not getting woo woo on you.

00:53:45

I'm just saying, like, this is true.

00:53:47

Another thing is coming up is

00:53:49

the anniversary of my father's passing.

00:53:52

And actually, I didn't know

00:53:53

you were going to be here, Jim.

00:53:55

But we're going to show this picture.

00:53:56

I am so thankful, Jim.

00:53:57

I think this is the best gift you ever gave me,

00:53:59

guy in the front row who took this picture is here.

00:54:02

It's the best gift you ever gave me.

00:54:06

I love this picture for so many reasons.

00:54:08

One of the reasons I love this picture is because

00:54:10

in the same way that my wife was committed

00:54:13

to raising boys that had 64 crayons in their box,

00:54:18

my dad always, always kissed me on the cheek.

00:54:22

He was determined and my dad did not have

00:54:24

that experience in his life.

00:54:26

But he was determined to raise a son who was

00:54:28

comfortable showing affection to his father,

00:54:32

and the father showing affection to his son.

00:54:34

And I do the same thing with my boys.

00:54:35

They hate it, but I'll do it anyway because

00:54:37

I just want them to know it is okay

00:54:40

for your father to kiss you on the cheek.

00:54:41

It is okay for your father to love you

00:54:43

and hug you and snuggle with you, like that is okay.

00:54:46

And so I appreciate that picture.

00:54:48

But same thing with my dad.

00:54:50

There are things that I'm experiencing now

00:54:51

as my boys get older and I'm like, "Oh man,

00:54:54

I wish I could have ran to my dad.

00:54:55

How crazy was I as a teenager?

00:54:57

This would be really helpful to know, like,

00:54:58

what were the boundaries that you needed with me?

00:55:00

And no, I can't. I haven't had a vision of my dad.

00:55:03

No, but I remember the things my dad taught me

00:55:07

and they come to mind.

00:55:09

In fact, sometimes I'm saying things

00:55:11

out of my mouth to my kids and I realize like,

00:55:13

Oh, that was, I'll tell them, like,

00:55:15

"That was Pop-Pop.

00:55:16

Pop-Pop used to say that to me all the time.

00:55:18

I don't know where I pulled that from.

00:55:19

He said that to me when I was 17 years old,

00:55:21

but it came back."

00:55:22

And the reason I'm bringing this up is because

00:55:24

when we ask God for help, I think one of the things

00:55:27

is important, it's not that

00:55:29

the situation necessarily gets fixed.

00:55:32

A loss is a loss, and it will always be a loss.

00:55:34

People who are important to us

00:55:36

will always be important to us.

00:55:37

We will always miss them.

00:55:39

But God has a way of meeting you in your loss

00:55:42

when you lament and when you ask Him for help

00:55:45

that truly is healing.

00:55:48

And I think God wants to do that more.

00:55:50

And so what I see in the life of Jeremiah is,

00:55:53

as he states his complaint honestly before God,

00:55:55

as he expresses his emotions to God,

00:55:57

and as he just asks God for help,

00:55:59

he gets the supernatural thing that only happens

00:56:03

when you're willing to face life's pain with God.

00:56:07

Jeremiah and you, even in the midst of

00:56:10

the hard things in life, can rest in trust.

00:56:14

You can rest in trust.

00:56:16

The book of Lamentations is written

00:56:18

kind of interestingly.

00:56:19

So the first and the last poems.

00:56:22

There are five of them.

00:56:23

The first and the last poems are really

00:56:25

kind of state the complaint, express the emotions.

00:56:28

The second and the fourth are more of

00:56:30

that kind of like, hey, here's what I'm wrestling with.

00:56:32

But the third chapter in the middle of the book

00:56:36

kind of stands as a gem.

00:56:38

You can think about it as a pyramid,

00:56:40

and it's all about God's faithfulness.

00:56:42

It's all about God's faithfulness.

00:56:44

I love that on this side

00:56:46

there is pain and difficulty.

00:56:47

In this side there is grief and loss.

00:56:49

But somewhere in the middle there's a deep root,

00:56:51

a deep stream that will remind us

00:56:54

that we can rest and trust.

00:56:55

Because even in the worst times of our life,

00:56:57

our God is still faithful.

00:56:59

Look at what he says in Jeremiah.

00:57:01

I mean in Lamentations 3:21-24, he says:

00:57:18

He's saying God is enough for me.

00:57:24

There is a place in the midst of grief,

00:57:27

not when you avoid grief, but when you walk through grief,

00:57:30

there is a place of resting in the trust that says,

00:57:32

"God, even though this is hard,

00:57:34

You are still faithful.

00:57:36

Even though this is difficult, I am not alone.

00:57:39

Even though this is challenging, You are with me

00:57:42

and you will strengthen me."

00:57:44

Let me tell you how this came alive this summer for me.

00:57:48

I had the opportunity to go to Montana

00:57:51

for a father/son experience with my younger son.

00:57:54

I did this with my older son a couple years back

00:57:55

and when they turned 13, just really blessed

00:57:57

to be a part of an amazing ministry,

00:57:59

New Frontier Ministries, who does

00:58:01

amazing father/son experiences.

00:58:02

And so I got to do this again with my son Samuel.

00:58:05

And part of this is really helping boys

00:58:07

understand that the way to live is a true man

00:58:11

is to live fully as a beloved Son of God.

00:58:13

And that Jesus, therefore, was the perfect man

00:58:16

because Jesus perfectly lived in the love of God,

00:58:18

and because of that, He was able to live as a full man.

00:58:21

And so we're kind of walking the boys

00:58:22

through sets of experiences and whitewater rafting

00:58:24

and doing all the things. It's super cool.

00:58:26

But I was there this year

00:58:28

and we're doing these conversations,

00:58:30

and one of the conversations was around

00:58:32

how really the way that God forms us.

00:58:34

And I don't think this is just true for men,

00:58:36

but we were talking about it in the context of men.

00:58:38

I think this is true for everybody,

00:58:39

is God forms us in the wilderness.

00:58:43

He forms us when we step out into the adventure,

00:58:45

into the unknown.

00:58:46

Think about every great story that you love.

00:58:49

I mean, isn't that the arc of every great story?

00:58:51

The hero leaves their familiar settings.

00:58:52

They step out into the unknown.

00:58:54

They face challenge after challenge

00:58:55

and difficulty after difficulty.

00:58:56

And it's through those challenges

00:58:58

and those difficulties that they are shaped

00:58:59

and formed into the hero that we know.

00:59:01

And it's the same in our lives.

00:59:03

I think that's why that story resonates

00:59:04

in so many of the films and books that we love.

00:59:07

So we're talking about this and we're talking about how.

00:59:10

So we really want to allow God to grow you,

00:59:12

you've got to be willing to step into the adventure.

00:59:14

And as the guy who's leading this is talking about it,

00:59:17

my inner, like, my heart was just, like, (grunts).

00:59:21

I was resistant. I did not want to hear this.

00:59:25

And the reason I didn't want to hear this

00:59:27

is because I feel like I've been out on the edge

00:59:29

a lot lately and I've been taking bullets

00:59:32

and it sucks.

00:59:33

I don't want to step out on an adventure.

00:59:35

I mean, literally I'm like, "God,

00:59:36

I don't want to do another risky thing, I don't."

00:59:40

And even like my tone was affected.

00:59:42

I'm just like, man, what's going on?

00:59:43

So one of the beautiful things is

00:59:45

it's a beautiful setting, like this.

00:59:48

And so I was literally walking out of the house

00:59:49

and this was -- this wasn't the exact view,

00:59:51

but it was a mountain in the distance,

00:59:53

beautiful plains, just a peaceful view.

00:59:56

And I had some time with God alone.

00:59:58

And in that time I just began to say, "God,

01:00:01

what's going on in my heart? What's going on?"

01:00:06

And I'm journaling this.

01:00:08

And as I'm journaling, it's almost like

01:00:10

God took over the pen.

01:00:12

And what began to be written felt like it was from God.

01:00:16

And God said, "The reason that it's been hard

01:00:17

for you to receive this call to adventure

01:00:20

is because this is the first time

01:00:22

you've stopped this year

01:00:23

and let yourself lament the losses."

01:00:26

And so I literally, it was almost like

01:00:28

God gave me back the pen.

01:00:29

And I remember I wrote down 12 things,

01:00:30

12 things that were hard,

01:00:31

12 disappointments this year,

01:00:33

just these things that have been so painful

01:00:35

for me to walk through.

01:00:37

And the only way I can describe how I felt

01:00:40

on the other side of that opportunity

01:00:42

to lament with God is, you know,

01:00:44

when you have a drain that's been clogged

01:00:46

with too much hair and like before you unplug it,

01:00:49

like, it's just nothing's getting through, right?

01:00:52

You know? But then when you have a chance

01:00:53

to de-clog that thing and you pull it out,

01:00:55

man, it just flows, right?

01:00:58

And that was what it was like.

01:00:59

It was like, man, everything in me

01:01:00

that was kind of like resistant,

01:01:02

not able to receive from God.

01:01:04

Oh my gosh, my heart opened up, my heart expanded.

01:01:07

And not only was I able to be a better father

01:01:10

to my son that week, but I got to be a son

01:01:13

who was loved by his Father that week.

01:01:15

It was so needed for me.

01:01:18

But the pathway to that was

01:01:20

I had to sit with God in the pain.

01:01:24

And I think that's what Jesus is inviting you to do.

01:01:27

I think that's what Jesus is inviting us to do,

01:01:28

is to be people who sit with Him in our pain.

01:01:32

Look at what Jesus says in revelation 3:20, He says:

01:01:46

The most intimate thing you could do

01:01:48

when those words were written was sit down

01:01:50

and have a one on one meal with someone.

01:01:51

It was an act of intimacy.

01:01:54

And maybe you're in here today

01:01:55

and you're living on the high, life's good,

01:01:58

things are rolling.

01:01:59

And somebody asks you how you're doing.

01:02:01

And you say, "I'm doing great."

01:02:02

It's true. It's really how you're doing it.

01:02:05

But maybe you're in here and it's not your honest answer.

01:02:10

Maybe you've experienced a loss.

01:02:11

Maybe life is just hard.

01:02:14

Maybe you're just slogging through

01:02:16

and you're like, "I want joy.

01:02:18

I don't know when I'm going to have joy again."

01:02:22

I want you to know, wherever you are,

01:02:25

Jesus is knocking at the door of your heart.

01:02:28

There's an invitation that He has for you.

01:02:32

And the invitation is if you open the door,

01:02:35

if you will sit with Me in the real pain

01:02:38

and the real difficulty, wherever you are in your life,

01:02:42

I will come and I will give you more of Myself.

01:02:45

I will give you more of My love.

01:02:47

I will give you more of M

01:02:49

y insight. I will give you more of My comfort.

01:02:51

I will give you what you need.

01:02:53

So my challenge to you this week

01:02:55

is to get all up in your feelings with God.

01:03:00

With God.

01:03:01

And so here's what we're going to do.

01:03:02

On the screen I got an exercise

01:03:05

and I'm going to invite you to do.

01:03:06

Sometime this week I'm going to ask you

01:03:08

to carve out 30 to 60 minutes

01:03:11

and actually practice this.

01:03:14

And so what that's going to look like is,

01:03:15

and I would say for this to, you know, to work,

01:03:19

I find it's best if you have a journal

01:03:23

or some paper, something to write with

01:03:26

and something where you can search the internet.

01:03:29

I'll tell you why.

01:03:32

So what you're going to do is

01:03:34

start your journal with a prayer to God

01:03:36

that is stating your complaint.

01:03:38

You're just going to say, "God, here are

01:03:39

the specific things that I'm wrestling with."

01:03:41

And I would say pick one thing.

01:03:43

Maybe it's a relationship that is broken.

01:03:47

Maybe it's a disappointment that happened recently.

01:03:49

Pick one thing and go deep with God on that one thing.

01:03:53

Maybe take five minutes, ten minutes

01:03:54

just to begin to journal. State your complaint.

01:03:57

Then next, express your emotions.

01:04:00

If you Google feelings wheel, this will come up.

01:04:05

And I want to encourage you to do that.

01:04:07

Print it out, keep it on your phone,

01:04:10

and I want you to go deeper.

01:04:12

What are the five, six emotions that are really

01:04:14

how you're feeling about that specific situation?

01:04:17

Don't hold back.

01:04:19

And then ask God for help.

01:04:22

Think about it this way.

01:04:23

If it was a conversation, and I believe

01:04:24

prayer is a conversation with God,

01:04:26

what would you -- How would you respond

01:04:28

if God said to you after you state your complaint,

01:04:30

after you express your emotions?

01:04:31

If God said, what do you want me to do for you?

01:04:33

How would you answer that question?

01:04:35

Write it down. Write it down.

01:04:38

And then I want you to take an opportunity

01:04:40

to rest in trust.

01:04:42

What does that look like?

01:04:43

Find truths in the Bible that relate

01:04:45

to the thing you're struggling with.

01:04:46

And that's where I think it's helpful if you have

01:04:48

an ability to search the internet.

01:04:50

You can do this on your Bible app.

01:04:51

Some of you know how to use the tools in your Bible

01:04:53

to find verses that are related to different subjects.

01:04:55

Or maybe you have one of those study Bibles

01:04:57

and it has a list of like, hey,

01:04:58

if you're dealing with this, look at these verses.

01:05:00

But this is what you want to do.

01:05:02

Let's say if you're dealing with disappointment,

01:05:04

I would say put in the search Bible verses on disappointment.

01:05:08

Find one of them that speaks to you.

01:05:10

Write it in your journal.

01:05:13

Maybe it's verses on handling anxiety.

01:05:18

Put that in the search.

01:05:19

Find a verse that speaks to you.

01:05:21

Write it in your journal.

01:05:22

This is a very tangible, tactile way

01:05:25

to get up in your feelings with God.

01:05:28

And then I want you to finish by just sitting in quiet,

01:05:32

just being present with God and being open

01:05:35

to what He wants to say to you.

01:05:37

This exercise is not about fixing something.

01:05:41

This exercise is about you experiencing

01:05:43

the presence of God.

01:05:46

And I think God wants to show up in a powerful way

01:05:48

if you're willing to do this.

01:05:49

So I invite you to stand wherever you are.

01:05:51

We're going to sing the song

01:05:53

at all of our sites that we started with,

01:05:55

or the song that we ended with, I should say,

01:05:57

The Same God.

01:05:58

Maybe for you, this song can be an entryway

01:06:01

into this time of lament.

01:06:04

You can go to Spotify.

01:06:06

If you look up Same God, you'll find this song.

01:06:08

Maybe you want to start that time,

01:06:09

that 30 to 60 minutes listening to this song again,

01:06:12

letting that be a place that grounds you

01:06:13

as you step into this exercise, this time with God.

01:06:16

I believe God's going to show up.

01:06:17

I believe God's going to speak to you.

01:06:19

I believe God's going to comfort you.

01:06:22

Maybe you'll experience Him in a way

01:06:23

that you never have before.

01:06:26

So, God, I pray that as we do this,

01:06:27

as we get ready to not just hear this Word,

01:06:32

but to do it this week, that we would find it to be true,

01:06:38

that you are the same God.

01:06:39

You're the same God that comforted Elijah.

01:06:42

You're the same God that comforted Job.

01:06:43

You're the same God that comforted Jeremiah.

01:06:45

You are the same God, and you will comfort us.

01:06:49

I pray this in Jesus's name. Amen. Let's sing.

01:06:57

- Let's sing this with honesty,

01:06:59

with openness to the Lord.

01:08:53

- One last scripture for you.

01:08:55

Jesus says this in Matthew 5:4, He says:

01:08:58

Blessed are those who mourn,

01:09:01

for they will be comforted.

01:09:03

Comforted by who?

01:09:05

I think there's a way in which we get comforted

01:09:07

by the community of believers.

01:09:09

I think that's true.

01:09:11

But I also think there's something more powerful,

01:09:14

maybe even more personal.

01:09:16

We get to be comforted by the presence of God Himself.

01:09:19

A.W. Tozer, a great writer and thinker, put it this way.

01:09:22

He said if we will exalt the places of pain in our life,

01:09:25

we are in the best position to encounter

01:09:28

the fragrance of the presence of God.

01:09:30

I love that. [applause]

01:09:34

And my prayer for you this week would be that

01:09:36

you would not just see God or sense God,

01:09:39

but that you would smell God,

01:09:42

that you would encounter the fragrance of God.

01:09:46

We have people who are going to be down front.

01:09:48

If there's something in your life and you're like,

01:09:50

"Hey, I love prayer right now," you can come down to the front.

01:09:52

We'll invite you to do that.

01:09:54

Otherwise, I want to bless you on your way

01:09:56

and we will see you next week

01:09:58

when we celebrate with those who celebrate.

01:10:00

Hope you can make it!

01:10:03

- Hey, thanks so much for joining us today.

01:10:05

Now, I say this all the time, basically weekly,

01:10:07

but Crossroads is a church that

01:10:08

you can belong to no matter where you live.

01:10:10

And we love that you're watching

01:10:12

and we want you to know that when you're ready,

01:10:14

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01:10:16

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We'd love to pray with you, pray for you,

01:10:19

and to get to know you by name.

01:10:21

I actually just had a story this week

01:10:23

where there's a small group of people

01:10:24

who've been meeting together for years,

01:10:26

and once a year, once a year, they get together

01:10:28

from all over the country in one city

01:10:30

to connect as a part of Crossroads.

01:10:32

Felicia, it was awesome to get to meet

01:10:34

you and your small group this week.

01:10:36

And if you haven't done so yet,

01:10:38

we'd love to connect with you.

01:10:39

You can just text Anywhere to 301301

01:10:42

and the Crossroads team and I would love

01:10:43

to get to know you, get to reach out to you,

01:10:45

and send you a free gift to welcome you

01:10:48

as part of our Crossroads community.

01:10:50

Hey, one last thing before you go.

01:10:52

As Brian and Chuck talked about earlier,

01:10:54

we have some really exciting things coming up

01:10:55

in our church with the 10X Push

01:10:57

and The Revival at Base Camp.

01:10:59

For the 10X Push, you're going to want

01:11:01

one of these custom printed guidebooks.

01:11:03

They follow along with the teachings

01:11:05

and include personal exercises and content

01:11:07

to help you grow each week.

01:11:08

So right now, go to crossroads.net/Anywhere

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and scan the QR code on your screen

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to sign up for a guidebook.

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Seriously, do it right now.

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We have to get these in the mail

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And they are totally free,

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So go sign up for one

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If you live near a Crossroads building,

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you can just grab one there

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as we get closer to starting The Push.

01:11:31

And we really hope to see you at

01:11:33

The Revival at Base Camp next month in Neville, Ohio.

01:11:36

We want to see personal revival in all of us,

01:11:39

and we're hoping and expecting for that to happen.

01:11:41

Hey, thanks for joining us.

01:11:42

We'll see you right here next week.

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